Detach. You are her backup plan if the boyfriend doesn't work out long term. You should never choose the woman who backburners you, you need to be the first choice. I'm sorry.
You are so young. My husband went through A LOT. Yes he's a great guy. Loved by all. BUT he had some very dangerous behaviors, anger issues (not towards me), and would often disassociate. Trauma does not make you stronger. Dealing with your trauma makes you healed. Strong vs weak is not the issue. He has had years of therapy and at 65 is just getting to happy & healthy.
The other issue we have had is that his trauma crowded out my trauma. We have had to do a lot of work to let me express my emotions and issues.
Regardless, you got mad at her over something that isn't your fault.
Hell no don't contact the guy. Screenshot the messages, block the number, and tell your gf to take the receipts to HR to file a complaint. You don't know what this guy is capable of and calling him all heated might escalate things.
Don’t think she’s a monorail because she’s clearly letting multiple people ride.
Detach. You are her backup plan if the boyfriend doesn't work out long term. You should never choose the woman who backburners you, you need to be the first choice. I'm sorry.
You are so young. My husband went through A LOT. Yes he's a great guy. Loved by all. BUT he had some very dangerous behaviors, anger issues (not towards me), and would often disassociate. Trauma does not make you stronger. Dealing with your trauma makes you healed. Strong vs weak is not the issue. He has had years of therapy and at 65 is just getting to happy & healthy.
The other issue we have had is that his trauma crowded out my trauma. We have had to do a lot of work to let me express my emotions and issues.
Regardless, you got mad at her over something that isn't your fault.
Hell no don't contact the guy. Screenshot the messages, block the number, and tell your gf to take the receipts to HR to file a complaint. You don't know what this guy is capable of and calling him all heated might escalate things.
Does he commonly get this angry? Do you commonly make decisions for both of you? There is a lot of red flags here.