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My boyfriend and I are planning to get married, but he hasn’t proposed to me yet. He recently separated and divorced his first wife, which was a long, drawn out process.
I know that married couples manage their finances and money differently and I am interested in hearing some opinions about this.
My boyfriend has a ton of debt from his previous marriage and from his divorce, so when we live! together and eventually get married, he will have virtually nothing in his checking account and the only equity that he will have is his house, which is valued at 160K.
I have a considerable amount of money, which I began saving during early adulthood to make a down payment on a home. I also have a pretty large family inheritance of around 400k.
My boyfriend and I argue every time that we discuss this, because I have told him that I would feel more comfortable having my own separate bank accounts when we get married, and we can create a joint bank account together which we can both deposit money into, in order to pay for our living expenses. He thinks that I am being unreasonable for asking for this and he says that it’s a sign that I don’t trust him or care enough about our relationship.
He is basically telling me “Once you get married, you stop being an individual. You need to have a marriage mindset and not a single person mindset“. I told him that I don’t feel comfortable turning all of my money/life savings and my family inheritance into a marital asset by putting it in a joint bank account with him. We discussed the possibility of creating a prenup to protect my money (so he can’t turn around and divorce me and take everything from me), but he doesn’t like that idea either. He says, “A prenuptial agreement is starting a marriage off on the wrong foot, because it already shows that we don’t trust each other and we’re not on a united front“.
I’m also concerned that my boyfriend likes to be in control of everything and he micromanages things. He even creates spreadsheets of monthly monthly expenses and everything that he spends money on while living with a partner. So, if I’m coming into the relationship with much more money, I feel like he’s going to micromanage it and not allow me to spend my own money because then it will become “our money“.
He is expecting us to try getting pregnant within the next six months, and he wants me to see a fertility specialist to see if I can have more than one child during the pregnancy because of my age. He wants four children, but I don’t know if that’s possible (or healthy) for me to do. I talked to him about how pregnancy (with multiple babies) might destroy my body, and I told him that I would want to have a tummy tuck procedure afterwards if I have loose skin on my stomach afterwards. He doesn’t seem to approve of this, and he stated that plastic surgery costs “too much money” and also it’s “selfish“ of me to expect him to pick up child care responsibilities while I’m recovering from having such a surgery. So I already feel like I’m not being allowed to spend money on things that I would need to do in the future for my mental health.