Thanks so much for your advice. I think I can definitely say those points that you mentioned. And you’re right about showing his appreciation and that it’s give and take. Thank you!
The first best girlfriend, there was no need whatsoever to even make that kind of comment about in the first place. Usually guys that are in love and respect their girlfriends don’t blurt out that their friend is the most beautiful thing on the planet, unless they are a special kind of moron. The second girl, she DID ask and that was on her. He did not affirm or deny, but for some moronic reason he decided it would be a marvelous idea to tell his gf he use to try to date her. A piece of info she could have lived without. And now he’s on a 4 day vacation with the most beautiful girl on the planet getting fucked up wasted every night with. Most normal people, including beautiful people who are in long term committed relationships would have a big issue with this.
I don’t see anyone here claiming people should not have attractive friends. A lot of people have attractive friends, but they don’t swoon all about them, talk about their past glories of trying date one of them, or go stay with one for days on end drinking like fish; which is an issue here. If your friend makes you have butterflies in your stomach or makes you horny and you are in a committed relationship, you should probably consider some boundaries to help quell temptation.
My sister went through this exact scenario with a “corn fed Christian boy!” As her new husband!
Well he got more into weirder and literally shameful porn as she cared for their children and did everything she could through counseling and him “quitting” porn..
He’s never did. He stopped having sex with her all together because he said my sister was “gross” which she never was!!!
Now she has a new boyfriend and they are swingers and she is just happy to let someone not make her feel bad about wearing butt plugs and being able to eat out girls when they hook up with other couples!!
Thanks so much for your advice. I think I can definitely say those points that you mentioned. And you’re right about showing his appreciation and that it’s give and take. Thank you!
Is it safe to say you want to spend more with him?
The first best girlfriend, there was no need whatsoever to even make that kind of comment about in the first place. Usually guys that are in love and respect their girlfriends don’t blurt out that their friend is the most beautiful thing on the planet, unless they are a special kind of moron. The second girl, she DID ask and that was on her. He did not affirm or deny, but for some moronic reason he decided it would be a marvelous idea to tell his gf he use to try to date her. A piece of info she could have lived without. And now he’s on a 4 day vacation with the most beautiful girl on the planet getting fucked up wasted every night with. Most normal people, including beautiful people who are in long term committed relationships would have a big issue with this.
I don’t see anyone here claiming people should not have attractive friends. A lot of people have attractive friends, but they don’t swoon all about them, talk about their past glories of trying date one of them, or go stay with one for days on end drinking like fish; which is an issue here. If your friend makes you have butterflies in your stomach or makes you horny and you are in a committed relationship, you should probably consider some boundaries to help quell temptation.
It will only get worse!!
My sister went through this exact scenario with a “corn fed Christian boy!” As her new husband!
Well he got more into weirder and literally shameful porn as she cared for their children and did everything she could through counseling and him “quitting” porn..
He’s never did. He stopped having sex with her all together because he said my sister was “gross” which she never was!!!
Now she has a new boyfriend and they are swingers and she is just happy to let someone not make her feel bad about wearing butt plugs and being able to eat out girls when they hook up with other couples!!
Anything can happen with your life!!
My parents have a 14 year age gap and they’ve been married over 30 years.