I used to have a partner who did this, yes this is absolutely grounds for breaking up and if you don't he'll just keep doing it and it will drive you crazy.
Could it also be the OP thinking of it as an investment and that stuff doesn’t matter? He could be thinking they’ll buy a different house down the road together but wants to build his equity. As the gf should have a say in the living situation, I know plenty of men and women who have done just that in relationships where the gf/bf has no financial say and realize it’s not a “permanent” living situation. They could either sell the house to fund a new “family” home or rent the first for income.
Flowers are nice. I don't think it would hurt to tell her your hopes but also leave it up to her. Just tell her that you'd really like to work things out and this is this last effort you will make as you are not about to be a stalker. No response will be taken as her telling you to leave her alone. No mixed messages, no games. You are willing to do the work, if she is too, then she can get in touch. Otherwise, it's time to walk away.
Imagine you have a dog and one day it steals your dinner from your table. Then when you scold it he bites your hand.
Instead of realizing this dog isn't going to be safe and a good fit for a family you spend the next 11 days trying to rub his belly to reward him for biting you in the first place.
That's you right now.
Delete and block your BF. Change your profile to single, go find a new BF. It's over or needs to be.
If he comes back tell him after a week of him ignoring you that you assumed yourself single and made it so.
You know what, thats a good question
INFO: OP, do you plan on not being in a relationship the next 3 months, or are you intending on immediately getting into a new one?
I used to have a partner who did this, yes this is absolutely grounds for breaking up and if you don't he'll just keep doing it and it will drive you crazy.
Info:what’s keeping the relationship long distance
Could it also be the OP thinking of it as an investment and that stuff doesn’t matter? He could be thinking they’ll buy a different house down the road together but wants to build his equity. As the gf should have a say in the living situation, I know plenty of men and women who have done just that in relationships where the gf/bf has no financial say and realize it’s not a “permanent” living situation. They could either sell the house to fund a new “family” home or rent the first for income.
Flowers are nice. I don't think it would hurt to tell her your hopes but also leave it up to her. Just tell her that you'd really like to work things out and this is this last effort you will make as you are not about to be a stalker. No response will be taken as her telling you to leave her alone. No mixed messages, no games. You are willing to do the work, if she is too, then she can get in touch. Otherwise, it's time to walk away.
Imagine you have a dog and one day it steals your dinner from your table. Then when you scold it he bites your hand.
Instead of realizing this dog isn't going to be safe and a good fit for a family you spend the next 11 days trying to rub his belly to reward him for biting you in the first place.
That's you right now.
Delete and block your BF. Change your profile to single, go find a new BF. It's over or needs to be.
If he comes back tell him after a week of him ignoring you that you assumed yourself single and made it so.