Well… now you know your dad has random scare tactics. Time to play the game with him if he tries to scare you again. Just act concerned, and know that nothing is going to come of it. If anything did come of it (God forbid), you just don’t answer the door, or whatever the situation is. You don’t respond to his calls or texts for about 30-60 mins cause “you’re in the shower”. Then you say that you are leaving the house and won’t be back for about 2-3 hours (or however long it takes for it to be too late for someone to come over). He’s trying to make your life difficult with these stupid scare tactics, you can push back and play games too.. it’s really simple
This is definitely a conversation to have in person, and I would do it before you guys try to take things further.
I have been the SO on the other side of things and my advice would be not to tell him ahead of time, there isn't really a way to do so without causing unnecessarily worry or anxiety. Just wait until you guys are alone and approach it as “hey I know we've talked about going further with things, I'd like to share something personal with you before that happens” and just go from there.
Also for many of these types of “sharing deeply personal info” conversations there isn't one correct reaction to new information, but this is one where there absolutely is, and his response will tell you a lot about him. His reaction should be empathy and compassion for you! It is natural to also be angry or sad on someone's behalf when hearing something like this, but if his anger at the other person is a bigger part of his response than compassion for you it is a huge red flag. Anything except support, love and empathy is also a huge red flag as well.
This is a very hot thing to share so props to you for having the courage to share this with him! I hope the convo goes well and wish the two of you the best.
It's not cheating. You and your wife need to talk this out. If she was doing the same with a guy at the gym you wouldn't react the same, right?
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Well… now you know your dad has random scare tactics. Time to play the game with him if he tries to scare you again. Just act concerned, and know that nothing is going to come of it. If anything did come of it (God forbid), you just don’t answer the door, or whatever the situation is. You don’t respond to his calls or texts for about 30-60 mins cause “you’re in the shower”. Then you say that you are leaving the house and won’t be back for about 2-3 hours (or however long it takes for it to be too late for someone to come over). He’s trying to make your life difficult with these stupid scare tactics, you can push back and play games too.. it’s really simple
i had sex?
This is definitely a conversation to have in person, and I would do it before you guys try to take things further.
I have been the SO on the other side of things and my advice would be not to tell him ahead of time, there isn't really a way to do so without causing unnecessarily worry or anxiety. Just wait until you guys are alone and approach it as “hey I know we've talked about going further with things, I'd like to share something personal with you before that happens” and just go from there.
Also for many of these types of “sharing deeply personal info” conversations there isn't one correct reaction to new information, but this is one where there absolutely is, and his response will tell you a lot about him. His reaction should be empathy and compassion for you! It is natural to also be angry or sad on someone's behalf when hearing something like this, but if his anger at the other person is a bigger part of his response than compassion for you it is a huge red flag. Anything except support, love and empathy is also a huge red flag as well.
This is a very hot thing to share so props to you for having the courage to share this with him! I hope the convo goes well and wish the two of you the best.