You sit him down and tell him his treatment of you is not appreciated. That's really not a constructive way to discuss things with your partner and you deserve someone willing to discuss issues and work on solutions, not someone who's a combative dick when he's the cause of whatever he's mad about. Step 0 here should be to decide if the difference in what time you get up is actually the biggest issue in the relationship.
Is there not a common area in your rented space? Even if you only rent a room, unless it's a motel room, there should be some variety of common area. And if it is a motel room, I'd start looking for rooms to rent in a shared home instead – it'd likely be more cost effective and give you some common room space. If that's not possible, you two need to sit down and settle on a sleep schedule compromise where you decide what hours will be considered waking hours and which will be sleeping hours for the space. And if he sleeps into the waking hours, he'll either get up or deal with you making noise more politely than he's dealt with this so far. For sleeping hours, it'd probably also help to get a fan or white noise machine so if you do wake up and do something quietly that it doesn't immediately wake him up, too. That's worked well for my husband and I since I get up almost an hour before he does on weekday mornings.
But seriously, take a step back and really look at this relationship first – it doesn't sound like a very happy or even a good thing, and from a snippet this small, that's concerning.
What happens if she does say no? I don’t want to ruin my friendship or get ostracized out of this friend group as wimpy as that may seem
You sit him down and tell him his treatment of you is not appreciated. That's really not a constructive way to discuss things with your partner and you deserve someone willing to discuss issues and work on solutions, not someone who's a combative dick when he's the cause of whatever he's mad about. Step 0 here should be to decide if the difference in what time you get up is actually the biggest issue in the relationship.
Is there not a common area in your rented space? Even if you only rent a room, unless it's a motel room, there should be some variety of common area. And if it is a motel room, I'd start looking for rooms to rent in a shared home instead – it'd likely be more cost effective and give you some common room space. If that's not possible, you two need to sit down and settle on a sleep schedule compromise where you decide what hours will be considered waking hours and which will be sleeping hours for the space. And if he sleeps into the waking hours, he'll either get up or deal with you making noise more politely than he's dealt with this so far. For sleeping hours, it'd probably also help to get a fan or white noise machine so if you do wake up and do something quietly that it doesn't immediately wake him up, too. That's worked well for my husband and I since I get up almost an hour before he does on weekday mornings.
But seriously, take a step back and really look at this relationship first – it doesn't sound like a very happy or even a good thing, and from a snippet this small, that's concerning.