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Date: November 4, 2022
I would say NTA but in the future keep in mind when dating someone that much older than you. While I acknowledge you were honest and open about your situation and needs, your ex was still working off his timeline/timetable and that's something still relevant. I do also try to remind guys to be careful about dating girls that much younger than them just to be fair. On one hand maybe his age definitely contributed to his attraction. But you can't separate his attractive qualities, whatever they may be, from his age.
My sister used to date a guy that was 35 while she was 23 at the time. I'm not sure what the attraction was between her and him but our family did try to point out the risk. What if the guy wanted to marry and have kids before my sister even turned 25? Eventually she had to break up with him over specific reasons I don't recall. Now she's currently dating a guy over 6 years that's 2 years younger than her. They can bond over much closer things from nostalgia. Sometimes it just works out that way.
I used to have a friend(we're no longer friends. That's official) that obsessed over guys older than her. Apparently us guys our age “weren't cool enough”. But what can you expect from a guy in his early 20s compared to someone in their mid 30s? Money? Life experience? We're stumbling along in the path of life just like she was. At least us guys admitted we were stumbling and she did things like get fooled by three youtube accounts under one guy to form a romantic relationship live. If her lack of life experience didn't show up here, then what does?
I may be going off on a tangent but my point still stands. Keep age gaps in mind and in context. They are very much relevant to the guy just as your age is to you. Stick to your boundaries sure. I agree getting married and having kids late 20s or early 30s is ideal. But you can imagine guys would like that too if possible.
I no longer plan on going in angry, at this point I just want to resolve the issue
Good for you, OP. I am happy for you and I wish you all the best in your new life without your god-awful husband.
Well, ask her if she knows what a plus one is
I, for example, don't
You need to cut losses, break up, and move on. You're never going to see that money again.
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We met on an live forum that was related to babies and pregnancy, and we ended up adding each other on snap and exchanged some pics. She explained that she's looking for a guy to be a sperm donor through natural insemination. I told her I would be open to it but do not want any role in fathering the child or paying child support, and she said she just wants to get pregnant and, while she would like for a me to visit for birthdays and special events, it's okay if I play no role.
She lives about 7 hours away from me and said she's going to be ovulating in the next couple of days and offered to drive to my city now to impregnate her and that her 12-year-old son is currently at her mom's house which means now is a good time to come. She then became a little more hesitant and said she may need to talk to her mom to make sure she can babysit him for the entire time. I said we can always go next month and that later works better because I also would need to make arrangements with my work schedule. And she agreed.
I know this all sounds like a huge red flag scenario, but I wanted to have a child of my own, even if I don't father him/her. I've always had this desire, but I cannot explain it. I'm just worried about the possibility of her changing her mind on child support and attempting to track me down (she only has my name and general location now and plans to drive back after I impregnate her).
Am I dumb for considering going through with this?
He doesn’t care about wrecking you.
Consuming porn isn’t a “non-issue” for a lot of people.
No. Do NOT remain friends with someone who threatened you. Cut all ties. Ghost him and block him.
So it was a mutual break-up? If yes then I can agree that you can stay friends.
Who the hell does that to someone on their wedding day??? You need to tell your husband and have him handle it. That was nasty of them.
I am trying to get to you, I meant to be rude, and what did I say wrong? Tell me. Everything I said is true. Word for word.
You're setting an example for your kids, what if you have a daughter next, she'll get cheated on and possibly be in an abusive relationship because her relationship was modeled after yours, doesn't that scare you?
That was a straight up thanks for the dick card
Horseshit. There's always a choice. You chose to lie about someone who has been nothing but decent to you. You not only lied about her, when she found out you did, you cranked up the douche and attacked her for being upset.
You lie about her to everyone, attacked her verbally, and want to know how to get your friend back? You don't deserve that friend. Maybe if you stopped being such a coward you might not find yourself in this mess.
You have come to the WRONG place for advice on dating-age differential
Neither of us actively practice. But my parents seem like they would refuse to accept it if we get married any other way.
Maybe that's some people's definition of platonic but it sure as hell ain't mine and I would not be okay with that.
Jfc. He’s mean to your daughter. Leave yesterday.
Big difference between cheating because the opportunity came up, and planning for it, buying flight and hotel tickets, building up an itinerary for it.
Did we all have a stomachache on Valentines day? He told you from the start that he doesn't like those things, even if you do he doesn't.
Doesn't exactly mean he is not serious, he did wanted to see you after all, even if for a walk because he was in pain (which he can't control) but just like you don't have to tolerate someone not doing what you want/like he doesn't have to make himself do something he does not feel comfortable with, specially after he told you that he doesn't like those things.
If this is a deal breaker for you then that's okay, but you can't expect someone to do something that, in their words “makes him cringe” just because you like it, it's not fair for anyone.
Was this modelled to you as a child? It this how your parents treated each other?
What makes you put up with this appalling treatment? Summon all your strength and tell him to get the hell out.
That is double standards. And not “fair” in any way.
Do either of these guys have feelings for you? I mean, maybe they think if they wont let you sleep with strangers then you will start sleeping with one of them?
He doesn’t value you. At all. Cats or you. Seriously. You’re health is deteriorating rapidly and he’s choosing video games. You don’t have a husband, you have a child. A sulky teenager who doesn’t care. Plus, dishes left in the sink for 2 weeks? Who lives like that?
She’s not emotionally secure.
She wants attention and options.
You need to break the fantasy. If you were back in love you would be more than a situationship.
She’s not really dedicated to you and you know it. Wishing for her won’t fix it.
Gigantic red flag. It's not about the ponytail. It's about control, and him seeing if he gets away with controlling your appearance by making a lot of manipulative actions and making such a huge deal about it, that it warps your reality because this can't be normal and there you are, so shaken that you think you did something wrong. And control doesn't end in a simple ponytail, that is how it starts in this case. If you obey him now, he will know that he can get obedience from you by pulling this act again with another thing he wants to control about you, it will really be the frog in the slowly heating water when you look back in a few years and wonder how did you get to that horrible life situation.
You say that you are tired to wonder how he feels, which means this manipulative behavior is happening over and over. RUN. End the relationship now. No explanation needed, just tell him “this is not working for me” and end it, don't get dragged into an argument, break ups are informative, not a debate.
A normal person that doesn't like a certain style in which you comb your hair would tell you “I'm sorry to tell you this, but I don't think the ponytail favors you, I like how your hair looks on you when you do this other style”. They wouldn't be angry and treating you badly because of your choices regarding your hair.
Interesting…
I'm going to find the source of all this, and see if I can get the original video from them. And also find out why they lied to hurt us.
Best of luck, I hope it all works out well!
It would explain why he downplays your relationship to his coworkers
How?
Wait till you have been together for a year or longer.
That way you can judge if he is a keeper. If you tell him now and he dumps you he might tell everyone.
Right now your in the early stages of dating.
First thing: get tested for STDs. You should not put yourself in danger to tell his wife. You don’t know exactly what he’s capable of. He was able to conceal a lot from you. If you’re going to remain in that town, no need to make an enemy of the police. In a different situation I would encourage you to tell but in this case, your safety is at risk.
By not going out with him , this is a huge red flag.
No worries! This was also pre pandemic for me. So it could easily be less common.
Lol. Apparently we’re the only ones
So that’s your answer.
She’s not going to change and you can’t protect her. Unfortunately , she was failed in parenting a long time ago. Sorry.
What you can do, is focus on yourself and break the cycle. You kicked him out. At least he is not hanging around.
Run far away from him!
One of my siblings is very openly gay
Your wife is controlling and abusive and let her divorce you as that will free you from her and how will she work if she had y hard you doing all you do for her. She will have to find and pay someone to do all you do for her. You need to ask yourself what do you get out of this relationship? From what I see nothing
I was with my ex for 10 years and we're still friendly with zero sexual attraction. We also shared a dog.
I think we disagree on that. Sure, you can be super pumped about your relationship and every one of us has gotten high off that new relationship energy; however, I think that also a lot of us recognize that it's just that: you're riding the endorphin wave and that, as OP wisely pointed out, it's still early and a lot can happen in a year or two.
That's why you just enjoy the high and sublimate it into all that balls-to-the-wall early-relationship sex cavalcade.
You are being severely abused by this man during the most vulnerable time of your life. You are exhausted, sleep-deprived and your hormones are in turmoil. Once your baby is older and you are more at ease, you will realize that his actions are unforgivable. Please start making an exit plan. At least, you got a wonderful, much-wanted child out of him. Get him to sign away his rights and tell him to fuck off. You raise your daughter by yourself better than raising her with a monster.
She has cheated on you.
I will not tell you whether to stay or go. However I can address what would it take for you staying to not completely insane.
She cuts this “friend” off, here there can be no nehotistion. If she refuses to go no contact you should just leave.
Second if she blames alcohol, then she admits she is prone to cheat on you while drunk. For you to stay she needs to agree to never get drunk without ypu around.
Finally you need to establish firmly what your boundaries are. I suggest making things like kissing other people something off limit.
Sounds like the bowling was deliberate on your hobby night.
Time to set some real boundaries otherwise your life will be this shit for ever.
You have a selfish twat for a husband.
i’m an almost 20 yr old woman and i refer to women as females in some contexts. idk why everybody thinks it’s such a horrible derogatory term..
I disagree. It’s completely understandable if sometimes you can’t take a day off to celebrate your partner’s birthday but usually in those cases, people at least TRY to make some time for their partner and if they can’t, they try to plan something for them another time. Clearly her birthday means a lot to her and there’s nothing wrong with that. He does not seem to make any effort or even care which is the issue here. Like someone else said in one of these comments, there’s a difference between “hey I’m sorry i can’t make time for your birthday during a busy period but why don’t we have a special dinner Saturday night where I’ll have more time” instead of just saying “I’m busy so I can’t”. There should be effort and compromise which he isn’t giving at all. I think her feelings are valid and don’t see how it’s childish.
Encourage him to start looking for another job. His current job sounds like bullshit.
Why is she using credit cards at all? Mine are for emergencies only. I use debit for everything. I only use credit cards for something like an unexpected repair that I don't have enough in my account to cover.
I know some people are dependent on credit cards to live!, but you say she is a Dr. and you set up auto pay so it doesn't sound like she can't afford to pay them.
If she has credit card debt, she could consolidate all the credit cards to one and only have one bill to keep track of, as long as she no longer uses the paid off credit cards.
I wish he was my boyfriend jsksjsjs we're on a situationship? So to speak
That part didn’t strike me odd because I was raised by a single parent that overextended to send me to private school. So it made sense.
How long have you been together? Are there other issues at play? What is his motivation for restricting you? Are you otherwise happy and see a future?
You want to marry your fiance, not her mother. Having her mother live with you this early in your relationship is clearly a deal breaker and you need to gently frame it as such. She can move to be near you and visit but she can't on-line in your house. You and your wife both deserve to officially start your life together in privacy.
If you're both happy, it's fine, don't overthink it. You're both still very young, you will both change.
Don’t help him cheat. You know you should t do it. You know it’s wrong. It also doesn’t help you get over him at all.
He’s a coward. He’s weak. Block him and move on. All he’s going to do is make you feel worse.
You don’t have to – this response and your previous ones say it pretty well. Was just offering you some room to explain where you were coming from, since it seems many people don’t agree/understand.