He was always have a low sex drive, so even if we don't have any intimacy recently, it's not weird, actually. The only is he ask me for it ONLY in late night, when Im already sleeping. I have insomnia, so I get a little angry when he do this.
I’m not saying it isn’t possible, but normal people aren’t sitting there, second device prepped and in hand, every time they open a Snapchat from someone in case they send something untoward. It’s easy to make suggestions, and if this were a repeated and consistent occurrence, I’d agree, but this is an example of ‘expectation vs reality’ where Reddit probably isn’t really thinking through the logistics of their suggestion very well, as Snapchat let’s you play through things once, and gives an alert if you screen shot screen record or even just replay the snap.
Yeah shed be in the right to leave me shes been nothing but loyal and great to me for 4 months and ive been jealous and insecure most of the time. Shes never engaged in flirting over the phone or even respond to guys or even have guy friends so idk why i get so jealous, insecure, and controlling. Ik its my fault and in my control and ik im an alcoholic but besides all that im a really good boyfriend but feelings are feelings and sometimes i just feel like shes being unloyal by going out in revealing clothing to a club….
The question is whether she gets a vote or a veto. Assuming that you want to stay with her and build a life with her, then she gets a veto. This is about a combined future and you two need to figure out a way that you can come to consensus. But her veto is valid, as is yours. Also, if you are intending to combine assets at some point, she should be contributing something to this, even if you make a relative sacrifice. Otherwise there is the potential to feel entirely one sided and that could cause a major problem down the line.
If the intention is that you aren’t planning to stay together, combine assets, etc then she gets a voice and not veto. Though, if that’s the case you and she may be wondering why you are together if the long term is not really an option.
Finally, I wonder if you differences are also about stage of life. Sounds like she is looking for a quaint starter home. You are looking for a long term real estate investment that you could fix up and grow your family Into. Her home sounds like a nice next step from a rental, without too much of a commitment. You two may need to really talk about that it may be more than stylistic difference but difference in perception of next steps in your relationship, too.
Her husband knows what his ex is doing because his friends monitor her account, and his friends tell them. Your reading comprehension is terrible, because that's all in the original post and you somehow missed it. Twice. ?
I will get around to an update but it's not really a loan. My parents have some cash in the bank that's not collecting interest. I would use it and it would be deducted from their estates's portion that would go towards me.
Did you invite them all the night before when they were drinking?
Yeah, him refusing treatment is very scary. Especially when antidepressants and therapy are so effective.
I recommend giving him an ultimatum and a timeframe. Hopefully he picks his family and not his fear.
He was always have a low sex drive, so even if we don't have any intimacy recently, it's not weird, actually. The only is he ask me for it ONLY in late night, when Im already sleeping. I have insomnia, so I get a little angry when he do this.
I’m not saying it isn’t possible, but normal people aren’t sitting there, second device prepped and in hand, every time they open a Snapchat from someone in case they send something untoward. It’s easy to make suggestions, and if this were a repeated and consistent occurrence, I’d agree, but this is an example of ‘expectation vs reality’ where Reddit probably isn’t really thinking through the logistics of their suggestion very well, as Snapchat let’s you play through things once, and gives an alert if you screen shot screen record or even just replay the snap.
Kinda sounds like he molested his younger sister…
Not to frighten you, but you need to break up with him or you’re in for a lifetime of abuse. He’s an actual predator. Leave.
I mean…
Don’t touch it. Go to the police and file a report. That’s stalking.
Yeah shed be in the right to leave me shes been nothing but loyal and great to me for 4 months and ive been jealous and insecure most of the time. Shes never engaged in flirting over the phone or even respond to guys or even have guy friends so idk why i get so jealous, insecure, and controlling. Ik its my fault and in my control and ik im an alcoholic but besides all that im a really good boyfriend but feelings are feelings and sometimes i just feel like shes being unloyal by going out in revealing clothing to a club….
You need to break up! The 2 of you are not compatible!
Appreciate what you have now. Stop thinking about the past. If you can't get past this, I encourage you to try therapy.
No. Dump him. Easy as that. He is not worth your time or energy.
Nope.
The question is whether she gets a vote or a veto. Assuming that you want to stay with her and build a life with her, then she gets a veto. This is about a combined future and you two need to figure out a way that you can come to consensus. But her veto is valid, as is yours. Also, if you are intending to combine assets at some point, she should be contributing something to this, even if you make a relative sacrifice. Otherwise there is the potential to feel entirely one sided and that could cause a major problem down the line.
If the intention is that you aren’t planning to stay together, combine assets, etc then she gets a voice and not veto. Though, if that’s the case you and she may be wondering why you are together if the long term is not really an option.
Finally, I wonder if you differences are also about stage of life. Sounds like she is looking for a quaint starter home. You are looking for a long term real estate investment that you could fix up and grow your family Into. Her home sounds like a nice next step from a rental, without too much of a commitment. You two may need to really talk about that it may be more than stylistic difference but difference in perception of next steps in your relationship, too.
Her husband knows what his ex is doing because his friends monitor her account, and his friends tell them. Your reading comprehension is terrible, because that's all in the original post and you somehow missed it. Twice. ?
I will get around to an update but it's not really a loan. My parents have some cash in the bank that's not collecting interest. I would use it and it would be deducted from their estates's portion that would go towards me.