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Date: October 4, 2022
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It's a slippery slope. Some part of you has to feel like this is also a way of evening the score. My suggestion…don't do that.
Either you're all in or you're out in trying to fix the relationship. You already know how you feel about this other guy. Now your decisions from here on out will reflect what your true intentions are.
Why would you want to?
I know that she is struggling just as much, and it hurts me to watch. It’s so hard to bring up these conversations because I can feel her pain. We love each other.
We are going to enroll her in Medicaid on Monday (or at least try to). I’m willing to put in the work, if I wasn’t I would have dipped two years ago like 99% of the people in this thread.
Yeah they both happen… IMO it's more common to see something in the middle but most of the intact men I've seen the foreskin stays up most of the way when erect but slides up and down easily.
I’m really sorry to hear this is how your mom is treating you.. I completely understand being hurt by her comments. I’m not sure the best way to navigate this with her. In my opinion, just seeing what I’ve read.. I wouldn’t give her the time of day. It seems like it would just drain you more to try and change her mind about this. You are going through something that is difficult and life changing, being around someone who thinks you’re being whatever way she thinks you are has the potential to be damaging. I absolutely wish you the best OP and hope things start to look up.
A lot of time, when people are up to their ass in pain and suffering, I'll
My doctor did the same to me, the withdrawals made me feel like I was dying, and it gave such weird side effects.
yeah the debt situation and the financial situation OP describes in the post honestly makes no sense. they pay 5k-8k a month into the debt, and they both make 6 figures, but its still a significant burden? how is that even possible? if you're paying even 5k a month it should be gone in like 2 years. yet its been 6 years? this doesn't make sense unless theyre wasting tons of money on something else. and even if the wife cuts her hours in half they'd still be making at least 150k before taxes, given that they both make at least 100k right now. thats more than enough to live! comfortably and save for the future if you have no kids yet…
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Get rid of her. She's a user and she's going to drain you of everything.. money, energy, life. Do it now.
This was a shit show. In order, find out how she found out she was pregnant and don't trust the pregnancy test she bought. Buy one yourself. Regardless, likely time to break up and stop sleeping with her if you haven't already. You don't trust her, and with that age gap, this wouldn't be all that surprising. She already gaslighted you and told you that you were overreacting. Get a timeline going as for when she got pregnant and how far along she is. As condoms + birth control, odds are not high, the cheating is a higher possibility. So, do not sign the birth certificate as many others have advised and when able, get a paternity test. If it is yours, then sorry mate. You've been baby trapped, if it isn't, get away from this grown ass woman.
You are not unreasonable. And try no to stress over it if your partner holds you family against you than they are not worth it. They have seen how you care for your home.
It sounds like incompatibility is catching up to a breaking point. It's tough when love languages don't match up. Does he express love in other languages? It's very different conversations here if he 'doesn't love you at all' or if he 'doesn't love you in the right way'. You want gift giving to be thoughtful and personal and heartfelt, he doesn't have the emotional capability to put that effort into gift giving. He can try all day but his heart isn't in it. That alone doesn't show he is careless, it might just be something he doesn't understand. Does he put effort into loving you in other ways that make more sense to him? You want him to be a different person, and it is clear that he can't change that much. You say he “refuses” to love you that way, maybe he just doesn't have the empathy to see how much gifts (also kinda Acts of Service) mean to you. It's easy to convince ourselves that our partner has a full love tank because “I did x, y, and z for them”. You put a lot of effort into gifts for him, perhaps that doesn't fill his love tank. What do you do for him so that HE feels loved?
I'm a guy and I also speak gifts. I know the feeling to put a lot of effort into a gift but then the recipient is indifferent to the gift. Luckily my partner speaks gifts a bit so we appreciate each other's effort. We do have other types of love that we don't both speak the same (physical touch for me, quality time for her). Really the only fix is reminding each other what we need, even tho sometimes it feels greedy and begging and doesn't always get us what we need. We all have different levels of empathy, but we can't read each other's mind. I don't know if two people will ever align perfectly on loves, but it should have more positive days than negative days.
I think you are expecting a bit too much for all these details and breaking down the gift into “2/3 correct”. I know exactly how you feel about the details, but if he doesn't speak gift giving then he simply won't pay attention to the details. Also you need to see things from his perspective. Are there other things that he does to love you and try to make you happy? Does he feel like your gifts to him are a waste of time?
Honestly, it sounds like you are better off being single than being with this guy. This guy has issues in his behaviour and alcohol abuse that I don't think you are in a position to help him fix – not that you should try because ultimately the only person who can help a person best is themselves. If he doesn't see a problem with his life then he isn't going to try to do anything about it.
It is possible to overshare in a relationship, but this guy has turned what was a history you want to leave behind and turned into a present problem that is making your relationship toxic and unhealthy. I wish you luck and a happy way forward in your life.
Get a PI and at least get the truth. He also not done cheating. Get your finances in order. See a lawyer for a consult. Not wanting to be left alone doesn’t stop you from getting left behind- and with nothing no less.
Well they broke up because he had a kid with another woman while they were together.
Um. Well, I guess? It's just a reddit post
This looks fake.
First and foremost, he IS using these things as manipulation tactics. Regardless of his background, you need to understand that he's abusive all around; physically and emotionally, and the only answer is that you get out as quickly and as safely as possible. You're not trapped. I'm certain when you say it's over, he'll threaten himself, which I imagine is your fear. Unfortunately, that's not on you. You don't stay with someone because of a threat. Your life matters too. You're objectively miserable and again, you're being abused.
To quickly talk about him, I certainly sympathize about his past and his family life. It's absolutely awful. But it's not an excuse to treat you the way he does. He needs serious help. He's refusing to get it. You can't help someone who won't help themselves. So please get out and never look back. Good luck.
A solid no works with them
No it fucking doesn't. It's seen as a challenge the same way the other answers are.
Please stop acting like you know how it is for us. You don't.
but you can't default to survival mode with every encounter with a random stranger.
We literally have to. And being dismissive of that is why people say “yes, it's all men”.
what is wrong with you
Maybe look up the statistics of how many men watch porn and then make an informed decision
Yeah you’re being exactly this. Just tell her straight up and break her heart letting her know you do not and continued to not care for her so she gets the closure she needs instead of chasing you and you keep playing this game. Go do what ever you need to and quit wasting her time because you don’t deserve it.
No. Therapists are there to help two people who want to work on issues. A good therapist typically won't “tell you what to do.”
As hard is it is to realize, it was probably really naked for her to have sex with someone she wasn’t attracted to because she felt like that’s something you expected to do after getting married
Any awkwardness or hurt feelings are the result of his selfishness, sense of entitlement, and lack of empathy for you. You should be absolutely livid. If he is reluctant to call it off, call the son yourself and explain that his father has no right to invite them on your private romantic get-a-way.
If your husband were really a qualified therapist, he would stay well clear of anybody he knows.
She had Marks back, wich honestly hurts the most… I'm looking into therapy, but as the mental health care system in my country is in shambles getting an appoinment quickly can be hard, but i'm going to my doctor tomorrow and will talk to him about if he can help me by making a refferal or try to fastrack it in any way.
Tell FIL that you're pregnant. Then let him know that if the money isn't returned immediately you will go NC. Get the money, then go NC.
Anecdotal.
Thank you and I appreciate that. I feel that sometimes people are really quick to say “just leave them” and I'm not saying that isn't an option, but I just went with my gut and stuck it out because I liked everything else and from what she told me about her previous relationships, that's what he did to her and she got used to it and used it as a coping mechanism: if he gets to check out women, I'll check out men. She said it was very toxic and didn't respect him for the things he did to her.
There's still a ton of things to work out in my engagement, but I'm so incredibly happy and wanna see it through.
Herpes isn’t a death sentence for your love life. Keep searching for someone who will respect you and will want to give you orgasms.
But he is sooo perfect besides those few little details.. he loves when i cook and clean his laundry but sometimes he gets a bit angry when i express my opinion
Oh and we met when i was 19 and him 26
thats op
Yeah. Like getting my PhD in English lit.
Don’t appreciate the assumption on why I’m broke. You’ve obviously have not being paying attention at all to what’s happening to working people of all ages for the past couple years.
I'd ask her to talk to a lawyer so it's legally sound. You can't stop her from getting pissy about not getting double the money.
If the connection feels right then give the relationship a chance. I’ve been in a similar situation – the relationship had a clear 6 month expiry date because I was relocating to another continent, but the connection was really strong so I figured I’d just see how it went. It was 100% worth it, we’ve now settled in the same city together and we’re getting married this year
It just smells like headaches/bigger chances of drama. Not worth the gamble for most guys, it is what it is. We ll do what it takes for our peace of mind, especially when it comes to rs.
There are some guys out there that don t give a shit though, gl finding one
Your body weight is easily 80% of what you eat. Exercise is a small part of it. You can build muscle to improve your aesthetic. But, losing body fat is mostly done in the kitchen.
I'd tell them sorry but, NO. My main problems would be:
You don't just get kicked out of an aparment with absolutly no notice.
*No local friend's willing to help them.
*Can't afford/doesn't have savings to stay in town where their life is.
*No solid plans whatsoever.
*Have to wait on when/if they get jobs.
*People change ALOT over time and you have not had any peek into their daily lives in a very long time.
*You have no idea what their relationship dynamic is. Even the nicest couples argue and that shit is awkward as hell.
*Inviting anyone, especially someone you are not in regular contact with, to stay in your safeplace causes strain and stress on a family. No one is worth the disruption.
Asking for advice is not even close to the same type of favour as letting someone live! with you til they can get their affairs in order.
*No good deed goes unpunished. The road to hell is paved with good intentions. Fish and houseguests start to stink after a few days. Etc.
Sounds like he is taking his stress/anger out on you. Blaming you for his poor communication is not fair and emotionally abusive. He doesnt want to seek counseling and seems to be quitting the relationship all together. It may be time to plan your exit.
I am so sorry :'( you deserve a trustworthy and uplifting and safe partner and you will find them one day, for now it's time to focus on you and friends and healing, I wish I could be there to be your sister and hug you, don't let him manipulate you back please, your life is worth more, he was trying to trap you to abuse you more
Also men become more abusive when there partner is pregnant, he might try and stop you from getting an abortion so that he can keep you forever and ruin your life, can you please call your parents?
Are there any woman on here that can keep up with op and make sure she is safe ❤️ we all need to support her
Thank you. Yeah. I guess all I was looking for was a maybe. And im a fence sitter. So im convincing myself of anything that would make me happy in the moment. I keep going back to the kids. Then him. Then kids. I'm struggling really badly with everything else is life I just chalked it up to depression at this point.
I wanted to…want to…be an artist. I'm watching my dreams fail and I think using kids as a fail safe to not work on myself. It's toxic I totally know. But as a distraction to not be lonely and always have something to do. And obviously I'm not baby trapping or getting pregnant for that reason. I know better
I personally wouldn't stay with her. My last ex cheated and tried to blame it on me. If she is unhappy she can leave. That is the adult thing to do. The choice is ultimately yours to make but seeing how she said those things about you to justify herself just seems shitty.
Thank you for telling me that, i know but obviously while being gaslighted i started question reality so much that i cant tell whats right and whats wrong. I honestly appreciate it and i know what i have to do.
Thank you for telling me that, i know but obviously while being gaslighted i started question reality so much that i cant tell whats right and whats wrong. I honestly appreciate it and i know what i have to do.
….sex once a week is not a sexless marriage…. That’s literally the average for a long term couple….
She’s not telling you the whole truth.
A bikini is a normal piece of clothing and she has no control over who likes her posts. Should she completely hide her body away so no man ever has an inappropriate thought about her?
That’s why fewer and fewer women are as enthusiastically involved with men…make the effort or expect equally lackluster investment from your partner in return.