I’m unsure, in one way I’m happy. I feel like I’m coming into like my feminine energy more. I understand it makes him comfortable due to him feeling like he owes me.
On the other hand I feel guilty. I have a higher disposable, and less financial responsibilities. He has debt, car other stuff to take care of…
I don't think anyone can really give you advice. You know this is unhealthy. You and this girl aren't even the same people you were 11 years ago. I will say I feel sorry for your gf, and it seems really unfair for her that you've hidden this from her because you know it's deal breaking. I would not personally want to be in a relationship with someone who had to go to therapy in order to get over my being second choice. You're not really in a place where you should be in a relationship at all, and your gf will inevitably be hurt by your almost delusional preoccupation with a woman you really knew only as a teenage girl over a decade ago. You have given her no autonomy and removed from her the right to make an informed decision about the person she is involved with. Hopefully you recognize at some point that you're not healthy enough to be good for her, or good enough for her at this juncture in you're life.
Well, you have allowed her to go knowing it would cross all reasonable boundaries. Knowing she is capable of drunk sex before, would you be surprised if it happened again? I would be more curious if it is going to be with one guy or two or all three guys. One at a time or all three at once. Once ppl get drunk on holiday, who knows what could happen. Those types of questions are unanswerable as only 4 persons will know the answer.
She has a history of short relationships and probably ONS. I would move on since it is only a 3 months relationship. You will always have doubts about her sleeping with the guys with her.
I wish I could tell her that, but I am really honest here in saying she just treats me as invisible. Not even one word responses, nothing. I don't know how to communicate if that's even an option anymore.
Yes anxiety and social situations drain people and make them tired
I’m unsure, in one way I’m happy. I feel like I’m coming into like my feminine energy more. I understand it makes him comfortable due to him feeling like he owes me.
On the other hand I feel guilty. I have a higher disposable, and less financial responsibilities. He has debt, car other stuff to take care of…
I don't think anyone can really give you advice. You know this is unhealthy. You and this girl aren't even the same people you were 11 years ago. I will say I feel sorry for your gf, and it seems really unfair for her that you've hidden this from her because you know it's deal breaking. I would not personally want to be in a relationship with someone who had to go to therapy in order to get over my being second choice. You're not really in a place where you should be in a relationship at all, and your gf will inevitably be hurt by your almost delusional preoccupation with a woman you really knew only as a teenage girl over a decade ago. You have given her no autonomy and removed from her the right to make an informed decision about the person she is involved with. Hopefully you recognize at some point that you're not healthy enough to be good for her, or good enough for her at this juncture in you're life.
Well, you have allowed her to go knowing it would cross all reasonable boundaries. Knowing she is capable of drunk sex before, would you be surprised if it happened again? I would be more curious if it is going to be with one guy or two or all three guys. One at a time or all three at once. Once ppl get drunk on holiday, who knows what could happen. Those types of questions are unanswerable as only 4 persons will know the answer.
She has a history of short relationships and probably ONS. I would move on since it is only a 3 months relationship. You will always have doubts about her sleeping with the guys with her.
I wish I could tell her that, but I am really honest here in saying she just treats me as invisible. Not even one word responses, nothing. I don't know how to communicate if that's even an option anymore.