You strung her along w the idea of engagement even though she knew of possible med school abroad. Suddenly you told her you accepted and you’re going to Ireland w o even discussing it first. Not that you’d be asking permission or that your outcome would be different. But because you’re (were) in a committed relationship and big decisions like this deserves at least a conversation before accepting. You both knew you’d go but when you accepted so fast then told her she knew in that moment you had no desire to be engaged let alone be married. And if you were married she knew she had no input or deserved conversation about big life events.
Could anything have changed your mind? No. Could you have at least taken an hour to explain to her you got an offer and before you accepted you’d just run possible options by her ? Yeah. Would she still want to be in a LDR? Maybe , maybe not but you’ll never know.
Basically you came home and said a big fuck you I’m off to Ireland bye. She realized you’ve led her on just to be in a relationship w her and the talk of engagement or marriage has been a lie the whole time.
I agree with you and your husband says it is selfish to have a child when there are a lot of kids without parents. So then why not adopt one of those kids in the US? They are just as orphaned as other kids in Asia
Ewww literally eww what on this Gods green earth would someone almost 30 be doing with a teenager.
Jesus. Can these men not handle women their own age because they have standards?
So they go after young girls who can't even drink legally and settle for well it's legal so I'm not doing anything wrong?
OP wtf do yall have in common?
What do you connect over? You going to college and him getting ready to talk about kids and marriage?
Do your parents approve of this relationship?
Where do you see this relationship going?
Has he dated younger women in the past?
Why did he say he thought you being 18 wasn't fucking weird for him?
I can bet you unless he has creepy fucking friends people our age generally find a dude that's 27 dating a literal teenager gross nd predatory.
You have zero life experience. Im sorry to be harsh but you don't. This man can mold you into anything he wants and that's probably why he's out thinking its okay dating someone near a decade younger than him that's basically just out of high school.
You cheated.
You strung her along w the idea of engagement even though she knew of possible med school abroad. Suddenly you told her you accepted and you’re going to Ireland w o even discussing it first. Not that you’d be asking permission or that your outcome would be different. But because you’re (were) in a committed relationship and big decisions like this deserves at least a conversation before accepting. You both knew you’d go but when you accepted so fast then told her she knew in that moment you had no desire to be engaged let alone be married. And if you were married she knew she had no input or deserved conversation about big life events.
Could anything have changed your mind? No. Could you have at least taken an hour to explain to her you got an offer and before you accepted you’d just run possible options by her ? Yeah. Would she still want to be in a LDR? Maybe , maybe not but you’ll never know.
Basically you came home and said a big fuck you I’m off to Ireland bye. She realized you’ve led her on just to be in a relationship w her and the talk of engagement or marriage has been a lie the whole time.
I agree with you and your husband says it is selfish to have a child when there are a lot of kids without parents. So then why not adopt one of those kids in the US? They are just as orphaned as other kids in Asia
he told me that it feels like I’m older than I actually am…
That's like creep hitting on minor 101; if he was into that he would be actually hitting on older girls
Just wait until it happens to you when you are so in love. Dont be trashy. Keep your mitts off of other peoples men.
Ewww literally eww what on this Gods green earth would someone almost 30 be doing with a teenager.
Jesus. Can these men not handle women their own age because they have standards?
So they go after young girls who can't even drink legally and settle for well it's legal so I'm not doing anything wrong?
OP wtf do yall have in common?
What do you connect over? You going to college and him getting ready to talk about kids and marriage?
Do your parents approve of this relationship?
Where do you see this relationship going?
Has he dated younger women in the past?
Why did he say he thought you being 18 wasn't fucking weird for him?
I can bet you unless he has creepy fucking friends people our age generally find a dude that's 27 dating a literal teenager gross nd predatory.
You have zero life experience. Im sorry to be harsh but you don't. This man can mold you into anything he wants and that's probably why he's out thinking its okay dating someone near a decade younger than him that's basically just out of high school.
Fucking hell.