OP, it seems like this issue has been going on for 11 years. Also it seems like your husband doesn't know how to let things go, there is no point of arguing with someone who is not willing to move on from the past. It looks like you guys are in this vicious cycle. It's almost what insanity look like, doing the same thing over and over again but expecting different results each time. It's time for both of you to go on your separate ways. 11 years is long enough, don't waste any more of your time.
i know that logically you're right but i don't think my heart will let me throw away months of good for a few weeks of bad
OP, it seems like this issue has been going on for 11 years. Also it seems like your husband doesn't know how to let things go, there is no point of arguing with someone who is not willing to move on from the past. It looks like you guys are in this vicious cycle. It's almost what insanity look like, doing the same thing over and over again but expecting different results each time. It's time for both of you to go on your separate ways. 11 years is long enough, don't waste any more of your time.