Yes. When your partner is lying, I have no qualms about going through their phone, privacy for me at that point doesn’t matter anymore. Maybe I’m wrong, but the truth for me should always come first. And if they get upset, oh well, they’re cheating… too fucken bad.
You shouldn't ignore it. Someone told you about feeling they used to have, they didn't even try to pursue you yet, and that's enough for you to want to end your engagement? That is a neon sign indicating that you shouldn't be getting married. This confession should not have rocked your perception of your relationship so severely, and it would be unfair of you to marry your fiance now.
This level of “cold feet” does not happen to everybody.
Idk I think she's being kinda irrational here. I don't like to see my husband masturbate either but the one time I walked in on him doing it, I was the embarrassed one. I felt bad for interrupting his time if anything lol and frankly I'd appreciate that he didn't wake me up and took care of it on his own.
Idk why you got downvoted. I wasn’t 100% sure about my sexuality until I kissed a girl. Having the experience isn’t necessary but sometimes it can help. Anyways, if you don’t feel comfortable with it then you should tell her as such.
So it sounds like there are 2 separate problems here: mismatched sex drives after having kids, and his reaction to it.
The first can be worked on, if you want to. You can talk to your doctor, you can talk to an individual therapist, you can talk to a couples therapist, you can look for a counselor specializing in sex. There are things to try, and it may be possible for you to slowly, healthily come to a place where you're both happy with your sex life.
The second problem is his reaction, and that is where this falls apart. As others have said, his response to your lack of sexual interest/desire is to get coercive and insulting, which is not a good sign. The things I mentioned above only work if you're both reasonable people who are willing to bend and give, and he does not seem like he is. I'd ask you to think about your overall relationship–is this the only time he acts in these selfish, unhealthy ways? Or is it something that occurs in other parts of your relationship?
Of course you don't, but when you get anywhere near his age you'll be disgusted at what's gone on. The idea of dating a 21 year old will be properly repulsive to you.
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Yes. When your partner is lying, I have no qualms about going through their phone, privacy for me at that point doesn’t matter anymore. Maybe I’m wrong, but the truth for me should always come first. And if they get upset, oh well, they’re cheating… too fucken bad.
Yeah show her all the Reddit posts you made looking someone to fuck in Houston, that will definitely persuade her.
You shouldn't ignore it. Someone told you about feeling they used to have, they didn't even try to pursue you yet, and that's enough for you to want to end your engagement? That is a neon sign indicating that you shouldn't be getting married. This confession should not have rocked your perception of your relationship so severely, and it would be unfair of you to marry your fiance now.
This level of “cold feet” does not happen to everybody.
…or the landlord just wants to stick to his rules.
Idk I think she's being kinda irrational here. I don't like to see my husband masturbate either but the one time I walked in on him doing it, I was the embarrassed one. I felt bad for interrupting his time if anything lol and frankly I'd appreciate that he didn't wake me up and took care of it on his own.
Idk why you got downvoted. I wasn’t 100% sure about my sexuality until I kissed a girl. Having the experience isn’t necessary but sometimes it can help. Anyways, if you don’t feel comfortable with it then you should tell her as such.
So it sounds like there are 2 separate problems here: mismatched sex drives after having kids, and his reaction to it.
The first can be worked on, if you want to. You can talk to your doctor, you can talk to an individual therapist, you can talk to a couples therapist, you can look for a counselor specializing in sex. There are things to try, and it may be possible for you to slowly, healthily come to a place where you're both happy with your sex life.
The second problem is his reaction, and that is where this falls apart. As others have said, his response to your lack of sexual interest/desire is to get coercive and insulting, which is not a good sign. The things I mentioned above only work if you're both reasonable people who are willing to bend and give, and he does not seem like he is. I'd ask you to think about your overall relationship–is this the only time he acts in these selfish, unhealthy ways? Or is it something that occurs in other parts of your relationship?
I don't think of myself as a victim.
Of course you don't, but when you get anywhere near his age you'll be disgusted at what's gone on. The idea of dating a 21 year old will be properly repulsive to you.