Ah, yes it’s really hot to change that perspective. I remember being in therapy and her reminding me gently over and over that the person who I fell in love with and who felt like my best friend was also the person who betrayed me, didn’t care about my emotions or experiences, used words to purposely hurt me, and wasted every chance I gave him. She said I kept seeing them as two different people and healing would only start when I was able to accept that they were the same person.
even IF one of these coworkers had a thing for you, that doesn't really matter and it's not your fault anyway. Your boyfriend does not trust you not to fall for it is what it sounds like. He seems to think that if one of these guys made a pass at you, that you would just instantly fall right into it. That's insulting for him to assume I think.
She didn't know she is trans, and only realized back then and decided to come out to her partner.
At that time she was living as a man.
Hope that cleared it up for you.
Ah, yes it’s really hot to change that perspective. I remember being in therapy and her reminding me gently over and over that the person who I fell in love with and who felt like my best friend was also the person who betrayed me, didn’t care about my emotions or experiences, used words to purposely hurt me, and wasted every chance I gave him. She said I kept seeing them as two different people and healing would only start when I was able to accept that they were the same person.
I wish you all the best on that journey!
even IF one of these coworkers had a thing for you, that doesn't really matter and it's not your fault anyway. Your boyfriend does not trust you not to fall for it is what it sounds like. He seems to think that if one of these guys made a pass at you, that you would just instantly fall right into it. That's insulting for him to assume I think.