I understand what you are trying to say but 4 years was not a mistake, plus she kept him around as friends (BS even treated the guy as a brother/son until his passing) until this blew up. There are some heartless people out there, and this should not be minimized. this was not just a stranger, one night stand, but someone really close. This is a level of betrayal that is not your run of the mill affair. Hell, I'm willing to bet that even 60% of the 70% of the cheaters cited believe that this is ok.
I understand what you are trying to say but 4 years was not a mistake, plus she kept him around as friends (BS even treated the guy as a brother/son until his passing) until this blew up. There are some heartless people out there, and this should not be minimized. this was not just a stranger, one night stand, but someone really close. This is a level of betrayal that is not your run of the mill affair. Hell, I'm willing to bet that even 60% of the 70% of the cheaters cited believe that this is ok.