Saying you're wrong implies you knew what you were doing.
Your husband didn't break down the ins and outs to this type of thing and you had sex the way you are comfortable with that your husband should have known was a red flag.
Your husband pushed you into this just for his own pleasure, he has no right to be mad.
P.S
Was this guys single at a swingers party??? Or was he dragged there by his wife?
I'd focus on the fact that your new partner is incredible compared to your last. Tell him about your anxieties with being left on read for a long period of time, and hopefully, he'll endeavour to never do that to you. Waiting a few hours or until the end of the working day should be expected if someone is busy, but a whole week by your ex is completely unnecessary.
honestly? i think you could’ve communicated better. it sounds like she wants someone who’s more available than you.
you could’ve said “hey, i really enjoyed our date yesterday. just letting you know, i’ll be pretty busy with ___ but i’ll text you whenever i get the chance!”
To this day, I still don’t believe people can not respond within a day. I see all of u Mfs on ur phones 24/7 ain’t no way ur not responding cause u busy
Genuine question, I honestly don't mean this in a mean way: what do you see in him? What qualities does he have that made you fall for him? What does he do on a daily basis to show that he appreciates and cherishes you?
Yea… you sound largely Co dependant and clingy. With that said I think she's trying to ghost you out, and updating her tinder is kinda a clear beak up, especially if you guys have agreed to be exclusive.
This is really naive. You can’t save someone else from a cult they were born into, but you can certainly save yourself from getting involved at all. You’ve been together less than a year. It’s no time at all. Don’t hitch your wagon to his when you’re so young and you have plenty of time to date and find someone whose values actually align with yours.
Just this morning I was thinking about all the stupid things I did in my 18. Dating an old abusive guy is one of those stupid things. I have one of those mon
I am not sure how serious your condition was, but assuming it wasn’t too terrible, I believe he was there for you quite a bit and the overnights were over and above what most partners would’ve done. I think your expectations were a little too high , when ur sick it is a more vulnerable and emotional time. Apologize for the argument and thank him for the effort he put in. When I had my baby 2 mknths premature my husband (now ex ) didn’t even stay the night the first night and I was totally traumatized and baby was in nicu.
What a twit your friend sounds like. Someone advises you not to do something potentially dangerous or detrimental to your health and your friend says they are being controlling. Get a new friend.
Seriously? That’s ridiculous. When they are sleeping … they are sleeping, and don’t need to be watched. Who is watching him sleep from midnight to 5am?
I owe my mom coffee for her wisdom. “You can accept that he doesn't put you first or you can leave. But he'll never change.” That's for the first 4. That #5.. *whistles* I guess the question is.. honest or co-dependent? Is he actually willing to sacrifice having kids to be with you? Or is he just telling you what you want to hear so he's not single?
We’re hopefully going to get her perspective in her own post:
“My boyfriend doesn’t like to DO anything.”
Then we will find out she is super involved in local arts or theater, or she free climbs and snowboards on weekends. Or she’s super crafty and runs a card making and wine club. Or all of the above! We know as little about this woman as her boyfriend does.
“The moment I acknowledged someone as my BF, he has full control over my body sexually.”
Woah. Wtf? That’s not how consent works. If that’s your kink, more power to you bc you’re consenting to be in that kind of relationship. But that 100% isn’t how it works outside of that kink scenario. I dgaf if it’s an “acknowledged” bf, husband, wife, whatever. Consent is consent. You don’t lose right to consent just bc you’re in a relationship.
Absolutely, happy to have helped! I hope it goes well with your girlfriend and that you can remain friendly, if not friends. Just because relationships end doesn’t mean they all need to be burned to the ground. You seem like a great guy, you’ll do well out there. Best of luck!
I believe you read the tldr version, which may have not shown the complete picture. I knew from the beginning that he had alot of female friends which I am ok with and don't really care about, I have met them they seem to be ok. I have nothing against that and its not about trust here, I trust him and he has never made me question it. However this trip is making me uncomfortable not because I don't trust him but because I have some anxieties of my own.
Talk to her, tell her that you want more cuddle time, she might want to cuddle with you than her plushie.
Lmao
Wow three comments back to back huh? Somebodies upset about something which doesnt involve them
Wowwwww and your this guy’s “friend”
Saying you're wrong implies you knew what you were doing.
Your husband didn't break down the ins and outs to this type of thing and you had sex the way you are comfortable with that your husband should have known was a red flag.
Your husband pushed you into this just for his own pleasure, he has no right to be mad.
P.S
Was this guys single at a swingers party??? Or was he dragged there by his wife?
Yeah, I’ve done that. He’s offended by toys and vehemently denies he has kinks, just preferring very basic positions 🙁
Tell me you don't understand basic biology or women's rights without telling me.
I'd focus on the fact that your new partner is incredible compared to your last. Tell him about your anxieties with being left on read for a long period of time, and hopefully, he'll endeavour to never do that to you. Waiting a few hours or until the end of the working day should be expected if someone is busy, but a whole week by your ex is completely unnecessary.
Perfect union. You're going to be together, forever.
honestly? i think you could’ve communicated better. it sounds like she wants someone who’s more available than you.
you could’ve said “hey, i really enjoyed our date yesterday. just letting you know, i’ll be pretty busy with ___ but i’ll text you whenever i get the chance!”
To this day, I still don’t believe people can not respond within a day. I see all of u Mfs on ur phones 24/7 ain’t no way ur not responding cause u busy
Genuine question, I honestly don't mean this in a mean way: what do you see in him? What qualities does he have that made you fall for him? What does he do on a daily basis to show that he appreciates and cherishes you?
I know porn is normal in some relationships but I felt uncomfortable about it in mine and then I told him if he watched it I'd end it with him
Alright buddy
Yea… you sound largely Co dependant and clingy. With that said I think she's trying to ghost you out, and updating her tinder is kinda a clear beak up, especially if you guys have agreed to be exclusive.
Sometimes, other people just hit it off better, and feelings change. Dick move by the friend but you just gotta say it is what it is.
This is really naive. You can’t save someone else from a cult they were born into, but you can certainly save yourself from getting involved at all. You’ve been together less than a year. It’s no time at all. Don’t hitch your wagon to his when you’re so young and you have plenty of time to date and find someone whose values actually align with yours.
If he thinks this is ok why would he stop? He doesn't see anything wrong with what he's doing….as long as HE'S doing it not you.
You don't need to find a new one right away. Just get away from this one ASASP.
What are you going to do if she jokes about you raping her or molesting kids? That shit will haunt you forever even if you're totally innocent.
Just this morning I was thinking about all the stupid things I did in my 18. Dating an old abusive guy is one of those stupid things. I have one of those mon
I am not sure how serious your condition was, but assuming it wasn’t too terrible, I believe he was there for you quite a bit and the overnights were over and above what most partners would’ve done. I think your expectations were a little too high , when ur sick it is a more vulnerable and emotional time. Apologize for the argument and thank him for the effort he put in. When I had my baby 2 mknths premature my husband (now ex ) didn’t even stay the night the first night and I was totally traumatized and baby was in nicu.
It sounds like you are just guessing. But even if he did get over you is that not ok. What is a acceptable time limit?
What a twit your friend sounds like. Someone advises you not to do something potentially dangerous or detrimental to your health and your friend says they are being controlling. Get a new friend.
Seriously? That’s ridiculous. When they are sleeping … they are sleeping, and don’t need to be watched. Who is watching him sleep from midnight to 5am?
I owe my mom coffee for her wisdom. “You can accept that he doesn't put you first or you can leave. But he'll never change.” That's for the first 4. That #5.. *whistles* I guess the question is.. honest or co-dependent? Is he actually willing to sacrifice having kids to be with you? Or is he just telling you what you want to hear so he's not single?
Woof
We’re hopefully going to get her perspective in her own post:
“My boyfriend doesn’t like to DO anything.”
Then we will find out she is super involved in local arts or theater, or she free climbs and snowboards on weekends. Or she’s super crafty and runs a card making and wine club. Or all of the above! We know as little about this woman as her boyfriend does.
“The moment I acknowledged someone as my BF, he has full control over my body sexually.”
Woah. Wtf? That’s not how consent works. If that’s your kink, more power to you bc you’re consenting to be in that kind of relationship. But that 100% isn’t how it works outside of that kink scenario. I dgaf if it’s an “acknowledged” bf, husband, wife, whatever. Consent is consent. You don’t lose right to consent just bc you’re in a relationship.
For me it was my stomach has grown a bit
Absolutely, happy to have helped! I hope it goes well with your girlfriend and that you can remain friendly, if not friends. Just because relationships end doesn’t mean they all need to be burned to the ground. You seem like a great guy, you’ll do well out there. Best of luck!
Just don’t. Marrying early is common in the military. As is divorce.
Have you seen online video? FaceTime?
You mention that you work together. Are you both at the same level at work? Are you competitors for the same position?
If you were to be promoted ahead of him, will he be likely to drop the little nugget about your skillset?
> I asked if he wanted an open relationship.
Things are a blur when you're not the one outside looking in.
But this guy is a mess and lying. Stand up for yourself.
Sorry for making this post scrambled
im so proud of you! this has to be hard! take an deep breath, you got this!
Time to celebrate! This guy is a manipulative, immature ass. You dodged a bullet! Be glad to be done with him, and have higher standards next time.
what does this mean then? Did she put herself in queue for various therapists or did she give up?
I’m very open to changing my mind and welcome you to do so, but with all due respect, your approach isn’t convincing me otherwise.
That being said, I almost never refer to the Turkic people as Mongoloids in every day conversation.
Holup. I’m white and do none of those things. I’m very confused. Has my life been a lie Reddit?
Why are you going to miss it? How long have you been together?
It's also March and prom logically isn't for another what, 2-3 months? What's going on?
I believe you read the tldr version, which may have not shown the complete picture. I knew from the beginning that he had alot of female friends which I am ok with and don't really care about, I have met them they seem to be ok. I have nothing against that and its not about trust here, I trust him and he has never made me question it. However this trip is making me uncomfortable not because I don't trust him but because I have some anxieties of my own.