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Because it sounds all consuming for OP. Masturbating twice a day or more may or may not be normal, but OP also voiced he can't stop thinking about it, sees that looking at her and at other women, it's all consuming and that can be a slippery slope into addiction.
But i wanr him back. Heck, i dont really have feelings for him but id be willing to date him if thatmeans id get to have him in my life again ?
They did and threw fits wanting to know when I could come home and she said it took over six months for them to accept we were no longer together
This is a complicated situation. But I think deep down you already know what to do. I would encourage you to have a look at r/deadbedrooms so you can get an idea of the misery and devastation that may lie ahead of you if you proceed with this relationship, let alone marry. Of course there is a chance this could improve, but statistically it's pretty unlikely. You're also subsidising her life. Of course she doesn't want to lose you, you are literally paying for the majority of her expenses. This is not sustainable and you know it!
I’m a huge fan of ice skating. Even if one or both of you are terrible. Actually, especially if one or both of you are terrible. It’s fun to learn and glide and support each other AND you can really easily be as close or as far apart as comfort allows. Followed by warm drinks at the house/apartment/dorm. Other things that are okay: museums/art openings. Museums usually have student rates and they always have talking points. Art openings/gallery shows usually have free wine, and… similarly easily offer up something to talk about.
Good luck out there.
Any in particular you would recommend?
I remember your original post and am SO relieved to read this update! I'm glad you are save and came to the conclusion to leave. Good for you. Best of luck with the divorce, there are better things ahead for you.
No wonder he's not your friend
Thank you so much I really appreciate your virtual hugs
She's only twenty. So all of this trauma has happened fairly recently. She is most likely simply not ready for a relationship that includes sex.
Leaving aside the fact that I don't think you should be pursuing people that young anyway, for your sake and theirs, all you can do is keep communication open.
Rather than just asking regularly if sex will be on the table soon, maybe ask for a monthly check in on where the relationship is at, where you both see it going, and whether moving forward is possible. Understand though, it may be quite a while before she's ready. You have to decide how long you're ok with waiting and move on if you reach your limit.
With bits you mean both testes were removed??
I am happy. And that's what we're working towards, being together long term and building a future.
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Yeah, I didn’t realize I was with a narcissist until well after we had split. He was a covert narcissist so it was subtle and harder to pinpoint. A lot of people think of the grandiose, Trump-like traits when they think of narcissists, but they are not all like that.
My ex was also excellent at crafting a public persona. His coworker (who I saw nearly every work day because I picked him up when his shift was done) said the same thing when we announced our divorce. “But you guys always looked so happy.”
he was just trying to prevent problems
You don't generally fly into a 10-messages-in-the-middle-of-the-night panic and threaten to instantly dump someone over the possibility that something they *might* have done *might* cause a problem, especially when a prominent fact of this situation is that he's severely underreacting to all of the other messed up behaviour here. Every controlling partner insists that their behaviour is somehow to protect the person being controlled.
Your boyfriend is right about one thing, though: it is disconcerting that you know what his cousin is like, but still socialise with him as much as you do. It doesn't seem to take much for you to be friendly with people you know are toxic. (Related question: do you actually agree with his cousin's politics, or do you just enjoy having a “sparring partner”?) In this case, it's flying a huge red flag that you're easily manipulated, something your boyfriend also already knows because he's taking advantage of it, and it's not just controlling partners who'll be worried about that.
Incidentally, I have cousins, but I'm not particularly close to them — I talk to them at family events, and that's pretty much it. The idea that I'd be obligated to be gaming with them every day and discussing their porn preferences strikes me as incredibly bizarre.
I enjoy you being heavily downvoted in most of your comments ?
if you are 18 now then you could have been a minor when the pictures were taken… threaten pedo charges or child porn…. this is why i always tell girls not to send nudes… nothing good ever comes from them.
Well with new relationships and traumatized people, especially when one has never had a relationship I am aware there is some learning to do and compromises to discuss, which we do.
But your opinion is where I lean, not sure if that’s me being logical or just submitting to my trust issues and jadedness towards love.
Nine hours a week of “free personal time” is a lot for someone with a full time job, a wife, and a one-year old.
Compromise. Cut it down to two nights a week (six hours) and spend an extra night a week doing whatever she wants to do. See how that works.
Then just put a boundary in place with him that you won't tolerate any sexual comments about you.
I'm so sorry for what happened to you. I suggest you do a bit of journaling and write down how you found out and how you're feeling right now. Re-read them when he comes back with a sad story about how sorry he is, cause you know he's gunna.
The issue is not chess, it’s lying
My heart breaks for you. That your husband and family can watch that and not see a problem is disgusting. I would also struggle to trust my partner if they couldn’t care for me, or were oblivious to such clear suffering, thwt they would give adequate care to my child. I really hope you find better support, from one mama to another, I am so sorry that your entry into motherhood has been such a nightmare, you deserve better, and you’re doing incredible.
You cannot make her happy. You can not solve her mental health. All you’re doing is subsidising her bed habits and poor mental state while she takes Advantage of you. Speak to your friends, those people who know and care for you. They will tell you the same thing. Walk away.
Sounds like a small fight got out of hand. Do you love him and are you mostly happy with him?
These are objectively complex situations. To address how you feel, I'd would certainly be dishonest to suggest that you're being unreasonable to have some sort of feelings about the situation. You're not crazy for questioning it. On the other hand, I fully assume there will be people who say it's completely unacceptable, and I think that's unfair.
At the end of the day, your boundaries are ultimately your own and we're in no position to argue against them. It's your life. Anecdotes generally aren't helpful, but I'll provide mine anyway. I'm a guy and I'm happily married. Both of us are secure in ourselves and our relationship. Traveling has always been important to us. In saying that, COVID aside, we travel both together and apart. A lot of people aren't good with that and that's fair enough. But healthy relationships can only work if there's trust. If my wife traveling somewhere makes me worried that she'll cheat, then why am I even with her? I'm with her because I'm confident she won't. I'm certain guys are going to hit on her. I take it as a compliment. But I know my wife has her own agency to shut things down and be faithful. I don't worry about it for a second. Her the same.
To come back to you, I get it; we all know what goes on in Thailand. But you need to ask yourself; if my boyfriend got propositioned, would he pursue it? If you think the answer's yes, then you should end your relationship. As for the friend wanting a “guys trip,” I don't think that's even remotely crazy. He might want to partake in everything you're worried about. Doesn't mean your boyfriend's going to.
But again, if you're not good with this then you're not good with this. You can create this boundary or deal breaker if you choose, and he can subsequently decide he's good with that or decide that doesn't work for him. Good luck.
That’s incredibly cringe for her to react so interested with you around, if that was the case.
Are you sure she was impressed?
He is actively preventing you from making your life and your children's lives better. At this point you need to leave him for their sake. He is a net negative in all your lives. Feelings do not matter more than financial security. If he cared about you and his family he'd be working with you, but you cannot build with someone who refuses to pick up a hammer.
I had the impression that OP knows what the investigation is about — if not, that'd be another huge red flag — but thank you for sharing that; I didn't realize anything about ongoing cases was live!.
Easy thing- be nice. shrug
She literally sent you proof of her infidelity, take it to a lawyer and start getting your ducks in a row.
Yea, I really think we all need therapy. From what I can see my partner is doing great when he’s interested in something. He’s not that incompetent and irresponsible so divorce won’t be an option.
Thank you. I think make slow, quiet plans to leave might be what I need to do
I don't tolerate people making fun of me, whether they're racist or not. How is that an additive in a relationship? It's definitely that he doesn't like that you're half white.
Your response was extremely immature and I don't think you are ready for kids because of that.
One, you completely disrespected your partner and kids will be even more stressful than having the discussion about having kids in the first place.
Two, you ran away from the problem and were manipulating her through your actions.
Three, you expect her to validate your feelings in the same breath you refused to validate hers.
None of this is on her. You royally messed up. You need to own your actions.
so don't be surprised when you're on the receiving end of this.
He has been warned.
Why bother? Just DTMF already and move on. You have been in a completely unsatisfying relationship for a year now, and all you’ve got from it is a “boyfriend” who ignores what you want, vacations solo, and publicly humiliates you (but is nice to you privately, presumably when he’s trying to spend intimate time with you). Odds are high he cheats on you when he’s doing solo weekends with his friends. Show some self confidence – “I can do better, and I don’t owe ANYONE, including HIM, an explanation.” – and Dump Him Already.
As someone who was a carer to mum too- dump this toxic pain the arse woman. I know it can be incredibly lonely & nude to have a mum with dementia, but you don’t need toxic shitheads as a supposed partner in your life.
I made it a mission to find a good partner when I was going through it & so I got rid of anyone who made me or my mum feel bad. No regrets.
I can pretty much guarantee you will.
How do you know tour boss has never done anything like this? I know how tempting it is to brush issues at work under the rug, be they small or very large, but this is is how (most often) men fly under the radar. The security of a good job is what so many people in power use to engage in this behavior. He has done this before and will continue to do so. This needs to be on his record.
If I were you I would start looking for a new job, but definitely have one in your back pocket if you decide to report him. If he has as much clout as you believe and nothing happens, leave the company. There’s always the possibility of him continuing/increasing his behavior but also…do you want to work for a company who protects assholes like this?
this is a very common trope that you'll find in age gap relationships where the women is obscenely young. They always make you think you're making the first move. They make it seem like they're so hesitant. But it's all manipulation. They lure you in, then push you away because it's so wrong, you're too young for them. They dangle a relationship in front of you, if only you weren't so young, even though you're so mature for your age… Then you prove your maturity! You ask them out, you pursue the relationship, because you're so mature!
They know people will question the relationship, so they convince you that you did it.
If ur happy being used then thats that. Enjoy tldr
there is something fishy about your mom refusing to say who it is. i am not sure why who it is is a secret, but your dad finding out who may make it worse if she won't tell him.
He’s probably just living a life he ain’t happy with.
Let him take a bath for an hour and smoke pot and get him to think about what he actually wants out of life.
Look up “love bombing” and cycle of abuse. He is testing you: to see if you’ll forgive him for acting this way. Ask yourself if you ever want to feel that way in agony again, because if you stay with him, you will.
“When you will come back your stuff will be before the door”
You are mistaken at least in the US.
I feel for you but just remember that a lot of white people (Im guessing your bf is wonder bread white) aren’t built to deal with Latinos. Gotta remember that in the future. Also your brother is out of line not shaking his hand tho. You should deal with that more than what your parents were doing
Yeah, I usually have pretty killer cramps. So the first couple days of my period I sorta just wanna stay in bed most of the day and flick the bean or something. Since we spend most of our time together i wanted to bring it up so he understands why i might not be around as much.
don't give him access to your money – he clearly struggles with money and control
Please google the definition of “exotic”
Hmm okay. This is a good perspective for me to hear. I didn't think I was 'teasing', I was just saying I've never had one. His dental hygiene is an ongoing issue as he rarely brushes his teeth and has bad plaque build up. He probably took it as a criticism.
I said something along those lines. Like “it’s not cool, it makes me feel very uncomfortable. I’m sure you wouldn’t like to come home and find me in your room” and she just said okay and started talking about food
well they DID discuss it for months and then he just didn’t get her what she wanted lol
OMG how have you put up with this shit for 8damn years?!
Your BF is wrong! This is not normal, it is not healthy. It is controlling, obsessive & toxic.
You need to understand that he does understand. Everything he did was an intentional act. He didn’t accidentally order you exercise equipment. He didn’t not hear you when you said you were upset about weight gain. He hasn’t not had the time or opportunity to make it up to you. He is choosing not to.
He saw you were looking forward to something. He saw a situation where you’d be happy and the center of attention and he actively took steps to shit all over it and make sure you couldn’t take away a single good memory from your milestone event.
You feel hurt because this is a hurtful situation. I guarantee you that you’ll have to beg and plead for the cat cafe and park outing and then he’ll sulk and moan through them.
This kind of behavior is intentional. He’s putting you in what he thinks is your place. You have given him the map by which to abuse you. Go to the cat cafe by yourself. Have a nice time and really be honest with yourself about why you are accepting this behavior.
Dude, if you don’t know if you want to be with someone after FIVE YEARS, then you’re wasting her time. Let her go and find the person she deserves to be with.
Thanks for input! If you had some time, I'd really appreciate some sources on that. It could take some time but BF usually is able to see some reason, so giving him some scientific proof for the way light sleepers work could be helpful.
As I wrote earlier, I've already done everything I can to make my sleep deeper. When you look up recommendations for light sleepers, I can check literally all of them. But I still wake up to light and noise, and I can hear the snoring through my special thick-foam earplugs. The only way to make my sleep deeper is to take benzodiazepines, which I know will knock me out 100%, but I won't be doing addictive meds, because fuck that. So it all kinda feels unfair, because I literally have no more solutions left while he did bare minimum and even with that he feels like it's totally out of his comfort zone.
he cheated on you and has ghosted you. your best course of action is to realise he's doing you a favour. please choose yourself. this man is not good to have in your life, so just let him stay ghosted.
Oh hon. First, dump him. Second, find a good therapist to help repair your self-esteem.