Well, this looks really bad. Not going to lie. You should've told your GF about the message when you sent it. Or even better, you should've just never sent it. THen there's the fact you added a song in there “a song about reminiscing old times”.
Again, that looks really bad. Has your ex also implied to your gf something may have happened? Why did she show her the IG messages?
At the end of the day, you kind of did cheat, maybe not as bad as your girlfriend believes, but you did go too far with your ex. So you need to take responsibility for that and hope that you can convince her that it did not get physical. First off, I think you need to give her some time to process this, hopefully, you get another chance to CALMLY explain this and to apologize.
You did the right thing by telling him. You also have to think about you saying that your relationship was the best it could ever be. That might be true for you but not him. You cheated on him. You betrayed him. You made bad decisions which you had to know would hurt him if he ever found out you did.
You two can get over this if you both want to work on it. If he does not want to do not push him to. If you are really repentant you will understand if he wants to break up but later on wants to give it another try. He will be coming to this from a place of hurt.
You also will have to work very nude to regain his trust. You will have to be fine with being in an uneven dynamic in the relationship. He will have more freedom than you. This freedom will be not having to check in as much as you do, it being fine if he is a little late, and not having to have open access to his social media. You will have to cut anyone out of your life who supported the cheating. You better already be no contact with the AP.
You cannot allow either of you to rug sweep what you did. It was cheating. You cannot downplay it by thinking it is not as bad because you did not have sex. You cannot downplay it by thinking it is not as bad because you ended it without being caught.
You did the easy part by telling him now the hard part is going to come if you both want to keep the relationship. There will be a lot of work and I wish you both well.
Yeah, he’s basically saying he’ll cheat if the opportunity arises.
Well, this looks really bad. Not going to lie. You should've told your GF about the message when you sent it. Or even better, you should've just never sent it. THen there's the fact you added a song in there “a song about reminiscing old times”.
Again, that looks really bad. Has your ex also implied to your gf something may have happened? Why did she show her the IG messages?
At the end of the day, you kind of did cheat, maybe not as bad as your girlfriend believes, but you did go too far with your ex. So you need to take responsibility for that and hope that you can convince her that it did not get physical. First off, I think you need to give her some time to process this, hopefully, you get another chance to CALMLY explain this and to apologize.
You did the right thing by telling him. You also have to think about you saying that your relationship was the best it could ever be. That might be true for you but not him. You cheated on him. You betrayed him. You made bad decisions which you had to know would hurt him if he ever found out you did.
You two can get over this if you both want to work on it. If he does not want to do not push him to. If you are really repentant you will understand if he wants to break up but later on wants to give it another try. He will be coming to this from a place of hurt.
You also will have to work very nude to regain his trust. You will have to be fine with being in an uneven dynamic in the relationship. He will have more freedom than you. This freedom will be not having to check in as much as you do, it being fine if he is a little late, and not having to have open access to his social media. You will have to cut anyone out of your life who supported the cheating. You better already be no contact with the AP.
You cannot allow either of you to rug sweep what you did. It was cheating. You cannot downplay it by thinking it is not as bad because you did not have sex. You cannot downplay it by thinking it is not as bad because you ended it without being caught.
You did the easy part by telling him now the hard part is going to come if you both want to keep the relationship. There will be a lot of work and I wish you both well.