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… And if you have to scream it ?
So either she is lying, or instead of communicating with you she plays games to 'make you jealous.'
She thinks it's okay to maintain a friendship with this dude despite her blocking me from seeing ACTUAL friends for years.
Oh and she is controlling as well…
Red flags either way you look at it my dude.
I was gonna say, when my cats do something silly or ridiculous my wife and I might refer to them in such terms
There’s no need to speculate. Your phone track screen time. Check it.
So, I just go about my day with my meal prepping, working out, and I work. That's pretty much all I do.
If this isn't an exaggeration, then he's probably talking about it more than he realizes. And she probably misses the “old him” who had more time for her and more hobbies than meal prepping and going to the gym.
Last night we went and played trivia together. We are pretty social people so we do a lot of group activities, but when we are home I cook us dinner and we hang out and watch movies and tv shows and just unwind. We used to play a lot more games together than we do lately, so that's something I can definitely work on.
I tried getting my girl cousin involved and he didn't like that. His friend who is also my boy cousin warned me of him and my bf told me my cousins are trying to hurt me and paint a different picture of him. Involving others doesn't help.
Why would you be in a relationship with someone incapable reciprocating neither sexual attraction nor romantic feelings for you? That’s a friendship. Move on.
Except she explained that it was her boundary. By not breaking things off, he made one of two choices: stop watching it or lying to OP.
It doesn't matter if it's “normal” in society. People are allowed to have boundaries, and people are allowed to leave if they don't agree with them
HAHAHA oh shit good point
Its an inside joke lol
You can't be this dense OP, the woman he's living with is not an ex. They're still together and you're just the other woman,
You are coming to your senses or else you wouldn't be asking for help. You can clearly see their behavior toward you is abusive. What you have is an addiction, an attachment started with slow manipulation, not a relationship. You are being constantly pulled back and made to feel like you can't leave. Let me tell you, whatever excuse or reason she gives as to why you should stay, she is lying. The real reason is the same reason you go back for a cheeseburger even though you're full, or a hit of coke even though you're supposed to be at work and you know you're about to lose yourself the 3rd job in a month. You don't have to want it or like it to need it.
But you don't need it. You have other issues and those issues which have nothing to do with her are keeping you tethered to a relationship you know you need to leave. You don't need a relationship to fix those problems. You need professional help for the abuse you suffered and you need community.
Don't make the mistake of thinking you need to do this yourself. When you leave her, gratefully accept your brother's help, your friend's help (more people will be willing to help than you think), and rebuild a community that can support you through this. You deserve help and love. If what's-her-name needs support or help or love, she can get it elsewhere. You will never be able to give her what she needs to become a better person because she already sees you as her victim and plaything. She is responsible for finding her own help. Stop worrying about her and keep yourself safe. Do the right thing for yourself leave. Then immediately contact your family and friends and let them help you, just like they want to do, just like you deserve.
I do think you’re overreacting.
It’s only been two days and before that, she thought she was dating a child free man. Let her time to process. It must have been a shock to you, but it is also to her. If you already have a kid, it changes a lot of the dynamics she probably projected for your future together.
If you decide to get involved in the life of this kid, she’ll become some sort of stepmother and the time and money you have would be split between seeing your child and spending time with your girlfriend. If you have children together, they would have an elder sister/brother from another mother. I don’t even mention how she’d feel if she never wanted kids in the first place. That’s a lot.
I would be more worried if she didn’t think this thoroughly before deciding to keep the relationship going or leaving. It might sound like leaving is extreme here, but she doesn’t think of it because she has conditional love for you, she thinks of it because she doesn’t know if she can go forward with you without harming herself, you or potentially your daughter in the process. That’s normal and it would be unfair to blame her for that.
Be patient and answer her questions and let time go. You’ll figure it out.
Did an AI write this?
With this update, he got exactly what he wanted from the beginning, and throughout it all, his wife turned out to be the villain of everything, from the beginning right to the end, all her. Nobody to blame but the wife in his story. How sad. Another sad thing is that one day, the kid will learn math and then figure out by ages and dates, that her daddy was a skeezy groomer who perved her mom when she was basically still a kid. And that's on top of knowing that her dad was married to his wife (Villian of Everything) when she was conceived with said groomed girl.
So what would happen if he bites his tongue? Would he slap you or kick you under the table?
His behavior is despicable.
Peeing outside it just feels better
You need to rub your sister's face in the dirt and make her pay for her animal abuse. If your parents are too weak, it's up to you. Stand the fuck up and act like a man.
Cancel that dude. It's clear that he doesn't respect your wishes or you in general. Don't waste anymore time in seeing him.
She probably needs someone to talk to because she's holding everything in. One of the best gifts you could give her right now is to let her talk. Start by asking her questions that will jog her memory and let her share those. Questions like “What was the sneakiest thing you ever thought you got away with but your mom knew all along” and “What was the best vacation you ever did with your family” and stuff like that. Questions that will let her remember happy and fun times. That will help her prepare for the loss and the coming grief.
my boyfriend has been sent One thirsty photo by a friend and cut them off immediately. thats not a friend imo shes disrespecting your relationship and to me your boyfriend isnt respecting it by keeping her around
Thank you, your words really helped feel better about this whole situation.
Tell-tale sign of an entitled user? They get mad at you when you reasonably disallow them from using YOUR property.
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But consider that she has a baby coming. Being a single mom sucks as well…
You need to cut your ties with her. She is not good for you.
Immature people give ultimatums grown-ups communicate and make their decisions based on that.
I dated a guy who did the same thing. When the truth came out, he was either selling drugs or sleeping with other chics. He would arrive super late, and then eventually ghost me…this went on for way too long. My point is, there's something shady going on here, and it's probably not worth the head and heartache.
CYA.
Cover Your Ass.
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Any friendship that doesn't respect the fact you're in a relationship isn't a true friendship. Friends support you and encourage you to be the best version of yourself.
I don't know which of your contradictory comments is true, but if you've finally done it – remember for the next time that you don't do subtle.
Clear, calm and immediate.
We were taught that you should admit when wrong, apologise if sincere but the other person is under no obligation to accept. So a similar concept- sorry didn’t mean it’s fixed. But it did mean you accepted that you hurt someone.
I am not from the US. Where I am from we have enough wellfare for housing, food, clothes. We also have places in my country where the smallest one room appartment is almost 1000 $ and then there are places where you can rent a bigger one for 350$. And you can travel by train for 24 hours for just under 50$.
So yeah, I have no idea how that works in your place. Well in the end you need to think about if its your problem or his and if you want to make it yours.
Even if he groomed her, she didn't have to hang with him all night when she's 20/21.
Ok, but women can never be sure men aren’t cheating, either. Most of a relationship is faith. After all, she’s not cheating, what if he’s projecting? Should she demand monthly STI tests? A monthly polygraph? Constant access to his electronics? Or should she behave like a normal adult and, absent evidence to the contrary, trust that her spouse is being faithful?
What if she was hanging out with friends who said men are all dogs and all cheat? At this point she probably should take the test to shut him up — but after she does, he should apologize and stop hanging around with friends who are trying to drive a wedge in his marriage.
Meanwhile, in the red states
Can someone summarize this pls ?
“I was your husband for X amount of years, but just so you know, I lied to you for a long time” would make anyone pissed off. Imagine if an old friend sabotaged your life behind your back, came back a year later and told you? Would you say “It's fine, it happened in the past”? No one would. Get real.
So if you get cervical cancer and he surgeon is a man…should you just…not be treated?
What if you get diagnosed with endometriosis? Breast-cancer? What about PCOS? POTs?
Dump him.
Please consider helping people without the unnecessary personal attack wedged in there. Thank you.
I m not going to read everything because it is very clear this relationship isn't working and will never work. You need to find someone who is about on the same level as you when it comes to hobbies, hygiene and life in general.
Opposites attract is the biggest relationship bullshit ever told. Be brave, break up politely, wish her good luck and go on with your life.
None of this is your fault. Just to make that clear. He’s the one who caused you to leave him for cheating. It’s better to give a final note to his parents that you’re going no contact for your own mental health. You matter in this too.
Ok thank you will do this
33 year old dating a woman a decade younger than you are and drinking to the point of blackout and verbally abusing your partner?
Yeah, you're a walking red flag.
It's time to grow up and stop acting like a teenager. Get some therapy and fix yourself.
*than. Why would you compare how you love your kids and wives ? There are 2 different kind of loves. I think questioning your divorce should be done exclusively on the quality of your relationship with your wife. Whether you are able to face your issues and fix those together, whether you have both the mental flexibility to change, whether you want deep inside of you to spend your life with her.
A little while ago you made a post about how it’s difficult for you to feel sympathy for your friend who has BPD, and AVPD+BPD really isn’t a gredt combo in a relationship. You also admit that you don’t think she appreciates you enough, but she could also never BE able to appreciate you enough. Even if she hadn’t turned you down, this relationship would be a bad idea. I think you should move on from the idea of being with her romantically and either keep focusing on your mental health (especially with regards to the “you could never please me enough anyway” thing because that mindset will probably destroy any relationship you get into) or peruse some dating apps and start trying to find common ground with other women
Quite simply, the guy doesn’t really give a shit. Stop beating a dead horse and d
Yay, that's the way to husband!
Look, it's not that age gap, he'd have no problem dating sometime 5 years younger(likely), it's that you're older and that in his eyes means he can't manipulate you
Take the chance if it's her to tell her. She's wanting to uproot her life to be with him. She needs to know.
What she does with the info is up to her. I would want to know.
I personally don't think that little things like that BECOME big things. Usually it's more like the little things are symptomatic of a bigger issue.
These little things seem to mostly be focused on 2 things. 1- you aren't satisfied with his level of cleanliness and 2- You don't think he is properly respecting your life and the efforts you have to put in.
I would just maybe talk about those bigger things and you can use the specifics as an example. I don't really think though that it's fair to criticize the way someone else lives if you don't live with them. So I would focus more on the 2nd issue.
I personally don't think that little things like that BECOME big things. Usually it's more like the little things are symptomatic of a bigger issue.
These little things seem to mostly be focused on 2 things. 1- you aren't satisfied with his level of cleanliness and 2- You don't think he is properly respecting your life and the efforts you have to put in.
I would just maybe talk about those bigger things and you can use the specifics as an example. I don't really think though that it's fair to criticize the way someone else lives if you don't live with them. So I would focus more on the 2nd issue.
Give him space. You can't jump immediately from dating to friends unless it was a mutual break up, and even then that's rare.
Just because you found it easy to jump from romantic to platonic doesn't mean it's the case for him. He probably needs time to process the fact that the romantic relationship ended.
This right here.
You’re right. I have a lot to learn. I messed up horribly and I have nobody to blame but myself. I’m terrified to lose her but I guess it’s time to go our separate ways. I’m so scared of being without her even though I know it’s for the best and as much as it’s probably not true I feel like I’ll never get over her and compare every future girl to her. Thanks for being honest with me
you’re going to change so much over the next five years of your life. You’re going to seem like a completely different person.
relationships. This young usually don’t last.
Just accept that you're changing and your happiness is #1
Therapy and discussions with your spouse are healthy ways to deal with these feelings. Disappearing completely for weeks on end is not. If you make a commitment, you stick to that commitment.
I think you understand why your boss is harassing you.
you encourage him by using rent and other expenses as an excuse,
It's okay to block the boss, the man is already with you, he can always reach you. (excuse)
I think you will go to bed after a while.
Trying to get rid of your boyfriend who wants you to do the right things against workplace abusers instead of finding a new job and complaining about the boss and his family.
your life is terrible
The only stupid thing you did was to get back together with someone who cheated on you.
Apologise for threatening to kill you?!?!?
Get out for gods sake. Before he does.
Is this your relationship? Let your friend have her relationship and you yours. I mean talk to her about your concerns but other than that I’d stay out of it
Are you saying that I can’t have a grievance with how she looks, what gave you the inclination that our relationship is fading or that I would latch onto something else to complain about?
????
The moment someone pulls out- Be A Real Man… that person is a big fat NOPE. It shows a toxic lack of empathy and honestly shows a blatant disrespect and disregard for you as someone she supposedly cares about.
This is not someone you want in your life, and God forbid, not someone you want as a possible parent to a child. No child needs a mother with zero empathy and a desire to conform to toxic vintage gender stereotypes. Hello, it's 2023 not 1923.
It's your life though, so if you really want to hitch your wagon to someone stuck with warped ideas who doesn't want to listen, go you. Here's my suggestion, explain to her that her attitude was disrespectful and showed a disregard for your feelings. If go goes with the: oh, man up route – know it is never ever going to change.
Stop projecting that there is something wrong with YOU. It has nothing to do with your looks, or personality. Stop making excuses for him. You are worthy of a man who respects you, and loves you. If he won't answer you it is because he doesn't want to admit the truth – he still has feelings for his ex. It has nothing to do with him wanting to protect you from your insecurities.
Also: allergies can escalate to a point, where they are life threatening as aspiratory ways get swollen close.
For one: if you don't already have: get an allergy emergency kit and keep it on you.
Second: deal with the allergy factor!
THAT girl! No use sticking to somebody who would rather stick to her bloody shampoo.
Tell her, she can cuddle and have sex with it. For all you care. Because you are out.
Your health can't afford a chemical girl like her.
I had something similar to this—I (29F) started dating a guy (36M). He told me was still friends with his ex, but it was platonic. Whatever, didn’t love it, but who was I to put an end to his friendship that predated me.
Then I saw a notification from her on his phone that said “Always❤️” and I was like wtf. I should mention they talked everyday and he still had a photo of them on his IG where he referred to her as his girl—it was old, back when they dated.
I ended up snooping on his phone and saw how much they talked and a lot of it was about me—I saw them making jokes about me—“Does your gf still hate me and my dog ?” “yeah lmao”—so I lost it and told him two things: he could be friends with her or he could date me, but he couldn’t have both.
He ended up picking me and deleting the photo of them on IG and he deleted her off IG. I didn’t ask him to remove her from IG, but it’s nice that he did. He told her they couldn’t talk anymore and that was it.
Had he decided to remain friends with her, I would have exited the relationship. The only woman you should be second to in a relationship with a guy, is his mother. And even then, after due time, you should out prioritize his mother.
You're welcome 🙂
If it has to be that u stop communicating for a few days, that's what it's got to be until she can manage to either pull herself back enough that she isn't being abusive or cruel or she develops distress tolerance techniques.
Be open and communicative about how u want to go about it when her hormones are acting up, she can get a period tracker app to kind of prepare for the rollercoaster
In some cases self awareness is probably one of the most useful tools. Like for example, if I'm getting irrationally angry I'll straight up say “I'm really irrationally angry right now because of my hormones and I know continuing this conversation is not going to get better” or like “I really need you to leave me alone right now because I'm not going to be a good person right now” sort of thing to create space and communicate that it's not him
Thankfully I get more depressed than angry so I just allow myself to have a pity party and indulge in things that make me feel good. Sometimes I don't want to get out of bed and I just want to cry so I allow that of myself, I allow myself to fall apart if I need to.
Also get hugs, if I've been a horrible bitch I give in, apologize and ask for a hug and I'm lucky enough to get that pretty much all the time that I ask after I lower my defenses and admit that defeat. It helps. Allow her to drop a sense of grudge and just aim for the best for both of u even if it means u have to drop a heated fight. Sometimes, continuing is only going to make it worse so accept what happened and try to move forward
I do recommend to write things down in a journal if things are said that are really upsetting to u and also the situation that brought it about so when she's out of the thick of it u can talk about it (in a way that's non confrontational preferably) and try to find a solution when you're both thinking clearly and can process it. Slowly hopefully she'll become more aware of hurtful words and pull herself back from it or at the very least stop gaslighing you
I do believe that taking fish oils, magnesium and B vitamins and vitamin d are helpful but not a Dr. I think it helps me but can't be sure
Some women find birth control helps but birth control also destroys sex drive. SSRIs can also be helpful, from what I've heard, some women only take them around ovulation and not the whole rest of the time which is kind of crazy to me.
Good luck, I encourage you to try to make this work if she's going to work with u but also stay mindful that you don't totally sacrifice yourself for a battle she isn't even trying to win
Wow…that's a tough one… why can't he stand up to his parents? Do they control the money? If he can't stand up for you then you don't need him in your life…see him last time…sleep with him…Do what you have to do to get him out of your system and find a guy who will be there for you.
Your boyfriend is a deadbeat that treats you like crap. Why on earth is a lovely , decent girl like you settling for being his bangmaid and doormat. What the hell. Dump him and get therapy.