I’m afraid that he would try to use it against me. I made a terrible mistake in the past by putting his name on my mortgage, and I learned my mistake to never put his name on anything. Also, every time I try to help him, he tries to use it against me. With his name on the birth certificate, I would be giving him equal rights, and as a mother I want to do everything I can to protect my baby. If there’s ever a custody battle, and he takes the baby, the police wouldn’t be able to do too much because he would have equal rights. We would have to go to court, and I don’t want to risk anything like that from happening.
While there may be some reading into behaviors and insecurity on your part, he messed up.
Instead of talking about how you were feeling and what he did to contribute to it, he just shamed you and defended himself.
If it was a male friend, the way he treated you would still have been hurtful to anyone. That it is a female friend he lived with for 10 years would make any GF feel even more uncomfortable.
I wouldn't say move on or stay, it depends on how you move forward from this point. Are you able to continue to talk about what happened and how to move forward?
What about the suffering and hardship you're condemning yourself and your daughter to by staying?
I’m afraid that he would try to use it against me. I made a terrible mistake in the past by putting his name on my mortgage, and I learned my mistake to never put his name on anything. Also, every time I try to help him, he tries to use it against me. With his name on the birth certificate, I would be giving him equal rights, and as a mother I want to do everything I can to protect my baby. If there’s ever a custody battle, and he takes the baby, the police wouldn’t be able to do too much because he would have equal rights. We would have to go to court, and I don’t want to risk anything like that from happening.
Ask yourself, are you okay with such behaviour? If not, fucking leave already
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While there may be some reading into behaviors and insecurity on your part, he messed up.
Instead of talking about how you were feeling and what he did to contribute to it, he just shamed you and defended himself.
If it was a male friend, the way he treated you would still have been hurtful to anyone. That it is a female friend he lived with for 10 years would make any GF feel even more uncomfortable.
I wouldn't say move on or stay, it depends on how you move forward from this point. Are you able to continue to talk about what happened and how to move forward?