If I were your wife, it would mean a lot to me if you gave me space and let me know that you were going to counseling to work on yourself and that you would like to go to couples therapy if I was ever ready. In my opinion, that is both the most and the least you can do.
Ask him if you can go through his backdoor, using something equivalent to his tiny pp or larger.
If I were your wife, it would mean a lot to me if you gave me space and let me know that you were going to counseling to work on yourself and that you would like to go to couples therapy if I was ever ready. In my opinion, that is both the most and the least you can do.