I appreciate the directness, I think I just need to hear from others to ensure that there isn't actually any signs that I should be concerned about.
Do you think that I should talk to him and try make him stop his behaviour, or just ignore it?
There re always going to be people your girlfriend (or any girlfriend) is going to find attractive.
I realise that's true, I guess what I don't like about this situation is that A) it's a friend B) this flirting was happening AFTER she knew me and C) it's still happening now on his end.
I am currently in therapy but I just can't seem to get a grip on it. I think it's just a life-long issue and not something I can turn around and suddenly feel self-assured in a few weeks. I really want to though. Thanks again
There's nothing wrong with what you are doing. As long as you understand why you are attracted to this guy and you aren't planning a long term relationship there's nothing to really think through.
If you wanted to start a family then I think time lines matter more and you'd just need to think it through.
I say this gently, but I think you need therapy to work on your codependency issues.
This girl was so clearly only using you and crossed countless boundaries that would have caused most people to get their distance. And now you're wondering if you're in the wrong for being so upset after not only all that, but her hitting on your boyfriend and trying to make a move?
He’s sick of being rejected. You should ask him out.
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I appreciate the directness, I think I just need to hear from others to ensure that there isn't actually any signs that I should be concerned about.
Do you think that I should talk to him and try make him stop his behaviour, or just ignore it?
There re always going to be people your girlfriend (or any girlfriend) is going to find attractive.
I realise that's true, I guess what I don't like about this situation is that A) it's a friend B) this flirting was happening AFTER she knew me and C) it's still happening now on his end.
I am currently in therapy but I just can't seem to get a grip on it. I think it's just a life-long issue and not something I can turn around and suddenly feel self-assured in a few weeks. I really want to though. Thanks again
There's nothing wrong with what you are doing. As long as you understand why you are attracted to this guy and you aren't planning a long term relationship there's nothing to really think through.
If you wanted to start a family then I think time lines matter more and you'd just need to think it through.
I say this gently, but I think you need therapy to work on your codependency issues.
This girl was so clearly only using you and crossed countless boundaries that would have caused most people to get their distance. And now you're wondering if you're in the wrong for being so upset after not only all that, but her hitting on your boyfriend and trying to make a move?
And she's supposedly your best friend? Yikes.