A little background. I have been with my Wife since the age of 15. We got married 11 years ago and have 2 teenage children. We have a fairly normal life. Until recently a fairly active romantic life.
On Sunday we had a lovely day. We had a nice walk, some lunch a couple of drinks and it was really relaxed and romantic. We got home and our male friend (40), who is single, basically invited himself around as he made us feel guilty about him being alone and upset about a problem.
I wanted him to leave but my wife made him feel overly welcome and switched all of her attention to him. After an hour she asked him if he enjoyed his night with our other friends the night before. (these are group of friends that I introduced her to, originally my friends, who are couples).
My Wife said to him in front of me completely blaise she was dissapointed that she couldn't make it as she had been working.
This all sounds quite normal apart from the fact that I knew nothing about the invite and when I questioned it was told by my Wife that I was only invited if I was going with her as a couple and the invite was through her, not directly to me. I had spent that night in alone.
I was furious and held back talking about it until our friend had left. When I brought it up she told me I was wrong to be upset and left me to sleep on the sofa on my own.
I have since tried speaking with her twice and she shut me down both occassions, called it pathetic, stupid and not worth falling out about.
We haven't spoke since then and she is acting like everything is normal. I have since messaged her to tell her how I feel which is peed off and belittled; her reply is, it's ridicoulous and she is moving out after her girls holiday next week.
Can anybody make sense of what is going on? Am I being over reactive or am I lucky she is leaving?
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