Your gf is right. You need to cut this friend off completely. He couldn’t keep it a secret any longer since you’re discussing marriage because he thought this was his last chance to get her to leave you for him. Also, while he may have thought he owed it to himself to tell her he certainly didn’t owe it to either of you to burden you with this knowledge. And while he may not have explicitly asked her to cheat he does want her for himself so what is the difference, really?
You’re lucky you have a gf who is so comfortable setting boundaries in uncomfortable situations. Don’t let history get in the way of doing what is right for your relationship.
I'm okay with her having sex with him, because it's what I agreed to. I'm not okay with them living together, and my preference against this is why I made the post.
Apparently she thinks her time is more valuable than his, so he gets stuck with it.
Your gf is right. You need to cut this friend off completely. He couldn’t keep it a secret any longer since you’re discussing marriage because he thought this was his last chance to get her to leave you for him. Also, while he may have thought he owed it to himself to tell her he certainly didn’t owe it to either of you to burden you with this knowledge. And while he may not have explicitly asked her to cheat he does want her for himself so what is the difference, really?
You’re lucky you have a gf who is so comfortable setting boundaries in uncomfortable situations. Don’t let history get in the way of doing what is right for your relationship.
I'm okay with her having sex with him, because it's what I agreed to. I'm not okay with them living together, and my preference against this is why I made the post.