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Date: December 24, 2022
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You might start off slowly and just say you really like her and miss hanging out with her to see how she reacts. If she sticks with her friends, you know where her priorities are.
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You are definitely wasting your time. You are holding on to a relationship that he doesn’t want and stringing you along for. He has ex’s with him to show support and comforting him. It sounds like he ruined his previous relationship with his ex by leaving one woman for another. It’s not his the ex impeding him it’s his guilt. He doesn’t want your support and comfort. It’s time to move on.
This is exactly what would go through must girls minds cause just further insecurities. I always tell people I'm a brutally honest person, if my girlfriend got a nose job and i thought it looked worse after she did and she asked me i will be honest, i will tell her that i still love and her and that i respect her choice it's her body and she can do whatever she wants with it as long as she is happy but if i didn't like it i will her straight up that no i don't think she looks better after the surgery. I'm sorry but we need to stop being so sweet and sugarcoating everything in the path to ensure nobody's feelings are hurt.
I'll probably get downvotes for this saying though.
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Thank you. It’s naked for me to understand cause I would never do that and it feels gross/icky to me. But helpful to hear that it’s common/normal
I was going to use his Letter but after reading the other letter, i realized it was much better. I was waiting until the result came out to tell him, and I don’t even know this guy, he’s a friend of a friend
I don’t look at it though, I only went when someone sent me the video and I was already blocked. Plus I have those footprints thing turned off.
It does gave me big up and down and it makes me so confused. I feel I have been careful with people but this makes me feel like I really can’t have any interaction with anyone. Cuz he totally had no benefit from lying but he just intentionally gives me an expectation that I originally didn’t have at all. It’s like I don’t even want anything deep with him but I don’t see any point of him lying about his intentions or his plan. I hate getting lied to. I suggested to go to his place late at night means I’m there for hookup already he wouldn’t need to lie about it anyways. Like why would he even gives me an expectation to be friends anyways??
Op if he thinks you are going to baby trap him, he shouldn't sleep with you.
“No” and then silence is still “no”.
You can decide what you want to do about that and no one needs to judge you. You can try to forget about it, or go to the police – it's your choice now.
But I will beg you, please, get away from this person as quickly as you can. For your own safety.
Did you talk about marriage?
No. She’s just not that into you.
he told me I need to be more considerate, as she's asexual and sometimes she just finds sex itself revolting, and she didn't want me to keep bringing it up.
If u want to be with her, then okay u need to be more considerate,
But if u don't want to continue the relationship because u want a more active sex life… then no u don't need to be more considerate and it would be time to move on to someone who is not asexual.
Asexual people do not belong with people who want a sexual relationship. Period. You need to break up.
That's well said. I hope I don't trip over my words if I do go that route. Thank you.
I have lived in my house for almost 15 years. I have never told my age to a single neighbor.
She becomes insecure and slightly upset. She says she's someone that enjoys having a lot of data, which doesn't make sense to me. She also says “that's what your supposed to do in a relationship.” And also that if something happens to me, she'll know where I last was.
She didn't seem like she's lying but I kind of don't buy this.
A fair arrangement is that he pays you back 20K. If you’re getting married one day anyway, then he’ll get to benefit from that money again when you’re married, so he should have no qualms about doing it this way. But in the meantime, he definitely owes it to you. Keep a spreadsheet so you know exactly how much he has paid you back and exactly how much he still owes you.
I think that, in the name of simplicity and transparency, you should split household costs 50/50 again, and he should send you money monthly. The net result will be the same as if he is simply covering more of the household expenses, but you want to be very clear about how much he owes you and how much he’s paying you back. Keeping the two things separate will make that easier to track.
In the future, don’t lend money you can’t afford not to get back. Or don’t lend money without a SIGNED contract that states how and when the money will be paid back. ESPECIALLY such a huge amount of money. And keep your finances separate until you’re married.
Yay!!! Let us know how the video chat goes!
It’s how I view republicans. Not medical professionals. to me he’s a Republican and that’s all that matters.
How did you change your perspective?
Agree with this. From the other side, sometimes it’s not worth it or I don’t value it enough to say something. I don’t ghost or cut off, but i adjust the friendship.
No, I'm actually getting more than what I have right now. I have WAY less space, no backyard, and am in an unsafe area. There's 3 things I can think of off the top of my head. Plus the companionship and not being lonely ??♀️
If they can’t give you any evidence and won’t even give their name, how can you believe any of it?
Your wife has cheated on you with two different guys in the last few months. These are the only two you know about. I’m sure there are way more. What exactly are you trying to fix? It’s clear she is not going to stop having sex with other men. Is that not a deal breaker for you?
Just rip the band-aid off already
Bro, you dont have a gf, you have a sugarbabe. Took my gf and me like 2 weeks until the first sleepover
He shushed you? Repeatedly? And you’re still with him?
So you’re basically staying with someone that blatantly disrespects you…because…love? When he actually cheats on you because he’s tired of just look you’ll know I mean he already doesn’t desire or respects you…so…you’ll stay even then anyways. Why come on here to complain? Just take it lying down.
You can leave it blank. I did so with all my kids and I've had no issues from it
Lol
sweet! block her sister too. they both sound jealous and selfish.
I've asked once, she broke down and said that's not what she wants, so I never asked again
Wow, you invaded his privacy and he didn't even do anything. I'd break up with you. Not gonna lie.
She’s the one cheating and you bought everything so I assume everything is in you’re name? I’d throw her ass out on the streets and keep myself and the kids at the house. Theirs no damn reason why she should have a home.
my parents were 50/50 in missouri and my dad payed child support. but it’s not automatically the father. it’s whoever makes more. usually the father tho
???
If he's this puritanical in his moral code, then why did he ever expose his penis to you and allow you to touch him inappropriately?
Doesn't he know that this behavior in itself is abhorrent in the eyes of God? ….Sadly, this guy is so conflicted with his twisted sense of self, faith, and where he stands in relation to it all that you're not going to be able to fix it…he likely has a deep seated view of women as “temptresses” falling straight in line with “Eve” being responsible for tempting Adam into the sharing of the forbidden fruit from the tree of knowledge… You could be setting yourself up for becoming the focus of pent up rage and blame for all of his “mistakes” as your “lust, desire, and wicked ways” are leading him astray…
You want some advice…here is some advice…end this relationship, as quickly as possible, without malice, without blame, simply say you no longer believe you're a good match and move on. OR – Prepare to take the blame for everything that he PERCEIVES is wrong/immoral that goes on in your relationship. Good luck…
As someone who has had a very hot time getting beyond love, I would say that you are in the middle of your journey to get past this. Venting can be a healthy tool and I think its good that you can articulate all this in a self-reflecting manner.
The thing that's worked for me is to consider them dead to you. They don't exist anymore. All that you can do now is try to find someone else, which I'm glad to say IS possible. I think you'll always have feelings for this person, to some degree, but there was a time where you didn't know this person existed, then, suddenly, you found them and became happy.
The same thing is happening now. There is a person out there that you don't even know, but who can become a key part of your life. You just have to go find them.
I think you have to trust her here. And I agree it is a false equivalency.
This isn’t a normal friend. It’s her childhood best friend. And yeah, I know there’s a semantic argument to be had there, but if this is seriously a lifelong friend, then I don’t think it’s too odd for them to just crash on the same bed after a night of drinking. Sure they’re bi, and the friend might be in an open relationship. Your girlfriend isn’t in an open relationship though. So you have to decide if you trust her enough not to cheat on you.
Now if you have a strong sense that this friend is only here to try and hook up with your girlfriend, and you have evidence beyond her sexuality, then that’s worth a conversation… but as I read it now… I think they’re entitled to the benefit of the doubt.
Because she had a male best friend. Did you not read her post? He was a jealous dick. This is unfortunately common.
It didn’t. Try again.
A lot of people don't want advice, they just want to feel heard. Do you ask him what he's looking for? If he comes from a background where he wasn't validated much, this could be an issue.
That being said, it's perfectly reasonable also to be like, you seem really upset by this thing – what's going on? Is there a bigger issue? etc.
For sure you can't expect him to not feel angry (not saying you are, to be clear), but you CAN ask him to deal with it in a more productive way. Like try listening and validating, but if he expects too much of it, or it results in further problems, like therapy is likely the way to go. Be like, I want to be here and support you, but it seems like you have a lot more to work through than I know how to deal with – or something like that. Focus on expressing concern for him and set limits around what you're able to give so that you don't end up building up anger and resentment about it in return.
There's nothing wrong with what you are doing. As long as you understand why you are attracted to this guy and you aren't planning a long term relationship there's nothing to really think through.
If you wanted to start a family then I think time lines matter more and you'd just need to think it through.
My ex was like that and it was awful. He ended up stealing money and was basically a bum. Let him go. It will get worse. It is called financial abuse when they wont pay for anything and make you pay for everything. Good luck getting the fuckers out of your house when you kick them out too.
Well it sounds like not only does she need to learn to respect your relationship and act professionally, so does your bf. Because it seems he actually is aware of her behavior being inappropriate, but likes to attention. He needs to respect you and the relationship and set boundaries. If he refuses or makes excuses, doubt I would stay.
As Moon would say to Tiko – I call your Mother – return you.
Next time it happens call the police immediately.
If you insist on staying with him (which personally I wouldn't recommend) then he is going to need proper help and to take it seriously.