My wife (C) and I got married in 2019 after meeting in college and being together almost 10 years. We online in the UK. We were overall pretty happy until last year where a bunch of external stuff happened and got on top of us, COVID, work pressures, my mom passed away in 2020 and we had bought a home together in 2021 which required lots of work to get it how we wanted. All of which made us in a bit of a rut.
C had been wanting for a number of years to take a year out to travel and work in Australia together, with potential to move there permanently. I had already spent a year there when I was younger and wasn’t sold on it and had just started a masters degree funded by my employer so didn’t want to leave my life at home. We agreed she would go for a year, I would visit her a few times and she’d be back for Christmas – it would be tough but I felt it would get it out of her system and we could then get on with our lives. In July 2022 she travelled over there and in August she broke up with me on the phone saying she wasn’t happy. She said she had applied for a job with permanent residency so was going to make her life there, I do not believe she was cheating I think it was what she wanted at the time. Safe to say I was devastated. C cut all contact for the next few months.
I was pretty down through much of the next few months but began to start to create a new life for myself. I began dating a great new girl (R) in the new year and getting excited about my future again. In around February C reached out and we talked for a few months. She decided to come back in May and wanted to win me back saying she’d made a horrible mistake. She has been back for a few months now and we have talked. She has changed and wants to make amends.
I have kept cultivating my relationship with R through this time and I am now stuck for what to do. I feel horrible to turn C down but I am also hurt by what she did and worried of the work it will take to repair our relationship. On the contrast I am really happy with R we get on super well and have similar views about many things, we have made so many plans and she has really helped me get back to a place where I feel happy again.
Should I try and repair things with C or should I throw myself into my new life with R?
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