I always wanted to travel, even as a young girl. I didn’t get my chance until I was in my mid 20s. Your gf is going to expand her world in ways you cannot imagine. She will view Different cultures, food, experience, scenery and societal values in so many new and exciting ways and it will affect her life from then on. The problem is, that anyone who hasn’t travelled, may seem to her to be close minded, small and unworldly to say the least. She may not see you in the same way afterwards, and it will be almost impossible for her to just slide back into the life she has with you now. Be happy for her, that she is ready, willing and able to do this wonderful journey!
I'm not sure I could come back from that. I've been the “safe” person before, and it didn't end well. I'd be devastated to read it so plainly articulated.
Your “have family help” advice is spot on. Not only does it take a load off them both but moments like that really help you bond with your partner’s family. Moving itself is stressful AF and a big life change on it’s own. Add in having to adjust to living with your partner for the first time and having a bunch of home projects that need doing. All of a sudden feeling like your time isn’t your own, no time for hobbies, exhaustion, anxieties, having to adjust, seeing each other’s ugly sides for the first time. In his eyes he probably feels like she’s being inconsiderate by piling onto his already stressful plate and they both see each other as the bad guy and not communicating with each other about it. Moving in together is the most trying time of many couple’s lives and it’s easy to just grow resentment for each other when neither side is really understanding each other through this phase. It’s tough. It was tough for us and we’ve always had patience and understanding for each other even before we moved in together.
First, it's manipulative as hell. “Keeping you in check” uh, wtf?
Second, she's clearly not fully committed to you and your relationship if she can just casually have a dude ready to take your place at a moment's notice.
Good luck not tripping on all the red flags this girl is dropping
I always wanted to travel, even as a young girl. I didn’t get my chance until I was in my mid 20s. Your gf is going to expand her world in ways you cannot imagine. She will view Different cultures, food, experience, scenery and societal values in so many new and exciting ways and it will affect her life from then on. The problem is, that anyone who hasn’t travelled, may seem to her to be close minded, small and unworldly to say the least. She may not see you in the same way afterwards, and it will be almost impossible for her to just slide back into the life she has with you now. Be happy for her, that she is ready, willing and able to do this wonderful journey!
I'm not sure I could come back from that. I've been the “safe” person before, and it didn't end well. I'd be devastated to read it so plainly articulated.
Your “have family help” advice is spot on. Not only does it take a load off them both but moments like that really help you bond with your partner’s family. Moving itself is stressful AF and a big life change on it’s own. Add in having to adjust to living with your partner for the first time and having a bunch of home projects that need doing. All of a sudden feeling like your time isn’t your own, no time for hobbies, exhaustion, anxieties, having to adjust, seeing each other’s ugly sides for the first time. In his eyes he probably feels like she’s being inconsiderate by piling onto his already stressful plate and they both see each other as the bad guy and not communicating with each other about it. Moving in together is the most trying time of many couple’s lives and it’s easy to just grow resentment for each other when neither side is really understanding each other through this phase. It’s tough. It was tough for us and we’ve always had patience and understanding for each other even before we moved in together.
Why does it even matter if it's cheating?
First, it's manipulative as hell. “Keeping you in check” uh, wtf?
Second, she's clearly not fully committed to you and your relationship if she can just casually have a dude ready to take your place at a moment's notice.
Good luck not tripping on all the red flags this girl is dropping