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Were you married when they were hooking up? If yes, it's a betrayal even your own a break but if you were still in a phase of knowing each other or hooking up with no intentions of being monogamous and exclusive, then it is not cheating. The only thing is your wife should have come clean regarding her relationship with your best friend. You're young. Any work in R should the burden of your spouse. If there is no chance to regain her trust, you can opt to leave her and your so called best friend.
I would ask her to sit down, and have a open minded talk with her, to understand what's been going on.
So, I guess the question for that is do I just tell her “call back when you're 21” or do I try to make it work now, and possibly break up and get back together?
My only thought was “who does he think he is?” So glad other people think this way. Not Op but other people ?
My husband says I drug him, so I take a bite and have our kids take a bit, then gets upset that his meal is almost gone.
I suggest you both grow up, stop creeping on each others SM and accept that each of you had a past. Why would you unblock his exes and then moan when one of them is a chat or friend suggestion. So what if she came up as a suggestion, does it matter? You invited it when you creeped in his SM after his exes!
But, I may be thinking like a female here, but if you loved me so much, and didn't want to hurt me, wouldn't that stop you from doing anything stupid to f*** up the relationship if we ever were in one?
One, female and males think that way at times so maybe step away from make generalizations. Two, loving someone doesn’t mean you’ll be perfect. Yes people do their best to avoid messing up, but no matter the love and effort, shit still happens. So his attitude is from understanding that mistakes happen, but not feeling confident that he knows how to fix mistakes or not feeling confident that once mistakes are made that they can be repaired. What could help him get over that way of thinking is therapy. If not an option he could google growth vs fixed mind set and conflict resolution skills and work on that. But at the end of the day all relationships come with risk and i5 sounds like he’s very risk averse when it comes to you. Maybe google attachment style and explore that as that might help explain things as well.
Dude. Stop being nice. Your son will be fatherless and you'll be childless and lonely if you don't go to court. Get a lawyer and go after her.
Call one today.
Your wife is being emotionally and mentally abusive to you Sir
It was just a joke, I am myself, what you call, a bad bitch and now that I got your attention I must say: enjoy your life and youth while you have it. You are young and hot probably, why destroy it by some anxieties. I mean if a spouse is hot and people are turning heads for her/him – that's fantastic! Why not enjoy it? What is so wrong about the fact that people see her body. Even if she had a three layer thrash bag on her people would still imagine her naked.. I mean I would.. if I only got her IG!
Your feelings about this are yours to deal with, not an excuse to control her behaviour.
Probably just a muscle memory.
Your boyfriend is abusive. You leave before he puts you in the hospital. It's that simple
What's the question?
You don’t have a child with this person. My husband wouldn’t DREAM of asking me to have his mum in the delivery room. I have told him that I’m happy with just him; if he feels he’d like someone else there to also support him, that’s fine – but I will be choosing that person.
I’ma get hated on but it’s never bothered me when exes have been. You should trust he will behave with upmost respect for the relationship given he’s never given you indication not to. These girls are professionals and have skills and bodies most women could only dream of. If you’re okay with him at a swimming pool, this isn’t much different.
Ngl, they often come home and you get the pleasure of that build up energy… if it’s a hot no, then talk to him and discuss what you would be comfortable with but be warned, his mates will think you’re a buzz kill.
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Are there any legal marital agreements you can make? He seems to think you will just take half of his things. This means he thinks you are with him for material reasons. If it is possible legally in your place you offer him some marital agreement that will be highly advantegous for him in case of divorce. In exchange you can ask him to give you proper second chance and treat it like one time mistake. Ask him to try your best again as couple including him making his best to try to forgive you as you both work on your relationship.
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Yeah, let him get that PHD so all the 19yo can get in line. Report his ass. I am in academics, and he does not deserve to be, no matter how little more it takes, and how many years he spent towards that goal. His fault.
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You are a complete moron, and I pray that your parents continue to forever control your finances for your sake, so that you never waste it on dumb shit.
You don't just “buy” people a car, or anything else that is a significant financial cost. The only exception to that rule are the significantly wealthy (HINT, no one here on reddit fits). It doesn't matter how much one significant other is “happy” with it, because it affects BOTH of them. You don't know their financial status, nor does OP. Gtfo with your “insecure” bullshit and go back to asking your parents permission to buy shit.
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Is she your backup or something? Backup bang? Backup relationship? If so, tell your friend you would appreciate if they didn't. You can't stop them though. If she isn't your backup anything, then why do you care? It's been 2 years!
Having seen a variety in my day when you are a grown up women it’s less about the size of it and more about the man attached to it. If you’re craving the old 10 incher you can pick one up at the adult store and keep it in a drawer for special evenings lol!
You seem like a nice enough fellow. Please respect yourself enough to be with a woman who respects you. She can move on and keep searching for her dream unit….
Your wife is not a nice person, I hope you now realize that. Too bad it took a little dog's unhappiness to reveal how she is.
With this said, try to find the puppy a better home, it deserves a better life than with your wife. And for everything that's good and holy, do not get this woman another dog, like some other posters suggested! She's clearly unwilling and incapable of caring for them, old dogs come with their own set of issues that she won't want to deal with and will complain about.
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LDRs are difficult.
Yes you want to go out with your in person friends on special occasions.
She is feeling disconnected from you because of distance.
Even though you already talk and played games with her every night, have you spent a “special occasion” day doing that with her?
A similar situation would be if you weren’t LDR and you went out for Holidays. Of course you could invite her. Of course she could also want it to be just you two.
This is a compatibility issue, not a who is right.
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I'll surely tell her and yes, not nice of my friend to take advantage on her being nice.
I thought it was 40 female cats and was like “whoa what!?)
“I just know what you’re going through right now.”
And then you say what?
You just have to sit him down and have a conversation with him and be blunt. I think it's pretty bold of him to assume he “knows” what you are going through.
I'm assuming this has been recommended at this point, but I would try my very best to get her to see a therapist.
She is suffering from an addiction, and probably binge eating disorder. That doesn't happen for no reason. There's something she isn't dealing with, or can't deal with.
If you can get her in the door, that's a MASSIVE step in the right direction. A good therapist will notice quickly if she's still putting on weight. They'll know how to approach it. They might even pick up on some of the issues causing this before they see the difference in her body. It's a good first step and could potentially be the only one you have to take yourself.
A physician is not a bad idea. However, I wouldn't start off with that, for two reasons. 1: physicians are more likely to blame depression and other mental or emotional issues on obesity. Not here to argue the validity of that viewpoint, but I will say I don't think it would be helpful for her to focus on her weight as the core issue. I think it's a side-effect. 2: it could be nearly impossible to convince her to see a physician without making it about her weight. Even if you wait until theres another reason to go to the doctor and use that as an excuse, the doctor will likely bring up her weight immediately and it'll sting. I don't know your girlfriend, but I can imagine a hundred different ways to bring up counseling. You may be able to avoid even mentioning her body.
Yes there is. You are carrying on an emotional affair while resenting your current partner so much you go live! to just talk shit and blame her for everything. You didn’t have the balls to break up so that’s on you.
You can have friends of the opposite sex but when you blame your current relationship for “falling for” said friend you lose all credibility.
You are accountable for yourself. Jesus what a pity party you are. Just leave the poor girl and go sleep with your “just friend” that you already have feelings for. At this point you’re not here for advice you just want to wallow in shit. Grow. Up.
Why c ant he buy his own gun ? That’s alarming. Ppl can’t buy guns for a reason. So ya good for you. Don’t do that.
I'm glad it doesn't, honestly. He's being weird, you're right. I'd say, “If you objectify sexual partners, that's on you. It's really off-putting, tbh. If you insist on pointing it out to me, when I leave, it will be on you, too.”
But that's only if you chose to stay.
And when you accept this it strengthens her position. She's supposed to make you better not ruin your life.
Sorry but where is everyone getting this extra info? Was it deleted from OP”s original post?
Talk therapy, exercise, meditation, maybe go to the doctor too and get an antidepressant. And you can help by providing daily words of affirmation for her that she is looking good. Show her you desire her and want to be close to her, without necessarily asking her to fuck.
So this man does things to you physically that you've repeatedly told him not to do.
That's assault.
if that's how you wanna live! then be prepared to be devastated every day. you care about him but it's clear he doesn't care about you. if you want to stay log off and go on-line your miserable life with him. is that harsh? of course. are you choosing to do this to yourself by staying? yep.
Girl go to therapy why is your immediate reaction to someone point out valid issues “were a match made in hell, maybe he’s using me or going to dump me” and not like “Oh gee I’m working on bettering myself and so is he, we’re going to grow together as a couple!” like why bother :/
Aha no worries I can see how they misread it though especially if they already came your comment worked up lol
Different but similar, my spouse has a very demanding job that causes them to be out of the house a lot more than me. They do not like eating alone, and most likely if we don't eat together they will stop for fast food on the way home from work.
For my health (either starving, or overeating because i would snack for hours while waiting for them to get home then eat a full dinner) and sanity I created the 6pm dinner rule. That is, if I do not hear from you by 6pm I am making dinner for myself and eating. I think you should do something similar. Tell her that you're not waiting until 9-10pm to eat dinner. If she wants to eat with you, dinner time is at some set time. If not, that's fine, but she is on her own. If she gets upset with this, remind her that this is her choice and she cannot expect you to upend your eating and sleep schedules around her hobbies.
Otherwise, I think it would be good for you to get a hobby that makes you busy or gets you out of the house to fill some of your time. Your GFs hobby is excessive, and I would ask her to maybe cut back by 1 day a week if I were in your shoes, but at the same time it can be healthy to have different hobbies and interests. You need to be able to spend time on your own/with your own interests without just counting down the time for her to be done with hers.
Is there any way you can be invited or join in on horseback riding with her once a week or every other week?
Like porn, it can bring unreal expectations. porn being more visual, people often think its not the same but to a degree it is. this debate has been around for ages and everyone is right and everyone is wrong. No matter what side your on, you will be both. It depends on if its to the point of effecting the both of you in your relationship. You must find what is right for the two of you
Yes yes, sure, doesn’t matter.
Move on.
Yikes
I'm so sorry. But this is not acceptable. She hit you before. It doesn't really matter it was with a pillow! It doesn't matter that now she slapped you and didn't physically hurt you more!! It doesn't matter that you both like to engage in some consensual BDSM from time to time!!! It's not your fault because you asked for the light BDSM sexy stuff!!!
There's a huge difference between some slapping to engage in sexy practices, and slapping a person because you're angry and want to hurt them. It's not the same thing and no, you asking for those practices is not wrong and certainly didn't provoke that she's now being violent to you. Also think about the entire sequence: she made you responsible for waking her up (you're not, she's an adult) and then blamed you for misplacing her glasses when you know you had nothing to do, and then slapped you. Yes of course you feel sick to your stomach. This is an unimaginable betrayal. But the fact she apologized means nothing, abusers always apologize, that's part of the cycle of abuse, look it up. And abuse has nothing to do with gender, you get abusers from any gender and heterosexual relationships as well as queer relationships. Stop blaming yourself. Blame her.
Oh well! I'm having a blast here with my friends so it's their loss!✨ Thank you for helping me with it✨
You should do what feels right and healthy for you and not letting him “manipulate” you into staying. You are only responsible for your own happiness and well-being. By dragging your feet you are wasting time. Plan an exit-strategy and follow through.
This is borderline psychotic. Just ask him for coffee, and if he says no, then that's that.
You wife has to go back to her home country. It a matter of health for both of you. You life together isn’t working and there is no reason to continue like this. It’s not a failure of your marriage to admit it. But let her go soon. There is no other option.
He has never been your best friend. He has no respect for you. Just file for divorce. You don’t need to explain why.
Try to delete all of your pics before you do though.
Good luck!
He can sleep on a park bench, I’d take that car and use it to drive to an attorney’s office and he can walk to work. That’d be a one and done dealbreaker for me.
He has another girlfriend they’ve met.
That’s definitely not ur gf. Watching tv on the bed with another man is crazy. I think we would all advise u to leave this “relationship”
Why'd you reconcile?
Leave
You set a boundary, now act on it
Say you do stick it out, wait for marriage and actually get married. She will still be herself, with all the religion-based baggage a lot of us grew up with. Including lots of shame and guilt. Your sex life likely won’t flourish automatically and you could face many challenges in your intimate relationship.
It sounds like you’re on two different life paths and, as you said yourself, your values are changing. Don’t underestimate the impact that your religious differences will have.
I think it might be time to move on.
It has nothing to do with you. He is anxious, give him some support and assurance. But stick up for yourself if he starts really pushing.
Off the bat, breaks are bullshit. Why? Because they don’t fix issues. They create a delay into addressing issues.
You said here that you decided to take some time apart because of your different lifestyles. To be more clear, that you’re incompatible.
In saying that, what did and do you expect the break to accomplish? Your thought essentially confirms my answer to that question; nothing.
There’s nothing more to understand. You don’t like who he is. He doesn’t like who you are. You can’t understand how he could possibly be like this. He can’t understand how you could possibly be like this. You think you’re right and he’s wrong. He thinks he’s right and you’re wrong.
You don’t deal with this. You don’t try to understand it. You acknowledge that you’re incompatible and make the decision you’ve been avoiding. Try again? If you get back together, you’re getting back together with the same people you were when you decided you needed to separate. It sucks, and I’m sorry.
Because the no-effort partner is no longer participating in the relationship. Both partners have to contribute, or it's not a partnership!
You're sabotaging this because you're afraid the relationship will end due to past trauma, so you're making it happen. You are torturing her in the process and giving her secondhand trauma. Trust after trauma and allowing someone to love you can be hard. You probably feel like you don't deserve her. Can you go to counseling for this issue?
My ex and I went through this a lot. We weren’t a long distance couple, but we were frequently away from each other. I honestly think it’s a sign of codependency or something similar. Because once we started to be around each other more we never fought like that. Looking back all the fights were pretty dumb and silly. I think the only thing you can do is try and fix the distance. Or have a conversation over why you guys keep fighting and how to regulate that. My ex and I used to not text when separated and call instead, helped keep our fights down
He and all the guys there can’t talk about you and all the side bitches they are messing with if you are there. Your bf doesn’t want the other guys and himself to have to watch what they say because you are there.
Is it possible to be in a committed relationship while still being friendly terms with your ex.
Of course it is.
It just isn't possible to do so with your current partner.
“My girlfriend told me today the she was pissed at me for speaking english.”
Ok.
If this relationship ends, which statistically it has a 50/50 chance of doing, what will you do? Being a stay at home anything can work well if communication, respect and understanding are at the heart of the relationship but all of those things seem profoundly lacking in yours, so I'd say your chances are a lot higher than 50/50. You need a job.
The same reason why you put 'don't want to lose Polly as a friend's before you wrote 'i love my gf'.
That is the plan! The surprise is taking her to get one, sorry that that wasn’t clear, I’ll add an edit
learn to have some self respect and confidence.
Freaking monster, being cheap is the worse trait ever
Idk you're not entitled to know those details. But it's weird that your BEST FRIEND didn't tell you… How did that happen? He never mentioned that he has history with your current gf?
I think if she were going to bring it up, it would have been better to be fully honest instead of the half honesty. That never bodes well for long term trust.
It's fine to have boundaries about what you choose to share, but it also sounds like she's using the language around “boundaries” as a way to justify keeping secrets. I'd be concerned about her honesty if she's framing this as a “boundary” rather than something she doesn't want to share for whatever reason.
Saying this would just upset them further.
Updateme!
Lmao this fucking thread
If he’s making money where you are and you can invest money, it’s fine to stay. Triple money doesn’t mean much when cost of living goes up. Calculate how much the rent and food will cost. Also the weather and the lack of community and family. Discuss how much he wants this.
You can always start cheating in FIFA
Just like she has (should have) autonomy about her body, a man also needs autonomy about his body and where his sperm goes
He sounds like a sad loser mommy’s boy. I’m angry on your behalf. What a tosser.
What did I say about the trip says that I’m exploiting children ? Everything has been taken way out of context. And the name calling just isn’t helpful.
This has nothing to do with PR or social media. I’ve said it many times but I’ll say it again – I don’t personally regularly use social media and that hasn’t even crossed my mind.
What did you say? It sounds really odd to tell people not to joke when you are furious. How often do you get furious?
You are allowed to not want hot pictures of yourself existing. That is a reasonable boundary to have. You need to learn to enforce your own boundaries – no-one else can do it for you.
Some people have boundaries when it comes to porn, but they ultimately determine how we handle situations like this.
This sounds like a situation that isn’t a great one for you with his guilty pleasure comment…it sounds like that adds to the thrill of his porn use. I would be worried about someone using that mentality cheating or pushing all boundaries, personally, as he made it sound like he gets a an extra kick out of knowing it would upset you.
If this is a firm boundary for you, I would recommend leaving.
They've been together for 7 years and he was doing it for the first year so “don't get with someone” is not relevant here. “Don't stay with someone,” sure.
Friends celebrate each other's happiness and accomplishments. You aren't his friend.
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This is a long one and English isn’t my first language, so please excuse any spelling/ grammar.
My Fiancé and I have been together for nearly 6 years and engaged a few months ago. We’ve lived together for nearly 4 of those years (but not consecutively – year 2 of the pandemic I moved out to have some space as we lived in a 1 bedroom small condo + them working from home + me part time at home) We now live together again, renting a really beautiful historical house.
Since living back together, my frustrations within the relationship have been boiling over. Though we split all bills 50/50 I still end up doing majority of the house hold chores just like when we lived together before. Except this time we are in a house vs. A small condo the amount of cleaning is nearly tripled.
I’ve brought up my concerns with this a few times and am met with “just tell me what to do then.” It makes me want to scream and puts back the labour into me to delegate chores. (Which makes me feel like a mother rather than a partner) Additionally, part of me believes their lack of knowledge in how to do certain chores is them genuinely not knowing and other times, it’s them weaponizing their incompetence. This leaves certain chores done “half assed” and then I’m left to either ask for them to be done again or just do it myself.
Example 1: (this is very passive aggressive of me I know) I wanted to see if they would do just 1 chore unprompted, so I decided to stop sweeping the staircase for nearly 2 weeks. In my mind this is something they walk up and down every day and can see/ feel the dog hair and dust collect. Not once did he initiate picking up a broom. It was not until he saw me finally do it that he acknowledged how dusty the steps were looking.
Example 2: not knowing how to properly wipe the dog’s feet after getting wet, proceeding to dry 2 paws and saying “that’s as good as we’re gonna get” I snatched the towel, replied with a “for god sake”, picked up my dog and proceeded to wipe all 4 paws thoroughly while they left to go sit in the car.
We’ve also had so many conversations regarding their hygiene and the lack their of. I know mental health can play a roll in taken care of one’s self and won’t hold that against them. It again however, makes me feel like a parent rather than a partner; asking them when is the last time they showered / can you please shower. The same goes for their excessive farting and burping (I understand that it can’t be helped sometimes)They’ll make a point to absolutely rip ass and then try to pull me in close for a cuddle. Again making me feel like I’m with a teenager / child. This has also greatly effected our intimacy to the point where if I try to initiate they’ll reply with “I haven’t showered and it’s stinky down there.” And proceed to do nothing about it.
All of these frustrations have also left me to suspect that I too will be taking on the burden of care giver to his elderly parents. With his mom whispering in my ear “you’ll take care of me when I’m old.” as a half joke half serious after we got engaged. Along with navigating care for my estranged parents.(different story and too long to get into)
Bringing up counselling has also gotten me nowhere and I fear if I go through the marriage nothing will change and Regret it.
Feel like I could go on a rant about it all but will summarize:
Outside of this, we do however get along very well and he does make me laugh and is overall very kind. He’s not a bad person but I don’t know/ am struggling if we should be life partners or if I’m over reaching about trivial things.
I struggle with the thought of an ultimatum as these things seems so small in comparison to other posts I’ve been reading.
Do I stay and try to make it work or cut it off over searingly trivial behaviours?
Yeah. My partner always claimed that it was possible to be just friends with the opposite gender and I have always said it's tricky and only possible when there's lots of trust.
Then when I became very firm friends with a guy at work (no sexual vibes at all) suddenly he was rather suspicious. I had a good laugh at that point. He'd only been thinking about himself wanting to be friends with women, it had never occurred to him that I might be friends with a man. (In fact I was always brushing men off when I was younger, men were not interested in being platonic with me then. I had to get old to be able to enjoy platonic relationships with men.)
Yes, but this requires more than yelling. This requires a private discussion between the two of you, and maybe one with yourself. If he can’t manage himself without snapping at your child, he’s not going to be given trust obviously.
Nope he needs to pay repairs on his house. You pay a fair market rent for the portion you live in plus % percent of utilities. If he’s renting half the house out then you should be paying only on what you occupy and use- not 50%. You need to get all this agreed and in writing before you move in.
This is why young people shouldn't be getting married until they learn how to regulate their feelings……adults know how to manage their emotions and not get into situations like this…..sadly not all of us make it to adulthood.
I would definitely not joint purchase the house as you aren’t married. Agree on a rent fee that covers utilities. As you are only paying rent, I agree that you shouldn’t contribute to any construction projects. If you get married at a later time, you can have your name added to the deed.
Ask her to take a drug test.
Ask her to get screened for STDs.
Regardless of her willingness to do either of the above, sounds like you need to file for divorce to protect your kids.
Definitely tell her and risk your friendship. You don't want a friendship, you want her to be your gf.
Just tell her how you've always felt about her and that you've started to realize it. Wish her good luck on her date, but tell her it's going to be your worst night ever.
Based off of her reactions, you'll see where she's at with it.
PS: feelings can always pass, but there needs to be a certain distance/boundaries for that to happen, so if you would want to stay platonic friends, you'll loose this close connection anyways.
Dealbreaker rules should be thought through very carefully and only be for serious matters such as infidelity or if he hits you. In my view I think you should say to him that you are going to rethink your dealbreakers as you have decided that a puff on a vape makes you unhappy as opposed to something that will make you walk away.
If you want her to rethink the heartfelt gifts she creates for you, you need to rethink the textbook gifts that every teenage boy gives his girlfriend that you give to her.