At the risk of sounding dismissive, I don’t understand how you could possibly have no time for yourself if you have no kids and your responsibility is the housekeeping/cleaning for yourself and one other adult. Like is your home huge or something? Even if I deep cleaned my entire apartment every day and shopped/cooked dinner from scratch I’d still have like a solid 4 hours to myself.
I know a lot of advice is telling you to go nuclear. But think about what is going to bring you peace from this? I can tell from what you’ve written that you are a kind person and not vengeful. Leaving a bad review will not make you feel better.
I think you should do a vow renewal with just your wife and a couple of witnesses. Maybe a few family members if you feel comfortable including them. Hire a better photographer and clue them into having a poor experience before. Get some excellent photos – different shots than the first time around.
With time you WILL heal. I know you are hurting still, and that is completely valid. Your anger isn’t serving you though. You have a wonderful partner who loves you very much and that is the most important piece. Think of every single nice thing about your wedding. The toasts, the dance, the cake, etc. when you feel bad and have those intrusive memories- remind yourself of the beautiful things from that day.
At the risk of sounding dismissive, I don’t understand how you could possibly have no time for yourself if you have no kids and your responsibility is the housekeeping/cleaning for yourself and one other adult. Like is your home huge or something? Even if I deep cleaned my entire apartment every day and shopped/cooked dinner from scratch I’d still have like a solid 4 hours to myself.
I know a lot of advice is telling you to go nuclear. But think about what is going to bring you peace from this? I can tell from what you’ve written that you are a kind person and not vengeful. Leaving a bad review will not make you feel better.
I think you should do a vow renewal with just your wife and a couple of witnesses. Maybe a few family members if you feel comfortable including them. Hire a better photographer and clue them into having a poor experience before. Get some excellent photos – different shots than the first time around.
With time you WILL heal. I know you are hurting still, and that is completely valid. Your anger isn’t serving you though. You have a wonderful partner who loves you very much and that is the most important piece. Think of every single nice thing about your wedding. The toasts, the dance, the cake, etc. when you feel bad and have those intrusive memories- remind yourself of the beautiful things from that day.