His friend was the person I lost my virginity to, I’d recently been in an abusive relationship and as soon we’d slept together he dumped me and helped my abuser spread rumours about me
This clearly is about more than laundry baskets. He either needs to work on figuring out how to manage his emotions in a reasonable way or you may want to get out. He's bottling things he should be talking about (“closer and closer to on-line in roommates that fuck and he is tired of not getting respect in his life”), and even when it comes to the time when you should be talking it out like reasonable people, he explodes and storms out? Do you want to be with someone who handles life like that?
You literally said him being anxious makes him less of a man. Wtf stop using this guy for your financial security
His friend was the person I lost my virginity to, I’d recently been in an abusive relationship and as soon we’d slept together he dumped me and helped my abuser spread rumours about me
They are adults. Just tell them so you don't look like the bad guy.
That being said, maybe she is just exploring her sexuality and has always been curious. Why hang on to societal norms?
Either way it is betrayal and needs to be addressed but you've been together for so long.
This clearly is about more than laundry baskets. He either needs to work on figuring out how to manage his emotions in a reasonable way or you may want to get out. He's bottling things he should be talking about (“closer and closer to on-line in roommates that fuck and he is tired of not getting respect in his life”), and even when it comes to the time when you should be talking it out like reasonable people, he explodes and storms out? Do you want to be with someone who handles life like that?