Sometimes that’s what it requires though. Sometimes I’m laying there on my phone waiting for them to fall asleep. Sometimes my husband is. The other one is never waiting for the other one to watch us clean, and because of that standards are set for what it means to relax. You may find that you can set these standards that way and your wife will begin to not only expect them but maintain them also.
Is one of them buying and one of them renting space from the other?
I don't know what advice to give you here friend, so can only give my perspective and how I'd feel or cope.
If he'd be buying and she'd be renting from him or vice versa, it'd be uncomfortable but not altogether strange. If they're investing together, they're probably either gonna burn a friendship or plan a wedding. If he's gonna buy and then “rent to own” a spot to her, he's stepping in on your girlfriend in a way that'll make you seem like a bad guy stopping her from a good opportunity if you intercede in any way.
I wouldn't be any more comfortable with this than you seem to be. Personally, I'd explain my position and perspective as neutrally as possible and either try to find a way that we could invest in living together, or seriously assess both sides of our relationship and communicate what your boundaries would be in regards to these situations if you're going to stay together.
She doesn't have to agree. But the alternative is potentially wasting each other's time and emotional energy over differences of opinions and limits.
Give it back to him. That's creepy.
Sometimes that’s what it requires though. Sometimes I’m laying there on my phone waiting for them to fall asleep. Sometimes my husband is. The other one is never waiting for the other one to watch us clean, and because of that standards are set for what it means to relax. You may find that you can set these standards that way and your wife will begin to not only expect them but maintain them also.
The alarm bell here is the investment together.
Is one of them buying and one of them renting space from the other?
I don't know what advice to give you here friend, so can only give my perspective and how I'd feel or cope.
If he'd be buying and she'd be renting from him or vice versa, it'd be uncomfortable but not altogether strange. If they're investing together, they're probably either gonna burn a friendship or plan a wedding. If he's gonna buy and then “rent to own” a spot to her, he's stepping in on your girlfriend in a way that'll make you seem like a bad guy stopping her from a good opportunity if you intercede in any way.
I wouldn't be any more comfortable with this than you seem to be. Personally, I'd explain my position and perspective as neutrally as possible and either try to find a way that we could invest in living together, or seriously assess both sides of our relationship and communicate what your boundaries would be in regards to these situations if you're going to stay together.
She doesn't have to agree. But the alternative is potentially wasting each other's time and emotional energy over differences of opinions and limits.