0 views
masturbation/cum [252 tokens remaining]
Date: October 26, 2022
The ad code is not a valid HTML code.
Fix the ad code in the Theme options.
Fix the ad code in the Theme options.
Would you rather feel guilty or be dead
Damn dude! You left some serious shit outta your post. No wonder you feel this way. Your gf sucks and is being an ah to you. Definitely break up with her.
They extrapolate from testing a random sample of the population. But if anything, they’ll get an underestimate.
It just depends on the person. There are 4 different attachment styles and you kinda need to know which kind of person your boyfriend is to understand why information must be presented differently to him than to someone else. There is no universal way to share critic and garner acceptance, and often it is due to you tailoring a message that is at odds with how your person interacts with the world.
i love that you’re really emphasizing the importance of consent and that you’re trying to figure out how to best do this so you don’t do something you’re worried could hurt your gf. having her sign a contract though doesn’t do anything but suggests that if she said “not right now” you’d be quick to jump to the contract and point out that it was okay, which may be part why she was upset. instead why not suggest she leaves a specific item on a specific counter for when she is open to it, and then the balls in your court for if tn is the night or if you’re going to have her wait. maybe you guys could also do some research together on safe words and consensual non consent to figure out what works best for you both
Im sorry its a weird friendship, he was 22 started a friendship with a 14 year old & kept it going for 5 years. Like what did a 14 & a 22 have in common to be texting each other.
if you feel uncomfortable then you feel uncomfortable, he knows you are but still continues this friendship.
Yea… I expected more like a slow break up on better terms. I didn’t know about this till today
?
She flirted with your boyfriend. Even tho your boyfriend wasn't returning it, it's still not okay of her to do.
If your bf did allow it, your 'friend' would've definitely gone for it and let him cheat on you. And you would've been mad at both, right? But now, because your bf didn't go with it, you're still doubting if you should talk to her and keep being her friend.
My advice: don't.
I'm not going to comment on who you should side with etc as others have already told you that and it's pretty clear but I will offer you my experience.
I am not welcome at my in-laws and haven't been for a while now. That's fine, I understand it is their home and their rules, to be honest I don't like spending time there so it's no skin off my nose. My wife still goes to see her family, I would never stop her from doing so and I always ask how they are etc.
BUT if my wife ever came to me and said her family would be ok with me going back if I just asked if I was allowed in then that's a big no from me. They made the choice and I respect it, I am not going to go begging/asking to be let in. It is their home, they would need to invite me.
My in-laws aren't the type to play power games but it seems your dad is, have you considered what happens if your husband were to ask and your dad says no?
u/broccoliisgood, it looks like you're trying to post a throwaway submission. Your account is too young and/or your comment karma is too low.
The right way to do it is to create a brand new Reddit account that begins with ThrowRA.
Please create a new account that starts with ThrowRA in the username and try again. Please note that we will not make exceptions to this rule.
I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns.
LMFAO YO FUCK THIS GUY. And STOP APOLOGIZING AND FEELING GUILTY FOR DOING WHAT IS YOUR RIGHT TO DO FOR YOURSELF.
Edit: ABORT THIS LOSER
Sound like he views you as a possession. One that's been tainted and he's ashamed of. This is not on you and it sucks that you had to learn this about him now but future you will thank yourself if you walk away with your head high before he destroys the rest of your confidence and self-esteem to keep you trapped under his control.
This is a tough one. The trust that you had will be lost forever. You would be within your right to demand access to his email, phone, instant messenger accounts.
If it was just sex and fantasy staying is a maybe. You dont have kids, you could start over.
Remindme! 2 days
u/fairywhiskers, it looks like you're trying to post a throwaway submission. Your account is too young and/or your comment karma is too low.
The right way to do it is to create a brand new Reddit account that begins with ThrowRA.
Please create a new account that starts with ThrowRA in the username and try again. Please note that we will not make exceptions to this rule.
I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns.
Hello /u/Scared-Check6908,
Your post was removed for the following reason(s):
Your title did not include at least two ages/genders or was not formatted correctly
Posts must:
include details about the involved parties including ages, genders, and length of relationship, and
request advice in real situations involving two or more people
We are enforcing the two rules listed above by making all titles start with ages/genders in the following format:
[##X][##X], [## X][## X], or [##-X][##-X] where ## is the age and X is the gender (currently M, F, T, A, NB, FTM, MTF but more can be added). You can have more than two ages/genders listed, but you must have at least two at the beginning of your title. Here is an example:
[34NB][88-F] We are two people in an example post
Please resubmit with a corrected title.
I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns.
stop ur husband doesnt want you to be very hot on the internet would you let your mother do it? would you expect your father to be okay with it? how do you think your kids if you have any would react? are you setting a good example? your husband is 100 percent right u just wanna be dumb
Run. He only wants children if he can have complete control over your time and finances. The children are a bargaining chip to get you to give up any way out of that marriage. Do not marry him.
And babies injuries too!
Go on the Jerry Springer show.
Calling myself beautiful makes me immature? You ok?
Spoken like a true groomer.
Your logic is wrong. If your son assaults you, yes, you should stay away from him. Stay away from abusive people. Nice people are fine, but if you aren't sure of the difference, then you should avoid relationships.
Doesn't have to be a pattern
He should've kept the wedding date and married the love of his life, his brother.
I think the universe is trying to tell you something. I did read the entirety of your post because the first half was enough reason not to tether yourself to this man and his family. You will never truly come first and they will constantly trigger your own past trauma and stop on boundaries. Don't do this to yourself.
She could have done a million other things. She could have gone to someone else to help her out of the situation, she could have locked herself in her room, she could have called you before and not after she got railed by a coworker. When I was in that situation, instead of fuckin' the dude, I called my fucking husband. She has no excuses. None. Fucking the guy to get him to shut up was literally the last thing on the list of solutions that she should have tried. All I'm getting from this is that she's having some serious post nut clarity and realizing what a dumbass she is.
To the streets with her.
She doesn’t hate you. She just hates, mindlessly.
I dont remember ever watching those so I don't know what you're talking about.
Stay no contact with him. He cheated in you and then tried to get a pass by threatening suicide. He needs therapy. This is not a person you want in your life. It will be a constant circus of betrayal and suicide threats if you give in.
You didnt discuss this? I think its time for you to move on. Shes clearly shown her needs and youve put in effort to better yourself. It does not sound like she cares about your feelings, efforts and the relationship.
Don’t offer to launder his jacket anyway.
What I hear you're saying is that you are hurt that he might think you would trick him into having a child with you?
I think I would approach it that way. Tell him what I saw and say I was a bit hurt because I assume he did it for this reason. And I would never do that. Maybe this would calm him down a bit too, you know, it's a shame too if he feels nervous for no reason.
You know that in the long term there will never be trust! Do TRUST YOUR GUT! You know the answer because your here! So move, on why would you want her when you are only her second string in reality? She has told you she has a roving eye?
I was 19 if that helps
This is a good lesson in learning to stand your ground in conversation OP. You should have just said “yep, I’m a little jealous, thanks for unfollowing.”
I think you just need to let it go. Following people on social media doesn’t mean anything anyway.
Yeah he kept saying he was relieved and glad I didnt want one. I feel like I also left the door open for the possibillity by saying maybe in the future, but as of late I have been left on delievered for 3 almost 4 days, while he checks my snapchat.. a very weird situation.
still trying to figure that out honestly! we joke a lot and sometimes yes he is dead pan but this felt… different
This post has reached one of our comment/karma limits. The text of the post has been preserved below.
I have been dating my gf for about 8 months now, and things are going well for the most time. We normally meet once for dinner during the weekdays and then spend the weekend together. But the last time I saw my gf was 2 weeks ago and since then my gf has not wanted to see me because “she needs some space”. The reason she needs the space is because she was hit really very hot by the news of her ex getting married.
She dated her for 9 years, from the age of 18 to 27. From what she has told me they broke up because they were not on the same page about the future of the relationship. My gf wanted to get married and he never wanted to get married. So eventually they broke up. Its almost been 4 years since they broke up. I never even suspected my gf might still be having feelings for him, but after watching her strong reaction to his marriage I cant be so sure of that. They guy is getting married to someone he has dated for less than a year, and yes its weird but I dont think it really deserves that much of a reaction. Unless she is still in love with him.
I am at a loss on how to proceed Reddit. Any advice will be appreciated.
Edit/Update- I have decided to breakup with her. But I will wait two more weeks before telling her, hopefully she will be in a better headspace by then.
Telling her would be the way I’d go. I would want to know if I were in her shoes.
Amen. When I was 22/23 I could barely wipe my own ass, proverbially speaking.
You really need to get therapy. There's plenty of places that offer it on a sliding scale fee.
I'm glad it helped. 🙂
I actually took one a couple of days ago and another one yesterday, so I'm 99% sure that I'm not pregnant? I first told him about the late period just as a health status update and told him that it's because I'm ill. His immediate reaction was to get aggressive and assume that I imply that he got me pregnant so I decided to observe his reaction
But holy fuck, just typing this all out helped me to see that she has such a repeating pattern of negative behavior that change isn’t likely. I’d have to accept this would happen again and again. I deserve better than that. I haven’t even posted this yet but thank you all for the advice!
Hey, good for you! I frequently wonder if people have actually read the things they've written down, because you'll see posts start with “my partner is wonderful” and then later “so my partner stole my car, used it to run over my dog and my grandma, then set my house on fire…are any of these things red flags” and I'm always just gobsmacked that they had to ask. Good on you for actually thinking about this as you wrote it and realizing the obvious.
Your fiance has done this repeatedly. She has no remorse beyond being upset that she was caught, and even that she's trying to twist around and blame on you. Everything about her behavior is both deeply manipulative and incredibly dishonest. You've had to catch her, multiple times, and every time she's tried to deny and deflect until it became impossible to do so any further. She is not going to change, and she is going to continue letting her ex destroy her relationships. You're wise to get out when you did, and it was good of you to give her parents a heads up so they can keep an eye on her mental health.
Don't doubt yourself, stay strong, and by the way that's an amazing proposal. Sorry it was wasted on someone who didn't appreciate what they have this time, but hopefully next time it will go to someone deserving.
Ugh don’t waste your time with men like this. He’s emotionally immature. That’s it. And that’s not going to change, he’s 29 and acting like that? He sounds 16. A man who is in touch with his feelings and is emotionally immature is going to act the exact opposite. Date this idiot if you want to, but you’ve been warned.
Just because he’s not well adjusted doesn’t mean he’s a predator. Compatibility is determined by one’s stage and experiences in life, not their age itself. Say you have an 20 yr old male who has no kids and no serious long term relationships. He goes on a date with 2 women- one is 38 has never been married and is childless. The other is 20 also but has 2 kids with her high school boyfriend. Chances are he’d be able to relate to the 38 yr old better despite the age gap. Because they’re in a similar stage of life in a lot of ways. Just curious, if OP was the older one would you have the same reaction?
Oh, so he was just using you as a place to dump his shame for violating his religious beliefs. Honestly not surprised. My super religious ex treated me the same way. Had a ton of shame about sex, even within marriage, and instead of handling it like an adult, he just shoved it all on me. Didn't want to deal with it. I was a convenient scapegoat.
Op, go to the infidelity sub. Don't let anyone on here make you feel bad for being reasonably suspicious of something that's suspicious.
Thank you!
If you get back with her
You will probably regret it. You may develop resentment issues. She will probably make the rest of your relationship/life hell.
You've seen this film and you've read this story before. You know how it ends. Move on
It shows the absolutely opposite of him caring for her. He clearly has decided that what she wants and needs is utterly irrelevant when it comes to his precious sperm
He is treating her like a voiceless, rightsless, wants and needsless incubator who he has decided that she is going to ge
Is your ex getting married already? Or are you just anticipating that it would happen eventually one day?
It says a lot about his character that he suggests you can just get rid of a cat! Very strange behaviour.
You’re in danger. Do not go meet this man. Block him on everything.
Did I say I expected him to pay for things all of the time? No? I've never asked him for money once the entire time we've been together but right now I'm struggling and he has a lot more than me. I need to fix these things in my home so I can sell and we can get a mortgage together (Which he also wants) but he doesn't see it as anything to do with our future together.
So… it’s really not the just Pilates class you like, but the undeniably very attractive instructor who wears sexy gym attires and is very attentive to you during class since apparently all other Pilates instructors are just…duds?
Idk man you probably short yourself in the foot a bit when you started hyping up the instructor more than the class. Reassure your girlfriend she’s the only one for you and the person you chose to be with. Tell her why you like the class (not the instructor) and how much you enjoy spending that time together as a couple. Leave out the part where you think the instructor is very hot and wears “sexy” gym attire.
Yeah but kids also tend to be dramatic. But, like you said, it's less so if you start early.
I pranked my kids with brussel sprouts “cake pops” my toddler just ate his and looked quizzically at his siblings ?? he loves brussel sprouts and asks for seconds now. He's 4
My older two got a little spoiled by their dad, he gets them every other weekend & it's a little more challenging now that they are 13 & 15. They don't HAVE to eat everything I cool, but they can't be disrespectful and can't have snacks after dinner.
How long does it take?!? Until hell freezes over!!! I’d never get someone’s tattoo on me. What if we break up?
I don’t trying to be rude but I’m going to be honest; are you stupid? He cheated. Why do you give a fuck if he thinks you’re disloyal?
I have, he just gets defensive and turns it around on me. Which is frustrating, it becomes my fault and I always am the one who seems to end up apologizing.
i hope he leaves u and u get nothing. all this was was u trying to justify ur actions like he’s to blame for ur infidelity.it angers me beyond belief.
He lied because he didn’t want to hurt you. That means he knows that his actions hurt you.
Who intentionally hurts his wife?
I never saw him with a wedding ring tho and he lives with his dad. We often had Zoom calls (to study tgt) until past midnight to do our assignments tgt, and we'd talk from time to time during those calls. He shared his screen, so I could tell that he's around all along. To my knowledge, he doesn't online with her. If he does, we had daily calls for months, so IDK why she hasn't found out yet. IDK. But his wallpaper with her does look like a pre-wed pic, and he has told me that he's not engaged. Earlier in our friendship, he did say he has no gf. So, I guess that makes sense to a certain extent. Can't say much tho.
You didn’t dodge a bullet, you dodged a nuke. Or at least a woman who’s not afraid of nukes.
COVID isn’t “over,” but it’s under control. So disagreements about it and the vaccine are just that. “Agree to disagree.” Whatever. But defending the Russian invasion? If she’s not joking, she’s just…. flat out fucking STUPID. If Russia takes Ukraine, who’s next? Poland. That’s where NATO steps in and Putin, knowing he has not a fucking chance against NATO, whips out the nukes, backed by China and North Korea. Christ, forget WW3, can’t have a world war if all of civilization is wiped out in the first week of the “war.” Give Interpol’s sharp shooters this woman’s home address and daily schedule. Humanity is counting on you, OP!
I 100 percent agree with you, she has told her friend to have sex with me while she wasn't home but we both declined the offer from my partner and have the respect to keep it as it started (only as 3)
It's descriptive and flows well overall. A few points of the narrative are a bit rushed, like the sudden text from the hockey coach. But those are minor issues that can easily be edited out and a good learning experience for future manuscripts.
I'm pretty far from “assuming the worst”, that would be something like thinking she is still in love with her Ex, which is possible but not necessarily the case.
Do I think she's got unresolved hangups she might need therapy for? Yes, an extreme emotional response doesn't come out of nowhere.
Do I think she's ready for a relationship if her Ex makes her this upset? Not really no, and I wouldn't want to be involved with somebody who is moved to tears over an Ex getting married. Talk about feeling like plan B lol.
This is not necessarily true. I lived in a big house in Fairfax County VA, very expensive. One roommate was a divorced buddy who was a dentist and another was a new anesthesiologist.
Your boyfriend is an asshole. He's fucked up, probably because he was raised by parents who fought in this way when he was younger. That is not an excuse, though. It is absolutely NOT justified or acceptable. Verbal and emotional abuse are never ok. Leave him and find someone who ACTUALLY loves you, instead of this loser asshole who just TELLS you he loves you. He's not going to change if you stay with him.
Honestly having a job keeps me sane. I take the oldest to daycare and they take him to school, and the youngest goes to a day home. So basically it's just the weekend, which is a lot and my biggest stressor.
Being able to stop on the way home to pick up a grocery order has changed my life!!
I don’t know what you plan to discuss with him based off these comments, but I hope you’re not listening to those that say to dump him.
Look, this thought process was something of his that happened in the past. He is with you now, loves you, and is choosing to marry you. He shouldn’t have been talking about this to his friend and it sucks that you saw that.
You aren’t going to be in your 20s forever, and over time you will be with a caring partner who is with you for you, not because of your looks. You are going to want that at 60, 70, 80s.
If you can’t get past this, you need therapy, but I do not think you should make any rash decisions until you seriously think through how important this is to you.
This is so weird. Of course you can’t agree. It’s such a limitless request. What he should have done is said what he wants from his child’s education.
Was he pushed too much by his parents as a kid? Did he attend somewhere he wasn’t protected or hated, like a boarding school or sent to a strict school? It sounds like he’s got something he’s panicked about and instead of opening up to you has wanted to put a stop in that part, like a pin that says I will control this so it won’t happen again,
I wish I had some constructive advice but I simply wouldn't tolerate it these days. I was married at a young to someone incredibly disrespectful like this. Unfortunately it turned physical some years down the line after kids were involved. I managed to leave eventually and am now married to an amazing man who is the polar opposite.
Its absolutely disgusting, dirty, disrespectful, degrading and just plain wrong. You are young, she has shown major disrespect and in a committed relationship respect and trust are essential. Have a long think about whether you want to stay and potentially have it happen again, or worse. You don't have to put up with this.
Was she weird at all after that wedding? Sounds weird. Or did she talk about the wedding at all or give sparse details?
I'm so glad you broke up with “CRazy,” but stay alert… there's definitely something unhinged with her, and although she's pre-scary now, she might tip to a stalker or something.
If she was with an experienced guy before should she not know some moves etc to show him? I kinda feel like she's just going to be a starfish.
Boyfriend banking on girlfriend to financially support him forever. This boy needs a coming to Jesus on his finances or have a very good prenup if this relationship continues. Stay the course and get YOURSELF what you want, and maybe reconsider the relationship since he’s just going to dig himself deeper into debt.
“The States” is like “the EU”, vast and with very different lifestyles in different regions. So unless he's going into one of our major, crime ridden cities he can probably have a reasonably decent experience. Life in the US does require a bit more thought to things like staying covered for medical insurance, etc. But if he's moving with a job he likely has that covered. All anyone can say to you is that once he gets moved you should make a few visits to see if you could handle living wherever he'll be living. Do be advised that the US doesn't offer non marital domestic partner dependent visas. So if you do decide you want to try to join him you'll either hav to qualify for a work visa on your own merits or be married to him so he can sponsor you. Good luck
This guy super duper stinks. You know that right? He is not worth this trouble.
I might talk to my supervisor and see if he has anything for me. Thank you so much, this comment was very helpful!
I suspect she already wanted to break up with you and this happened to be a good excuse to do so.
To be clear though, there's nothing wrong with her wanting to hang out with just her friends. I know you said you wanted to meet them, but you've only been together 3 and a half months. To me, that's way too early to be offended that she's not prioritizing you meeting them.