You apologize. You admit your mistake(s). You take ownership. You do this at earliest possible time not looking for the perfect window nor expecting the conversation to go any further at that moment.
If and when the larger conversation happens (which would thus be mutual) you listen…a lot…you make no excuses.
Then you fix the issues with yourself and with who is influencing your life so that it never happens again.
Where is your husband at in this picture?
You apologize. You admit your mistake(s). You take ownership. You do this at earliest possible time not looking for the perfect window nor expecting the conversation to go any further at that moment.
If and when the larger conversation happens (which would thus be mutual) you listen…a lot…you make no excuses.
Then you fix the issues with yourself and with who is influencing your life so that it never happens again.