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Date: October 23, 2022
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it was a reach like i said lol. my friend even said the same shit and told her friend to chilly because she was overdoing it. lol
Have you seen a medical professional about your lack of a sex drive? Are you both willing to have marriage counseling? Unless your sex drive issue is resolved, you marriage sounds like it is doomed.
You sound like a jerk. Work on yourself more.
Dreams are a subconscious reaction to your current state of mind. The fact your ex was in the dream does NOT mean you still feel for him. Infact, your subconscience likely used his image as a representation for something else.
A lot of people here are saying you shouldn't have told him about the dream, but tbh that suggests that they can't trust their partners to have a mature reaction to a dream. You should be able to talk to your partner and not fear their reactions.
Your BF needs thicker skin. It was a dream.
He may need ro see a doctor. He could have any number of medical conditions contributing to chronic fatigue. He might have depression or ADHD and be unable to summon the brain power to plan trips.
If he does not take his own lethargy seriously, and decides it’s his life’s goal to be a sloth, though, you are not obligated to stay with him.
“If I lose him I lose everything”.
Girl, no. He is not your everything. Your “everything” is going to have your back and be cheering you on as you strive for your dream. Not giving you grief for what you’re doing to get there.
I know so many couples who were college sweethearts who went on to marry someone else. And I know so many doctors who met their SOs in medical school. Because doctors understand what it takes to become doctors.
If push comes to shove, yes the breakup will be painful, but he ain’t worth your dreams.
so I guess everyone cheats in locker rooms? Undressed at the doctors office? getting massages? I mean his logic is so flawed if he considers THAT cheating. You didn’t cheat LOL.
She doesn’t have to intend to kill you to accidentally give you a fatal dose
? agreed
Well then grow up and pull it together. Your kids shouldn’t be trying to comfort their mother, also ma’am you’re 33 years old with multiple kids do you really think raw dogging with a dude you’ve been with for 8 months who is clearly and obviously violent is smart? You are being the epitome of looking for love in all the wrong places. Keep the baby if you want but be prepared to do it alone, imo cut your losses abort the baby and keep it moving before this man ends up killing you and your 3 kids end up alone.
How it will affect future pregnancies… you have 3 kids, how many more do you want?? Leave him, he’s abusive. Have the baby or abort it, your call. You’re gonna be single mom of 4 for a while tho
Just curious here, why is there so many women saying they didn't “want to make a big deal” or be “uncool”.
Because (in my experience) everything that you complain about, be it big or small, major or minor, is a mark against your girlfriend status. Even if it completely and 100% reasonable for you to be upset.
To toxic men you have to not complain literally ever if you wanna be a “cool girlfriend ” no matter how bothersome the guys behavior is.
What a good landlord. Squatters are my worst nightmare and I feel bad but I’d like never want to let anyone move in with me. Talking to the landlord is the way to go as girlfriend doesn’t have to move out right away unfortunately.
Is there any chance he has mild autism or is neurodivergent? Quirky, lack of empathy, blunt/rude/lack of social skills… It wouldn't excuse his actions but it might provide an explanation
Run!!! She is a monster and will destroy your whole life!! Please, run!
Where did I specify you were a guy?
Dude drove HOURS if you're still angry after hours there's something wrong with you
it sounds like he cares about you!! and loves you enough to help ease some of your stress (ie: having to clean on top of working long shifts)
He said it 7 years ago. I’d you’re truly thinking of ending it over a offhanded comment he made 7 years ago than maybe he would be better off without you. People say dumb stuff when they’re 19 and just getting into a relationship. He doesn’t need to apologize and it’s ridiculous you would consider ending it over such a comment
Him showing an interest in your stories is a bigger sign than his choice of words.
There is not. This is a situation in which an adult needs to be informed. Just do the right thing, you’ll have to be comfortable if being uncomfortable if you want anything to come from your life, here’s where you start and stand up for YOU or where you choose to let people abuse you… they are both long nude roads… one you’ll walk alone one day… take the wisdom of others while its available to you. Tell you parents
It’s far more common for police to say there’s nothing we can do and not give a shit than for them to actually do soemtginf
Im M20 and she is F19 but what we had was very serious our parents had met our entire family knew each other
The only reason a guy would do that was if he didn't expect to go on another date or he's just looking for someone to mooch off of.
My second wasbund would get mad when I’d try to tell him what I wanted, because he’d slept with a total of FIVE women before me, (two of them ex-wives, and he was in his mid 40’s when we met), so he knew what works to give a woman an orgasm (bc apparently in his mind women’s bodies all work exactly the same way and our bodies always work exactly the same way from one day to the next and one year to the next) and if I wasn’t getting turned on it was all my fault because I wasn’t letting myself enjoy it.
???♀️
Hence one of many reasons for the term “wasbund”.
your friend is wrong
she flashed her tits because she's sexually attracted to him
make your call
forget the cheese. it is not the problem.
Truer words have never been spoken.
This! I don't trust the boyfriend sounds like he only cares about making his body count higher not caring for the actual women he sleeps with.
You can talk to them about wanting them to get better and how you can help them. But you can also be clear that you cannot sink with them if they don't want to make an effort to get better.
Having depression and dealing with these things is not easy. It seems easy to someone who doesn't have it. How naked is it to go and brush your teeth, right? It takes a world of effort when you feel your mental health won't let you.
I'm not excusing his shit behavior, but being cold and deaf to their mental health isn't healthy either.
You do not need this girl in your life. She’s not your friend. She sexually harassed your bf.
Can you ever forget this?
I can afford to spend like that, i just don't feel like i should since that was wrong.
She lied about being clean. She kept it from you and out you at risk. (Her Dr absolutely told her how it’s transmitted and the risk to any partner). She gave you an STD. You’ve known her 8 weeks. WTH are you saying???
His response is normal of anyone looking for jerk material because they can't have sex with their partner who just had a baby, and doesn't want to hurt her feelings during post-partum depression.
Grow up with the “red flag” bullshit. If anything, the red flag is her thinking she can decide what accounts he can follow without having a discussion as to how it makes her feel.
Then he should have bailed out after the FIRST date where she told him she was a stripper
V a G i N A sP a Mm E R
People jump to the conclusion that 'break' = 'test drive another person' because ALL the reasons you listed are situations that don't require a change in relationship status.
I had been feeling sick for a few days
I actually hear you; you cannot be given that moment back, there are lots of excuses or reasoning like her hormones or whatever but having a child together is huge and you would hope she would hear you out a little more. What she took away she cannot give back.
Its a personal situation so i do not have any real advice but to say to you that i understand and i dont think your feelings unjustified.
Yeah that sounds like fighting words. I'm not sure what ops girlfriend expected to get out of that conversation. For a 35 year old she sounds pretty immature.
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Ok so here is how boundaries work in relationships: You set a boundary in a relationship. These should be communicated early on in a relationship. The other partner does not like it and just does whatever you did not like anyways. You walk away from the relationship since you are just not compatible.
Here is how boundaries do not work: You want to change your partners behavior. You call the change in behavior a boundary and get annoyed when he does not apply.
You cannot control your partners behavior. You can pick a partner that behaves the way you want or you a partner that is okay with changing his behavior that way. You can not however change another person like you wish they were.
So if you want a partner that does not hang around other females alone, you tell them that when you start dating and if that person is fine with it, you have a match and if the person is not, you call it quits.
You played penis roulette and you’re surprised you got her pregnant? Really?
I'm unfortunately beginning to agree with that more and more. She initiated the break up because she had recently quit her job and was in a tough financial situation that effected her mental health. She told me a lot of things about how she things we'll find each other when she's in a better place, that she wanted to be transparent if she started a new relationship, but also that we shouldn't have expectations of each other. That was pretty strange for me honestly, I don't think I've had anyone tell me that, but this is also my first time on this end of the break up. It was honestly quite a shock when I found out she was in a rebound because of her history. I would say I'm heartbroken about it, but I really feel just bad for her when I do think about it.
She went and slept around now she feels satisfied after been pumped full by other dudes. She’s trash and deserves to be alone or doing trashy shit like she is
Like I, me it’s just the way I typed it lol since we are talking about “our” children, in this context.
I am not. I only talked to him to tell him I found out and I don’t talk to him anymore. I wanted to confront him
That took 2 hours? Should've taken 10 seconds. “So I found out you're married. Don't ever contact me again.”
I’m just probably really stupid.
Considering she pushed to sleep with him while you slept in other room alone, yeah.
I get that it might add to the problem, it feeding into my anxiety was exactly what I was worried about. We usually text each other throughout the day and so I always know where he might be going and all that, just the whole getting drunk and texting me like 14+ hours later is what worries me.
What you're saying does make sense. Thank you.
Huh. Nobody's told me that before.
Makes notes
I really don't have anyone to buy presents for besides my parents and little brother though, that's probably why I've never run into the issue.
But you are, whether you realize it or not you both are sabotaging her relationship, either tell her how you feel or back off and let her make the decision about her relationship. Back off and move on until she wakes up.
I'm sorry but when he said he was going to try and fuck you regardless of whether you wanted to or not, that didn't put you off or anything? You said it was “maybe a red flag”?
Your friend is an idiot.
You should look up the term pedophile.
I don't know if your friend is fucking with you or just trying to be mean.
But I thought you said she also thought he was nude.
You have a fucked up relationship.
A 20 year old is not a child by the way.
Be honest, you say you’re not attracted to men but are you attracted to him?
I have PCOS and I'm very lucky that it only took 14 months to conceive. My advice is to see a specialist and they will be able to tell you how healthy your ovaries are/how many egg sacks are left.
You need to have a conversation with him and find out what his timeline looks like. If he wants to start trying in 5 years then that's probably too late. How long will it take to get a home of your own? If it's 6 months it's not really a big deal but years would be to me. Unfortunately I don't think you are compatible anymore if you are ready for children and he wants to wait or doesn't want them at all.
What's there to love anymore? Everything your relationship is built on is a lie. He'll do it again and hide it better. He isn't disgusted with himself. He is only upset he's caught. Cut this off now before you get an STD. You are worth more than this. You deserve better than this. You gave him very lax boundaries and he abused him. You can't babysit him forever and he can't be trusted. This is not sustainable long term, trust me, I've been there with a cheater. They clean their behavior up until you stop keeping a watchful eye on what they're doing and then they go back to cheating.
Urgh, I hate it when the only advice I can give is “break up”, but damn this is one of those times.
At the end of the day, your sex drives are fundamentally incompatible, and this isn’t something that will ever change. She is who she is, and you are who you are.
Normally in a relationship there are ebbs & flows on both sides, and you just have to ride them out. This is not one of those times. This is more along the lines of “I don’t want kids, she does”. Your basic needs aren’t aligned.
She isn’t wrong for not wanting sex, you aren’t wrong for wanting it.
She is wrong for getting mad at you for doing exactly what she asked, and shaming you for a basic biological need. That’s not ok, and where she is wrong.
Ohhhh bro you gonna get got. Happens to the best of us, I’m not the best of us
Make sure to photograph the bruises
She said he'd be leaving tomorrow. I'm pretty sure it's her place.
Okay, then the schedule is your own choice. Got it.
However, the other thing is still bothersome, I think. You wrote “instance” but aren't there two instances? First the TV, then the couch. It happening once – no matter his excuse – is really bad. But him doing it a second time means that he didn't care about you rightfully complaining about him going against your joint decisions.
As for Ellie, she doesn't sound great, but I also wonder: How much positive stuff do you share with her? Because if all you shared during this talk were all these situations in which your husband sucked, her impression simply can't be a good one. If all you do is complain about a person, someone who doesn't know or isn't close to that person then will automatically see them in a negative light, simply because all they ever had were negative information. So you should evaluate a bit if Ellie has the opportunity to view your husband objectively or only through your complaint-tales.
However, that said, Ellie simply making an assumption like you getting divorced as if she's some magical fortune-teller is, even if all she ever had were bad tales about your husband, ridiculous and presumptious. It means her claiming to know more about you and your partner than you and him do. Which is, of course, stupid, but also disrespectful. The only way in which I could give this soooomewhat of an understanding is if she was really freaked out of her mind by fearing you would kill yourself because your husband did all those things you told her. Like, her trying to reassure you that this marriage will be over soon and you don't need to kill yourself. Beyond that? Nope, can't really think of anything acceptable.
Yes you should be worried about it. Why are you supposed to be a secret? If she does not want to flaunt her relationship on social medua that is fine. However it must work both ways. She can keep pictures on pc or wherever, but she should delete them on-line. She should either have both of them there or neither.
We spend Sundays together. He works Saturday. So he wants to have a guys night Saturday.
Leave her alone and deal with your issues before destroying somebody else.
Your friend needs support. She’s in a deeply problematic relationship and at the very least I’d being manipulated, cheated on and emotionally abused. She needs compassion- she probably is in so deep she can’t see the truth.
Your husband is giving you a deeply unfair and controlling ultimatum. You have agency. You aren’t a child to boss about. He’s also assuming you are so weak you’d be influenced to cheat yourself. He’s got so much faith in you.
Perhaps he could find it in himself to find compassion and empathy instead.
“there’s no values there’s no morals and there’s no standards”
Excuse me, are we talking about the woman who isn't divorcing her cheating husband right away because she wants him to have a chance to revover properly and not be homeless? That's no values and no standards in your book?
This marriage is not about developing depth or intimacy anyway. It's over. It's just a legal arrangement to allow a man to heal.
If you don’t trust him break up. I wouldn’t have taken you back personally. You invaded his privacy and need to grow up.
If he keeps threatening you with it you could try that.
She sees you as a friend that she’s casually interested in keeping up with, nothing more.
She’s If you don’t want her seeing your posts, block her.
I know a lot of addicts and I don't think it's fair to keep all their past transgressions in your pocket to use against them. He's been clean several years. His ex could have asked what that was about without treating him like shit. It's one thing to be concerned, it's another to treat someone like shit.
Just let her go. You don't want to be tied to a decision you made at age 15 anyway. So much more to life than stuff we did when we were teenagers.
The four of you (not just the two of them) should have sat down and negotiated what sex acts were ok and with which people and what sex acts were off the table. There should have been an agreement that if anyone was uncomfortable that they could have said so and everything stops and the evening ends. No harm, no foul.
Break up with him, over text NOT IN PERSON. Tell him to get evaluated for schizophrenia (he won't but you tried).
This is one of the only times you should not block his #, because if he starts messaging you crazy shit or threats you'll need them for legal stuff. If he goes nuts, call for a wellness check by contacting your local EMS. Do not reply to him.
So this is the first of literally hundreds of financial decisions you'll have to make together as a married couple. Embrace this as a trial run.
Instead of a me vs. you debate, look at this as a problem you two are trying to solve together. Sit down, lay out the facts of the situation, discuss your priorities, then figure out possible solutions. Tackle this as a team.
Thank you, it's nice to hear the validation.
He needs to get his hormones checked.
I still don’t think you are reading this posters post properly.
Your husband continuously disrespected you and put you in danger. You say he recognizes it but hasn’t really don’t anything about it (if he did this woman wouldn’t be in your lives after multiple disrespect).
Grow some self-respect. Hold your husband accountable through actions and follow through. Because if my husband was texting another woman in the middle of the night, and she continuously blocks me – we would be divorced. I wouldn’t stand for that disrespect.
Going to preface this with I am not a psychologist. You should always take what people say with a few grains of salt even if they are.
What worked before should work again. This is symptomatic of bipolar. Also other things, but if many docs said this was bipolar I'd listen to that.
What should you do? Thats harder. She's self destructing. I've seen it before, it's not easy to help. Guess you gotta wish for a lucid moment, or wait to be around for the flip side
You’re not even Facebook friends when he’s an active Facebook user. You’re clearly just his UK girlfriend. I’m sorry.
IMO you should move on immediately. Every day with him is a day wasted because you are at the beginning of what could be a great adventure … your life. Best wishes.
You’re way overstepping and you need to back the fuck off. You have no right to try to moderate what your wife eats. Learn to back off and don’t apply your disordered relationship with food to your wife.
You’re way overstepping and you need to back the fuck off. You have no right to try to moderate what your wife eats. Learn to back off and don’t apply your disordered relationship with food to your wife.
Thank you for your thoughtfulness, btw!
At that point you could clarify. He instead chose to leave and get upset over what's ultimately a non-issue.
I feel this! Even if he had said after the fact something like “I got up because I was unsure and didn't want to cross boundaries” that would be amicable. It's the way he got upset that makes me feel like the easiest option is to never say no.
There's this much confusion after 10 years of a toxic love fog. Yes, we want to be together so much it hurts, but I have been burnt out lately on the amount of issues that bother him enough to bring up to me. Sometimes it's as few as a couple fights a week. Sometimes there's multiple in a day.
Just say ‘so hey, uhh, it’s awkward but I’ve forgotten your name. I’m so very sorry & it’s an awful habit. Please don’t think bad of me’ and I hope she’s okay about it. Because honesty is the best way forward
Hi there, thank you for your take on my situation! I think you are right – I didn't get the mutual validation I look for in a relationship. I have been in lovely, fulfilling relationships in the past and I find it almost silly to be thinking about asking a guy (especially in the honeymoon phase!!) to show interest in my life..
I am not lonely but I think I might have gotten a bit too comfortable in seeing us in a relationship – when it clearly didn't feel right. I felt ready for serious dating again, and he was the first one to come along the ride
Thank you for telling me that, i know but obviously while being gaslighted i started question reality so much that i cant tell whats right and whats wrong. I honestly appreciate it and i know what i have to do.
You're 100% right. Any person who holds a grudge for as long as your stepmother has over something a child had every right to be upset about is incredibly unhinged and doesn't deserve to be treated with respect to “keep the peace”.
Your father chose this woman over you and your mother over a decade ago. He's choosing her again. Move forward in life closing this long winded chapter and build a family you're proud of.
The older generation has this misconception that we (the younger generations) need to put up with toxic and immature behaviour from the older generation, doubly so if they are “family”. But to that I say, fuck that. If you want to be family, you need to bring peace, maturity, and respect. If all you bring is toxicity and hatred; I couldn't care less what relation we share, you're out of my life.
We humans, just suck. That's it. In some states rpe isn't rpe if they're married. Disgusting.
They both broke the family up. Her father is more to blame because it's his family, but let's not give stepmom a pass here.
All I can suggest is to use your triple-digit body count as evidence that your pre-marriage self knew all about sex and nothing about relationships. That all you know, you learned from him.
You should have put a stop to this behavior a long time ago.
That is what I’m concerned about. I never wanted to date a cheater. Not so clear cut though.
What a douchebag!! This guy ruined your wedding day… I don't blame you for hating him for it.
Do you still go on date nights? Like on purpose where you say in advance that's what it is? Because that's important. Ask him to buy you flowers, or you buy him flowers men like flowers too! Cook each other's favourite meals, buy some new lingerie, buy each other small thoughtful gifts for no reason
It might not be self esteem, it's just resentment that her work on her own appearance was not appreciated and acted upon by OP.
I'm kinda shocked by the responses on here. There is no problem with this being a dealbreaker
He’s more likely to talk to these women over Instagram than Discord, although it’s still possible.
What gave you a gut feeling to sweep his phone in the first place? Did you have suspicions previously? I also can’t condone your phone snooping behavior, even if it revealed potential infidelity.
Travel by train or car with him. On trips where you have to fly, go without him.
NOOOOOOOOOOOPE, she’s a predator, don’t get it twisted.
Yeah, I can see where that didn’t sit right with her.
Im like wtf did i just read. This is a child! This is so disgusting! And OP making excuses well she's a woman so it's less predatory FUCK THAT!
WOMEN ARE PREDATORY TOO OP!
I've literally had older lesbians try to pursue me and pressure me when i was a fucking teenager. And older woman try to recruit friends for their goddamn husbands. Women are just as bad!
Your wife is incredibly gross and you are allowing that bullshit. She's gonna groom this poor girl. I'd really call her parents and tell her to stay away.
U should also divorce this creepy woman! Would u want other teenagers around her. If this was your child would u be as okay with all the excuses ur making for your wife?
If some woman was stalking and being inappropriate with your daughter!!!
God this is so sick!
He doesn’t like you. He (nearly 30) has you (a barely legal adult) around to control you. It probably makes him feel good that you’re pushing your needs down to fit his.
Leave him.
Hey OP, your situation feels frustrating.
The thing which irritates me though, is that I feel your BF is withholding the truth from you. Instead, he's relying on a throwaway claim.
Whatever are his reasons, I feel he is hiding them from you. And he may be in denial himself, such that he just won't say it to you.
If I had to guess, I'd wager he fears that your urbane tastes may eclipse his comfort with the familiar. And that when you figure out this mismatch, you will leave him.
Your question – do I MAKE him? – is revealing. Why wouldn't you explain the whole business to him, both from your POV and from Mom's, and decide together how best to handle it? Or is marriage entirely the bride's business, and the groom just an accessory?