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You like someone who ignores you, who calls you vile names, and just abandons you? Seriously being alone is much more fun and better than being with an asshole like that. Trust me, you can and will find someone better once you get rid of him and start to actually believe that you deserve someone better. But in the mean time, dump him, and enjoy being single. It's great fun being able to do what you want when you want. And you don't have to be in a relationship to get companionship or sex nowadays.
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ok first, you need to take care of yourself. stop trying to contact him, call a lawyer
yes they cost money but in the end are invaluable
block all of the people who support this child running out on a wife and baby
no more messages, no more calls, just tell them that all contact will be through a lawyer
you should in no way, shape, or form, act like you have to care about his feelings. he wants you to be subservient to him and make his feelings the only ones that count. do not fall for it
no grown man who has not been redpilled would act this way over a friends problems.
and i am going to highly doubt the friend was babytrapped. i dont know if you understand this, but it takes 2 people to get pregnant
if the friend didnt want to get pregnant, he could have wrapped it up
it sounds more like he and his group of friends all hate women.
I truly dislike this subreddit sometimes. The so called “relationship advice” on here, oftentimes, ignored any sort of nuance and is usually not helpful at all. I found that r/dating has offered me better advice.
First, don't fight for the relationship. He wants to offer up a vague statement without saying what he found on your phone and he wants to break up with you, give him his wish. Break up with him. He does not deserve you. You said you were not cheating or are not cheating and you blocked all of the guys just for him, but he wants to be the asshole and break up with you for something that probably goes against his religion or some bullshit! Break up with him
You being frustrated because she’s on her period is entirely a you problem. It’s a week max of no sexual activity, get over yourself. If no oral sex in general is a deal breaker for you and she doesn’t like it then end it, it’s really not that complicated.
Your request to have some space should be extend indefinitely. Sorry for your lost. She has internal issues, lying and baiting, that she has to work through and you're in no condition to help her with what you're currently going through with the lost of your dad. Sometimes, the red flags review itself and we mustn't ignore them because of the distractions in our own life. Think about it, if the situation were different, then her lies would have been the catalyst that create even more problems between you and your dad. What greater reason to terminate the relationship than that? Who else will she be using to generate more discourses between you and them for whatever reasons she may have? Just be straight and don't think too much. Tell her “My dad passed away xx day. You're liar and manipulator. Good bye.” then move on.
I don't understand how most people are so worried about using or checking each other phones. Me and my husband don't check each others phones but we do use each others phones. That is trust.
Ok. Here's the thing. If this guy is conservative in this way, he should set his standard and stand on it.
The fact that he broke up then begged back is more problematic by a far margin, IMO.
Either he isn't confident enough to stand by his principles, so he's not really sincere about the change of heart and its only a matter of time before there's another issue.
or
They were never principles in the first place, and this is about securing his place in the relationship by knocking you down.
You guys were right the first time. Keep it moving.
That's a discussion you two need to have with each other as he may need to carry you for that period.
I can afford to take the time off.
Then why weren't you? He drove 4 hours to see you and you weren't taking the time off knowing he was coming? Money is important, and he is important. As you move forward in your relationship with him, how are you going to value them? What about once you have a house and/or kids?
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You like someone who ignores you, who calls you vile names, and just abandons you? Seriously being alone is much more fun and better than being with an asshole like that. Trust me, you can and will find someone better once you get rid of him and start to actually believe that you deserve someone better. But in the mean time, dump him, and enjoy being single. It's great fun being able to do what you want when you want. And you don't have to be in a relationship to get companionship or sex nowadays.
So, obviously NTA.
INFO: Is there any additional history between you and friend's fiance that would cause her to act this way? Is she an old ex of yours? How long have you known your friend? How long have you known his fiance?
How is it weird to not know that? I feel like a lot of people don’t know it. They don’t really teach this type of stuff anywhere
Don't date asexual people if you want a sexual relationship. Duh.
You need a lawyer buddy.
Taking pictures, or knowing pictures were taken, actually makes our brains remember less detail.
ok first, you need to take care of yourself. stop trying to contact him, call a lawyer
yes they cost money but in the end are invaluable
block all of the people who support this child running out on a wife and baby
no more messages, no more calls, just tell them that all contact will be through a lawyer
you should in no way, shape, or form, act like you have to care about his feelings. he wants you to be subservient to him and make his feelings the only ones that count. do not fall for it
no grown man who has not been redpilled would act this way over a friends problems.
and i am going to highly doubt the friend was babytrapped. i dont know if you understand this, but it takes 2 people to get pregnant
if the friend didnt want to get pregnant, he could have wrapped it up
it sounds more like he and his group of friends all hate women.
I truly dislike this subreddit sometimes. The so called “relationship advice” on here, oftentimes, ignored any sort of nuance and is usually not helpful at all. I found that r/dating has offered me better advice.
Love does not conquer all. If you can't make a realistic business plan together, it's just a matter of time before it all goes sour.
Men get postpartum depression too and it shows up like this. Not excusing him. Just throwing it out there as something to consider.
First, don't fight for the relationship. He wants to offer up a vague statement without saying what he found on your phone and he wants to break up with you, give him his wish. Break up with him. He does not deserve you. You said you were not cheating or are not cheating and you blocked all of the guys just for him, but he wants to be the asshole and break up with you for something that probably goes against his religion or some bullshit! Break up with him
You being frustrated because she’s on her period is entirely a you problem. It’s a week max of no sexual activity, get over yourself. If no oral sex in general is a deal breaker for you and she doesn’t like it then end it, it’s really not that complicated.
Your request to have some space should be extend indefinitely. Sorry for your lost. She has internal issues, lying and baiting, that she has to work through and you're in no condition to help her with what you're currently going through with the lost of your dad. Sometimes, the red flags review itself and we mustn't ignore them because of the distractions in our own life. Think about it, if the situation were different, then her lies would have been the catalyst that create even more problems between you and your dad. What greater reason to terminate the relationship than that? Who else will she be using to generate more discourses between you and them for whatever reasons she may have? Just be straight and don't think too much. Tell her “My dad passed away xx day. You're liar and manipulator. Good bye.” then move on.
I don't understand how most people are so worried about using or checking each other phones. Me and my husband don't check each others phones but we do use each others phones. That is trust.
Ok. Here's the thing. If this guy is conservative in this way, he should set his standard and stand on it.
The fact that he broke up then begged back is more problematic by a far margin, IMO.
Either he isn't confident enough to stand by his principles, so he's not really sincere about the change of heart and its only a matter of time before there's another issue.
or
They were never principles in the first place, and this is about securing his place in the relationship by knocking you down.
You guys were right the first time. Keep it moving.
Yes, thank you! 100% agree.
my degree would extend for another year.
That's a discussion you two need to have with each other as he may need to carry you for that period.
I can afford to take the time off.
Then why weren't you? He drove 4 hours to see you and you weren't taking the time off knowing he was coming? Money is important, and he is important. As you move forward in your relationship with him, how are you going to value them? What about once you have a house and/or kids?