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Date: December 2, 2022
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My brother was in the same situation and requested a paternity test. The woman took some offence, didn’t respond then literally moved house. When she was discovered 3 years later, the child was a miniature version of my brother but he got confirmation anyway. One DNA test later, he began to slowly build a relationship with his daughter.
Don’t let this person out of your sight until you’re sure.
Your current BF is disloyal, selfish, and a worm. His actions speak louder than his attempt to make you feel better after being outed.
Please take command of this situation and act out of strength. You have been here before and due to nothing on your part have a familiar minefield to navigate.
I think you know what needs doing. Do it.
The hardest part for me is knowing that he kept a tally of them to know there were 70+. That’s a kinda specific number. He didn’t tell you that there were dozens, or more than he can can count, or something. He told you specifically 70+. Does he keep a list of them? Does he check them off in his mind like “number 72 down, who is gonna be 73?”
Anyways, I don’t know what you want us to say. What possible solutions are there here? You either break up with him, or go to therapy to try and get over this. Retroactive jealousy is a real thing, and I think you need professional help to get to the root of why this bothers you.
Some people equate happiness with drama (thank you, Ron Swanson) but that's immature. You seem like a solid guy. You will find someone better and worth your time. Don't settle for her.
How was what she did a mature fashion?
We've all done stupid cringy shit before. So, he was a horny dude. Nothing new there lol
Ultimately it's a matter of what you're willing to handle and forgive AND get willingness to actually show some remorse and work on fixing herself.
This isn't just a relationship problem that can be fixed by saying she'll go to couple's therapy.
This is a her problem, and part of fixing things is her admitting that she's to blame, and working to fix the root of the problem with herself.
You both need individual therapy, and she needs to be willing to work on herself and figuring out why she did it, and what she needs to fix in herself to never do it again.
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A lifestyle aspect would be him wanting a partner who wants to hike or run with him, not wanting a partner who looks a particular way.
Dating app for gamers ??
This is a thoughtful comment but curious if you stand by it after learning she confessed her feelings to the coworker.
thank you so much
Right, that's what I don't understand about this one. The friend just seems to have flipped a switch when she seen his age and just wanted to put it on OP.
“Do you think this guy is attractive?”
“Yeah, sure, but not my type”
“Are you kidding me? He's so hott! Btw he's only 20 and you're a pedophile for saying he's attractive.”
I can give very little comment on your specific situation; I have only but one point of view here. But a general piece of advice: be upfront about your desires without “putting limitations” on others. Turn it into a question of active Cooperation. example: instead of ” I want you to come home immediately after work.” (Or any of the sorts) you could ask: ” after you're done working could we do (spend time together, hang out, have dinner and so on)?” Or more upfront ” I would like to do with you.” Don't ask people for their time, ask for their company. What that does for your relationship, I don't know, I do not own a crystal ball. But it will make interactions with people around you much easier.
No its not. Learning constantly changes our brains. Actually getting him to do it is another story but our brains are constantly changing. It just slows down.
I thought so.
She reached out at Christmas Eve to wish my family a happy holiday but didn't respond when I text her back only with a friendly question.
I guess I just wait longer.
Get a paternity test as soon as you can.
This is gross and scary. I feel like he will eventually escalate his behavior because recording will not be enough.
You: Forget about yourself and take care of her needs. You figure out how to do it.
She: Forgets about herself and takes care of your needs. She figures out how to do it.
Disability doesn't matter in this route.
She's incorrect. And a liar.
You let your two friends grope your incapacitated girlfriend and now you’re mad at her for not stopping them but you’re not mad at them because they were just having fun? You are the living embodiment of rape culture and spineless to boot. Your girlfriend deserves better.
He's 28 and doesn't have a car, still lives with his mommy, and can't keep his mouth closed about you. Haven't you already been to high school once?
From the texts I read between her and ex, it doesn’t seems like they have a sexual relationship. But if I did saw the nudes I saw in their text, I would have never thought she is doing that behind my back.
As a chick who gets a lot of annoying male attention and your response MUCH lot better than your friend’s. Women only like when you take charge AFTER we show interest.
Either she’s not interested, or she’s seeing someone else and not really looking.
BECAUSE I married a guy I turned down 30599299293959697 times first (?) I can admit that a reasonable level of non-annoying persistence is ok to remind her you exist.
Ex: in a few days or so “hey just checking on you! Hope you’re having a good day” or something & then get lost.
If she responds, “haha good. That dinner invite still stands whenever you’re ready. Just let me know ;)”
& go away.
The important part is to go away lol. Be casual, busy & non-annoying. Use that time to pursue other options. The more you have, the more women will want you. You’ll be back in the gamw in no time!
I didn't imply in anyway that it was a women's responsibility to do anything, my last paragraph is pretty clear.
Your assumption that that is what I meant, and the blatant sexist generalization of your last sentence is pretty telling though, in terms of how you treat and view humans.
Do you know what else is common and not rare? Di*&. So replace the one you have with one who will actually like being with you.
I do hope you're not withholding any information, because I feel like something is missing.
She has – and you too – have every right and reason to break off a relationship. If this was her reason, let her be.
It’s new to me!
Honestly, I think that you two are lacking communication in this area, which is why I think it's important to speak with him.
What I understand is that you say that the ring is objectively pretty, but it's not “your” ring. It doesn't really fit your style, so to speak. And you also think that your partner knows your style and the like. But even after just reading your answer, I – keep in mind that I don't know you – have the following thoughts when reading it:
I really don’t think I gave him an overwhelming amount of information […] I think because he told me he spent so much time deciding on the ring leading up to the proposal I didn’t expect it to be the “easy” choice and I guess I got my hopes up.
Do you know why he spend so much time deciding? We know he considered several rings and, in the end, went with the “easy” choice, though “easy” could be swapped to “safe”. This means that for him, the choice wasn't that easy after all, so I wonder: Are you sure that the information wasn't overwhelming? It may not have been overwhelming for you, but you are the expert when it comes to the topic.
On top of that, listening to someone about a topic for years does definitely make you more knowledgeable, but it doesn't make you an expert, especially if it's not “your” topic. My father absolutely loves soccer and he talks about it every single time I see him. Because of that, I have gathered a lot of knowledge about players and rules and who is doing well in the competition and who is not… but that doesn't mean that I'm an expert like him. What I like when he talks about soccer isn't the topic, it's that he is happy to have someone who is listening to him. But because it's not “my” topic, I simply don't remember things like him. I don't watch games, I don't look things up. That leads to me recognizing names and remembering facts, but I often can't place names correctly – simply because to me, these things don't matter as much and my brain can't remember them as much. If something isn't “my” topic, I simply would be a lot more lost than someone who is deep into the matter when presented with information. If I would listen to you explaining cuts and stones to me, I might be able to recognize the type of a stone, for example, but I don't think I could tell which one of two stones is the more valuable one when you might be able to do so at first glance.
Also consider that maybe, he might have associated “different” with “special”. You said diamonds are okay and you seem to otherwise have mostly other stones in your jewelry, so in a way, your ring now is standing out from the crowd.
What I want to say: We're all just speculating here. Maybe there is a lot more to his thought process. Maybe he was terrified of picking something wrong. Maybe he went for “safe”. Maybe he got a fact wrong and thought that all the diamonds have super-interesting cuts. The thing is: You don't know. Because you haven't talked to him yet, you and all of us are just assuming things about why he chose the ring.
If you feel so torn about talking to him and letting him know what you feel, maybe start by just asking him about the other choices since he brought them up before. Take a look at them. If they are all not to your taste, you might feel better with the ring you now have and you could then openly ask about his thought process and what information he might have misunderstood. If there are some awesome rings in the lineup, you can express how pretty they are and, again, ask why he picked diamonds over those. None of that immediately says “I would prefer a different ring”. It's just satisfying your curiosity – it's about gathering information to then make a more informed choice. Once you know what thought went into his choice, you might either appreciate your current ring more – or feel like speaking up more.
I'm sorry if I get anything wrong, by the way (like I thought you meant “anguish” literally). I am not a native speaker and in my country, the engagement ring is also a different ring than the wedding ring, only worn until the wedding, when the couple then gets matching rings. That doesn't seem to be the case in your country, so I might be totally off the mark with many things.
should I just cut my losses and break up with him?
If he refuses to even cook basic things like frozen veggies & pasta then yes.
My first thought too. She’s not living in reality.
He says he made a mistake, I want to hear the words, and he just wont
He won’t acknowledge what he did because he doesn’t have to; you continued your relationship with him without forcing him to be accountable, so he’s never going to be accountable.
He has learned that all he needs to do if he gets caught trying to cheat is say “sorry I made a mistake” and although you’ll be angry at him you’re not going to divorce him, which means he gets to keep his comfortable status quo and never has to own it.