Well… just remember that attraction and love are more than just looks, you wouldn’t leave your boyfriend for some very hot model right? So on a fundamental level, you understand that physical attraction and love aren’t 100% overlapping. Same thing here. If all he is looking at is JUST what a person looks like and NOTHING else, sure, he may want whatever his type is. But as soon as he looks at everything, all he wants is you.
I see two options. You can go the serious route. Hire security, establish boundaries and let him know he’s not going to be let in if he shows up in a clown costume. Her side of the family will fight you and I wish you all the strength of you go this route. You’ll also have to be strong for your fiancé since she’s still trying to set her limits and stand up for herself.
Ot you can go the less serious route. Hire a bunch of clowns for the reception and pay them extra to rag on your BIL. BIL wants attention. He’ll get it with a ? to the ?.
Nice? It's over. If you really want to be done then do what you need to.
You can leave him for any reason or no reason. You are never obligated to stay with someone
Well… just remember that attraction and love are more than just looks, you wouldn’t leave your boyfriend for some very hot model right? So on a fundamental level, you understand that physical attraction and love aren’t 100% overlapping. Same thing here. If all he is looking at is JUST what a person looks like and NOTHING else, sure, he may want whatever his type is. But as soon as he looks at everything, all he wants is you.
I see two options. You can go the serious route. Hire security, establish boundaries and let him know he’s not going to be let in if he shows up in a clown costume. Her side of the family will fight you and I wish you all the strength of you go this route. You’ll also have to be strong for your fiancé since she’s still trying to set her limits and stand up for herself.
Ot you can go the less serious route. Hire a bunch of clowns for the reception and pay them extra to rag on your BIL. BIL wants attention. He’ll get it with a ? to the ?.
It doesn't sound like he's going to change and it sounds like this is a dealbreaker for you