“Or, we're going to have some serious issues in our relationship, and I'd prefer to have love instead”.
My guess is he was overly angry and let his emotions get the best of him. Once he's calmed down talk to him about it. Don't berate or attack him, talk about how hurtful it was for you, and tell him that going forward you won't ever tolerate him talking to you like that again.
Because before I get downvoted or called misogynistic she said this herself Women shouldn’t work we cook and clean while men take out garbage and work
It sounds like you both want different things out of the relationship. Firstly, there's nothing wrong with that. Your desires for marriage and family are valid, but so are his desires to not do those things. It's 2023, millions of people have decades long relationships without getting married; likewise millions of people cohabit without having children. Neither of those are wrong; they're just not what you want out of the relationship any more.
Ultimately, that does make things rather difficult for the two of you. You can't force him to have a family with you, or to marry you, and it would be incredibly unfair for you to try and force either of those issues. It may simply be the relationship has run its course, and the best thing you can do, for both of you, is to go your separate ways as amicably as possible.
You should only have a child if you both are 100% certain you want to have a child. Anything less than that is unfair on the kid. Don't have a child just to keep the relationship going.
If you force him to have a child under duress, he is going to resent that child, and probably you as well. Children are not stupid; they will pick up very quickly that they aren't really wanted by their farther, no matter how nude you/he try and hide it.
It's going to be very hot, but it sounds like you have reached the point in your relationship where you're fundamentally incompatible. Sit down together and try and have a respectful discussion about what you want from the relationship and whether that is the same as what he wants from the relationship.
Been dating for 5 years… can you change a man child to a man?
No.
“Or, we're going to have some serious issues in our relationship, and I'd prefer to have love instead”.
My guess is he was overly angry and let his emotions get the best of him. Once he's calmed down talk to him about it. Don't berate or attack him, talk about how hurtful it was for you, and tell him that going forward you won't ever tolerate him talking to you like that again.
Because before I get downvoted or called misogynistic she said this herself Women shouldn’t work we cook and clean while men take out garbage and work
This. I'd also recommend setting firm boundaries around this:
“No, husband, I am not going to let you smell my armpits. Not now, not ever.”
“No, I'm not going to spray myself with that. Not even once. You're welcome to spray yourself if you prefer.”
Wear deodorant and shower at a normal human rate, OP. Do not allow your husband to dictate your personal hygiene routine.
It sounds like you both want different things out of the relationship. Firstly, there's nothing wrong with that. Your desires for marriage and family are valid, but so are his desires to not do those things. It's 2023, millions of people have decades long relationships without getting married; likewise millions of people cohabit without having children. Neither of those are wrong; they're just not what you want out of the relationship any more.
Ultimately, that does make things rather difficult for the two of you. You can't force him to have a family with you, or to marry you, and it would be incredibly unfair for you to try and force either of those issues. It may simply be the relationship has run its course, and the best thing you can do, for both of you, is to go your separate ways as amicably as possible.
You should only have a child if you both are 100% certain you want to have a child. Anything less than that is unfair on the kid. Don't have a child just to keep the relationship going.
If you force him to have a child under duress, he is going to resent that child, and probably you as well. Children are not stupid; they will pick up very quickly that they aren't really wanted by their farther, no matter how nude you/he try and hide it.
It's going to be very hot, but it sounds like you have reached the point in your relationship where you're fundamentally incompatible. Sit down together and try and have a respectful discussion about what you want from the relationship and whether that is the same as what he wants from the relationship.