My fiancé is a little more conservative than I am, but, he respects my point of view too. He and I agree on many things, like abortion being legal, addressing people by the pronouns they choose, LGBTQIA’s rights, things like that. He is more conservative in terms of believing in state’s rights, and gun rights, but he is in agreement of stricter gun laws, and strongly believes that our country’s mental healthcare is in strong need of reformation. I don’t agree totally with gun rights, but he knows this, and respects me on this. We are allowed to differ. Your bf does not respect your boundaries, and that’s a huge issue. There is nothing wrong with breaking up over this, it makes you incompatible, and again, nothing wrong with that at all. You do you girl, and on-line a happy life. Even if the next person you date doesn’t completely side with your political views, as long as you respect each other, that’s a healthy relationship.
I gathered the Christmas gifts that I had got him and threw them in his car
Personally, I would have returned them to the store(s) I bought them from (on-line or off) and gotten my money back. That may be the only worthwhile thing you get out of this on-and-off relationship that frankly should stay off.
At some point, you're going to have to learn to be on your own, otherwise you'll be the perfect target for abusive men who prey on scared girls' insecurities. Most people start this around 18 when they leave for post-secondary. Since you missed that critical milestone, it explains why you feel inadequate in that way. Consider this to be your chance to experience freedom.
You too are not compatible on several important issues, that's reason alone to break up.
Personally, I wouldn't call this relationship a 'mistake'. You were together – happily – for a long time. and now you are not happy. Things change. People outgrow relationships (especially in your 20s).
I could go into some of the things that jumped out to me, that maybe you or your girlfriend could address, but…you have such a long laundry list of issues it seems like it's time to say good bye.
I do want to, but I have a suspicion that he has another girl so it's driving me crazy and making me desperate like that :/
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My fiancé is a little more conservative than I am, but, he respects my point of view too. He and I agree on many things, like abortion being legal, addressing people by the pronouns they choose, LGBTQIA’s rights, things like that. He is more conservative in terms of believing in state’s rights, and gun rights, but he is in agreement of stricter gun laws, and strongly believes that our country’s mental healthcare is in strong need of reformation. I don’t agree totally with gun rights, but he knows this, and respects me on this. We are allowed to differ. Your bf does not respect your boundaries, and that’s a huge issue. There is nothing wrong with breaking up over this, it makes you incompatible, and again, nothing wrong with that at all. You do you girl, and on-line a happy life. Even if the next person you date doesn’t completely side with your political views, as long as you respect each other, that’s a healthy relationship.
I gathered the Christmas gifts that I had got him and threw them in his car
Personally, I would have returned them to the store(s) I bought them from (on-line or off) and gotten my money back. That may be the only worthwhile thing you get out of this on-and-off relationship that frankly should stay off.
At some point, you're going to have to learn to be on your own, otherwise you'll be the perfect target for abusive men who prey on scared girls' insecurities. Most people start this around 18 when they leave for post-secondary. Since you missed that critical milestone, it explains why you feel inadequate in that way. Consider this to be your chance to experience freedom.
You too are not compatible on several important issues, that's reason alone to break up.
Personally, I wouldn't call this relationship a 'mistake'. You were together – happily – for a long time. and now you are not happy. Things change. People outgrow relationships (especially in your 20s).
I could go into some of the things that jumped out to me, that maybe you or your girlfriend could address, but…you have such a long laundry list of issues it seems like it's time to say good bye.
Good luck OP.