I'd be wary because it's jusy a way to control/shame other people. I just got out of a seven year relationship – when we met she wasn't vegan – then a couple years in she became so (I had been vegetarian and had vegan roomies in the past, NBD) that turned into her sobbing in a pizzeria parking lot because my brother ordered a pizza for his family that had pepperoni on it. Then that turned into only wanting to eat every meal at home, then that became she was on a raw vegan diet, then she had a fruit only diet, then she began to eat meat again, then back to vegetarian, then vegan, then only whole foods unprocessed vegan foods and most recently a few months ago she randomly ate a huge amount of fried chicken after years of being judgy about other people (and me making concessions for restaurants/rarely going out to eat). I cooked most all of the foods aside when she was celery juicing and on the raw fruit/raw food diet. At that time she wouldn't allow any meat in the house. Anyways, turns out she's got an unmitigated anxiety disorder and is now buying crystals to charge in the sun so she can have energy healings an align the magnetism of her house. So, we broke up and tbh I wish it had happened a long time ago before I minimized things I enjoyed and let boundaries get slowly eroded over time until she was just kinda controlling and abusive to me. As in it starts small then becomes criticism for every little thing that they don't approve of//isn't exactly like them. Last time I was at her house getting my things she had steaks in the fridge lol.
Point being is it's a method of control and if they don't have the latitude to deal with other people's choices, then you will likely be constrained/controlled and you will likely have a lesser quality of life of you aren't able to do what makes you happy (like go try out the new place with friends). Diets change, people change, ideals change. He may feel like he will be this way forever but it's likely his diet will change some day in the future.
So, I'd say if he doesn't change his behavior and recognize that you are your own person who can make their own choices and are allowed your freedom to do what makes you happy then I would seriously be reconsidering this relationship. You're young enough you have plenty of time to online a good life – I'm 40 and just finding myself at square one again.
He needs therapy to handle his mood swings and mental health. OP needs a divorce or separation. I hope OP finds closure somehow.
I'd be wary because it's jusy a way to control/shame other people. I just got out of a seven year relationship – when we met she wasn't vegan – then a couple years in she became so (I had been vegetarian and had vegan roomies in the past, NBD) that turned into her sobbing in a pizzeria parking lot because my brother ordered a pizza for his family that had pepperoni on it. Then that turned into only wanting to eat every meal at home, then that became she was on a raw vegan diet, then she had a fruit only diet, then she began to eat meat again, then back to vegetarian, then vegan, then only whole foods unprocessed vegan foods and most recently a few months ago she randomly ate a huge amount of fried chicken after years of being judgy about other people (and me making concessions for restaurants/rarely going out to eat). I cooked most all of the foods aside when she was celery juicing and on the raw fruit/raw food diet. At that time she wouldn't allow any meat in the house. Anyways, turns out she's got an unmitigated anxiety disorder and is now buying crystals to charge in the sun so she can have energy healings an align the magnetism of her house. So, we broke up and tbh I wish it had happened a long time ago before I minimized things I enjoyed and let boundaries get slowly eroded over time until she was just kinda controlling and abusive to me. As in it starts small then becomes criticism for every little thing that they don't approve of//isn't exactly like them. Last time I was at her house getting my things she had steaks in the fridge lol.
Point being is it's a method of control and if they don't have the latitude to deal with other people's choices, then you will likely be constrained/controlled and you will likely have a lesser quality of life of you aren't able to do what makes you happy (like go try out the new place with friends). Diets change, people change, ideals change. He may feel like he will be this way forever but it's likely his diet will change some day in the future.
So, I'd say if he doesn't change his behavior and recognize that you are your own person who can make their own choices and are allowed your freedom to do what makes you happy then I would seriously be reconsidering this relationship. You're young enough you have plenty of time to online a good life – I'm 40 and just finding myself at square one again.