This. Please do not beat yourself up or worry that she still loves him. She doesn't.
I dated someone for 9 years who didn't want to marry me. I got a ring eventually but then he showed no interest in taking it further, cut a long story short we went our separate ways.
If I watched that person meet someone and get married in less than a year, I would feel extra sour over the way I wasted my twenties on somebody that wasn't sure about me. I'd feel like I was not good enough to be married to. My self esteem would be taking a hit.
Your other half is probably feeling resentful and like she was not enough after 9 years, I think that would hurt anybody's self esteem whether they are over the person or not.
This. Please do not beat yourself up or worry that she still loves him. She doesn't.
I dated someone for 9 years who didn't want to marry me. I got a ring eventually but then he showed no interest in taking it further, cut a long story short we went our separate ways.
If I watched that person meet someone and get married in less than a year, I would feel extra sour over the way I wasted my twenties on somebody that wasn't sure about me. I'd feel like I was not good enough to be married to. My self esteem would be taking a hit.
Your other half is probably feeling resentful and like she was not enough after 9 years, I think that would hurt anybody's self esteem whether they are over the person or not.
Your girlfriend sounds like an idiot.
Do with that what you will.