This should have been discussed with all 3 of you before you did it. A lot of people won't even tolerate an opposite-sex friendship in their mate, no matter how platonic. Then you go and do something big that was much more than the husband could do, and yeah, that upstaged him.
Since you didn't do it before, yes you should discuss it but not only with her, but both of them together. Say you realize it was an awkward gesture, but you wanted to thank Camilla for her support when you were a kid. Apologize for not handling it as well as you should have. Maybe offering to make a down payment on a new car would have been acceptable while a brand new car fully paid for was not. Anyway, for the sake of your friendship and for Camilla's sake, you do have to clear the air.
I know that if you now specify what kind of counseling, we will laugh. Therapists are never 20 year olds. Therapists are people with a) experience and b) extensive, long training. And they must be intelligent. Your husband is none of the above. He is a kid who has absolutely no idea what therapy even is.
Here is my advice: you don't fight with stupid. Try and find live! therapy for when he is at work. DO NOT GET PREGNANT. You will be stuck with this guy forever.
I agree, telling won’t always absolve you of guilt, and could create a much bigger mess/potentially unsafe situation. What’s done in the dark always comes to light. She’ll figure it out.
Have you told him before you're not ok with him checking her socials / staying in contact with her?
This should have been discussed with all 3 of you before you did it. A lot of people won't even tolerate an opposite-sex friendship in their mate, no matter how platonic. Then you go and do something big that was much more than the husband could do, and yeah, that upstaged him.
Since you didn't do it before, yes you should discuss it but not only with her, but both of them together. Say you realize it was an awkward gesture, but you wanted to thank Camilla for her support when you were a kid. Apologize for not handling it as well as you should have. Maybe offering to make a down payment on a new car would have been acceptable while a brand new car fully paid for was not. Anyway, for the sake of your friendship and for Camilla's sake, you do have to clear the air.
I know that if you now specify what kind of counseling, we will laugh. Therapists are never 20 year olds. Therapists are people with a) experience and b) extensive, long training. And they must be intelligent. Your husband is none of the above. He is a kid who has absolutely no idea what therapy even is.
Here is my advice: you don't fight with stupid. Try and find live! therapy for when he is at work. DO NOT GET PREGNANT. You will be stuck with this guy forever.
I agree, telling won’t always absolve you of guilt, and could create a much bigger mess/potentially unsafe situation. What’s done in the dark always comes to light. She’ll figure it out.
And THERE’S the kerosene.