I'm sorry, but how is your mother a good person? She let your grandmother abuse you and try to kill you. She stayed with a violent alcoholic who tried to r@pe you. She medically neglected you. She wouldn't allow you to clean yourself properly. None of these are traits of a good person or an even adequate parent. Block them all, and grieve the loss, then focus on never perpetuating the cycle of abuse you had to deal with growing up
When we decided to take a break, we agreed that we were still married so we would act accordingly
You don't get over it OP, that's being grossly unfair to yourself because of the sunk cost fallacy.
Now you set up individual therapy and you figure out how to move on from this person
I’m so petty I would make myself puke while blowing him just to prove a point. He’s being disgusting and lazy.
I'm sorry, but how is your mother a good person? She let your grandmother abuse you and try to kill you. She stayed with a violent alcoholic who tried to r@pe you. She medically neglected you. She wouldn't allow you to clean yourself properly. None of these are traits of a good person or an even adequate parent. Block them all, and grieve the loss, then focus on never perpetuating the cycle of abuse you had to deal with growing up