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Room for on-line sex video chat NekoPeach
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Languages: en
Birth Date: 2000-09-15
Body Type: bodyTypeAverage
Ethnicity: ethnicityWhite
Hair color: hairColorBlack
Eyes color: eyeColorBlue
Subculture: subcultureRomantic
Date: November 23, 2022
There's little context here. How old are you both and how long have you been together? Do you ever spend time together? Do you go out on dates?
Just a casual $20K gift. No big deal.
Come on. You cannot be this oblivious. You should have talked to her husband first.
I will, thank you so much for your words
Smoked, your GF's abusive and controlling behaviors cannot be excused — but perhaps can be explained, especially if you would speak to a psychologist in your city. They may be due to her having very weak control over her own emotions (i.e., a lack of emotional skills she had no chance to learn in childhood). My exW has that problem. If it is an issue for your GF, you likely would be seeing 4 other red flags.
The first is a strong abandonment fear. I therefore ask whether, a few months into your relationship, she started showing strong jealousy over harmless events involving other women — or tried to isolate you away from your close friends and family members? She would view your spending time with friends/family as your choosing them over her. Moreover, she usually would hate being alone by herself.
Second, you would be seeing her rely heavily on black-white thinking, wherein she tends to categorize some people as “all good” (“with me”) or “all bad” (“against me”) and will recategorize them — in just a few seconds — from one polar extreme to the other based on a minor infraction.
Because she also uses B-W thinking in judging HERSELF, she would rarely acknowledge making a mistake or having a flaw. Doing so would imply, in her mind, she is “all bad.” She thus would blame nearly all misfortunes/mistakes on you and view herself as “The Victim.”
Further, to “validate” her victim status, she would keep a detailed mental list of every infraction/mistake you ever did (real or imagined) and would not hesitate to pull out the entire list to defend herself in the most insignificant disagreement with you. Moreover, this B-W thinking also would be evident in her frequent use of all-or-nothing expressions like “you ALWAYS…” and “you NEVER….”
Third, you generally would not see her directing her anger at casual friends, coworkers, or total strangers. She usually gets along fine with them. Rather, her outbursts and temper tantrums almost exclusively would be directed against a close loved one (e.g., against you, a sibling, or her parents).
Fourth, you are convinced that she truly loves you. But you frequently see her flipping, on a dime, between Jekyll (loving you) and Hyde (devaluing or hating you) — often making you feel like you're walking on eggshells around her. Such flips would occur in a few seconds in response to some minor thing you say or do. A few hours or days later, she can flip back just as quickly.
Smoked, have you been seeing strong occurrences of all 4 of these red flags?
“you can do it I just don't want to see it” is a pretty reasonable arrangement that I've had in previous relationships. At the same time it feels like her plan of not doing anything about it isn't going to work. Y'all need to sit down properly and discuss the issue as equals. I don't think grovelling is a good strategy because it's gonna make her feel like she needs to put her feelings aside for yours. You need to come at this appreciating how she's feeling and trying to come up with a compromise. And if it means you can only master bate when she's not in the house then that's just what you might have to do for the sake of your relationship
An invitation is not a summons. Like others have said, a simple ” No, but thank you ” is just enough. If they inquire more about it (which I doubt, but if the conversation just comes up out of curiosity), you can say it's just not something you're interested in but respect that he is.