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If I understand this post correctly your husband’s mother abandoned him when he was ten and moved away with her lover? That choice made her estranged from him and wounded. She is trying to mend fences and come back into this life. Is his correct? So your husband’s situation has nothing to do with his mom “cheating” – it’s about his feeling that she abandoned him and was not part of his life, that she chose to do that and basically gave up the right to be his mom and in his life now? So what does this have to do with your mom having an affair in the 1970s? I am confused.
If he is telling you he loves you this early without an actual connection, run. Run fast and run far. This is a million red flags I wish I’d had seen 20 years ago but I didn’t have the sense. Do not waste one more moment of your life on him and do not let him make you feel like you need him and cannot do better. I would just tell him that while you enjoyed getting to know him, unfortunately you aren’t compatible and that you wish him well. And then block.
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Would it justify it? No, but I could understand it if this were the case. I used to online in a tourist town and I had a friend come to visit. She had all these tourist places she wanted to see. While I'm driving her all around town in tourist traffic taking her to all these places, she didn't look up from her phone at all. For three days I couldn't hold a conversation with her for more than five minutes. I seriously wanted to chuck her phone over the bridge into the bay. Obviously I didn't, but imagining it was great. So yeah, I can understand the desire of turning the phone to airport mode around someone like this.
She is not making you feel guilty. You are choosing to feel guilty. Because you have no personal boundaries.
Do you want to do this? No? Then DECIDE you are not doing it. And tell her. It’s not happening.
Tell her what you ARE willing to do. What her options are. One of the options is breaking up. You decide what the other options are. And tell her to choose.
I don’t see the point of even asking. You answered your question. The answer is it’s your and your bf problem not hers. If you feel comfortable and so does he well stay in the house all day and all night. That’s all
Just expand your repertoire a bit and use different words. She gets it, you love her, but you say that for a reason, don't you?
So, what do you love about her? Is she pretty? Is her voice nice? Does she dress nice? Does she make you laugh? What qualities does she have that have caused you to fall in love with her in the first place?
Instead of always just telling her “I love you”, tell her something different that actually pertrains to her. If you want to express how happy you are with her, express it in a different way by addressing specific parts of her personality or looks.
Telling how you feel about something is not the same as being an asshole. An asshole is about intending to hurt someone on purpose. It's not your intention to hurt this guy.
There will always be times in life when it is necessary to do something even though it will likely cause pain. This doesn't make you a jerk, is makes you mature and responsible.
Have a serious conversation and say that you do not enjoy how he communicates with you, it bothers you, and you would like him to stop for the sake of the relationship.
No one has spa treatments with a shirt on. And unless this is a very sloppy spa 1. They wash all that stuff off. 2. There's usually a shower in there where they ask you to wash off. This is bad story.
If this were a longer term relationship between older people with real stakes involved you might be able to just wait out this hysterical moment in time. This fever pitch of racial animus can't last forever. But the problem is that at 20/19 the lifespan of this wasn't destined to be long anyway. Point being, by the time the globe recognizes that there's a lot more going on than our personal grievances you and she would likely already have ended things anyway for reasons unrelated to this issue. Don't chase her. Let her think about things then come to you if she's interested in continuing.
A family member gave her a piece of jewelry. It doesn't “mean” anything to wear a ring unless it's a wedding/engagement ring. You have a warped view of female jewelry.
Subreddits like these are full of bitter women whose answer for everything is “divorce/dump him” in response to a story with secondhand details. Reddit is an absolutely terrible source of relationship advice.
Just tell her you know, and ask if she wants to talk about it. I mean, it’s not like she’s done anything wrong, but it’s still something you two need to navigate through together. Just be patient and polite about the situation, if you’re becoming closed off and judge mental during the conversation, she’s probably going to lock up.
My plan is to grow in my career and try something new. I’m very career driven right now and there aren’t a ton of job opportunities for what I want to do where I currently online.
Restraining order? Concealed carry? Cameras inside and outside your house? Changed your locks? Depending where you on-line…if there is security notify them of the risk.
You wouldn't feel a need to argue and defend him if you felt confident, do you see what I'm saying? There seems to be a bit of insecurity here that isn't being addressed. It doesn't matter what others think because they don't have any information besides age. Our age doesn't define our experience or how emotionally capable we are.
If I understand this post correctly your husband’s mother abandoned him when he was ten and moved away with her lover? That choice made her estranged from him and wounded. She is trying to mend fences and come back into this life. Is his correct? So your husband’s situation has nothing to do with his mom “cheating” – it’s about his feeling that she abandoned him and was not part of his life, that she chose to do that and basically gave up the right to be his mom and in his life now? So what does this have to do with your mom having an affair in the 1970s? I am confused.
Run.
If he is telling you he loves you this early without an actual connection, run. Run fast and run far. This is a million red flags I wish I’d had seen 20 years ago but I didn’t have the sense. Do not waste one more moment of your life on him and do not let him make you feel like you need him and cannot do better. I would just tell him that while you enjoyed getting to know him, unfortunately you aren’t compatible and that you wish him well. And then block.
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Dump her asap.
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Would it justify it? No, but I could understand it if this were the case. I used to online in a tourist town and I had a friend come to visit. She had all these tourist places she wanted to see. While I'm driving her all around town in tourist traffic taking her to all these places, she didn't look up from her phone at all. For three days I couldn't hold a conversation with her for more than five minutes. I seriously wanted to chuck her phone over the bridge into the bay. Obviously I didn't, but imagining it was great. So yeah, I can understand the desire of turning the phone to airport mode around someone like this.
She is not making you feel guilty. You are choosing to feel guilty. Because you have no personal boundaries.
Do you want to do this? No? Then DECIDE you are not doing it. And tell her. It’s not happening.
Tell her what you ARE willing to do. What her options are. One of the options is breaking up. You decide what the other options are. And tell her to choose.
I don’t see the point of even asking. You answered your question. The answer is it’s your and your bf problem not hers. If you feel comfortable and so does he well stay in the house all day and all night. That’s all
Your his sugar momma.
Separate tickets when you eat out.
If he does not have it..you do not do together.
Do you have two cars gas in yours…
Does he pay any of the house bills?
Stop paying his way.
He will get upset has a melt down or yell
Just tell him your finances are your business and your cutting back to save .
He will not be there for you if things dry up at your work. You need to bank all you can.
And stop letting others use you honey.
Just expand your repertoire a bit and use different words. She gets it, you love her, but you say that for a reason, don't you?
So, what do you love about her? Is she pretty? Is her voice nice? Does she dress nice? Does she make you laugh? What qualities does she have that have caused you to fall in love with her in the first place?
Instead of always just telling her “I love you”, tell her something different that actually pertrains to her. If you want to express how happy you are with her, express it in a different way by addressing specific parts of her personality or looks.
Telling how you feel about something is not the same as being an asshole. An asshole is about intending to hurt someone on purpose. It's not your intention to hurt this guy.
There will always be times in life when it is necessary to do something even though it will likely cause pain. This doesn't make you a jerk, is makes you mature and responsible.
Have a serious conversation and say that you do not enjoy how he communicates with you, it bothers you, and you would like him to stop for the sake of the relationship.
That's perfect
now you know why he avoids women his own age
I’m not a parent nor married so I don’t have the same perspective but I just can’t imagine going through with this
No one has spa treatments with a shirt on. And unless this is a very sloppy spa 1. They wash all that stuff off. 2. There's usually a shower in there where they ask you to wash off. This is bad story.
Agreed.
If this were a longer term relationship between older people with real stakes involved you might be able to just wait out this hysterical moment in time. This fever pitch of racial animus can't last forever. But the problem is that at 20/19 the lifespan of this wasn't destined to be long anyway. Point being, by the time the globe recognizes that there's a lot more going on than our personal grievances you and she would likely already have ended things anyway for reasons unrelated to this issue. Don't chase her. Let her think about things then come to you if she's interested in continuing.
Are you serious?
A family member gave her a piece of jewelry. It doesn't “mean” anything to wear a ring unless it's a wedding/engagement ring. You have a warped view of female jewelry.
Subreddits like these are full of bitter women whose answer for everything is “divorce/dump him” in response to a story with secondhand details. Reddit is an absolutely terrible source of relationship advice.
Just tell her you know, and ask if she wants to talk about it. I mean, it’s not like she’s done anything wrong, but it’s still something you two need to navigate through together. Just be patient and polite about the situation, if you’re becoming closed off and judge mental during the conversation, she’s probably going to lock up.
for almost a year
My plan is to grow in my career and try something new. I’m very career driven right now and there aren’t a ton of job opportunities for what I want to do where I currently online.
Your dad is wrong on so many levels. Your bf doesn't deserve that.
Restraining order? Concealed carry? Cameras inside and outside your house? Changed your locks? Depending where you on-line…if there is security notify them of the risk.
You wouldn't feel a need to argue and defend him if you felt confident, do you see what I'm saying? There seems to be a bit of insecurity here that isn't being addressed. It doesn't matter what others think because they don't have any information besides age. Our age doesn't define our experience or how emotionally capable we are.
She was 18, wasn't she? The started dating at 15, dated for 3 years (and he cheated), then she moved at 18.
Is your question “How hard and sexy am I”?