Feels like I’m the only one that sees the girlfriend’s side to all of this.
My girlfriend went through the same thing. Her ex committed suicide, blamed it on her and he was abusive. She cried for days over him. I was there, but how do you act? Tell me OP, how do you both support her and also make her see she was and is being manipulated, even after his death.
She would tell me stories about him for weeks and months afterwards. I figured it out by then, go talk to your therapist. Don’t emotionally dump your abusive ex’s trauma onto me and expect me to SYMPATHISE. I don’t give a fuck.
Well I did my best, but I never saw my girlfriend the same way. I love her to death, but nope. I left her after she healed. She still messages me to this day.
Feels like I’m the only one that sees the girlfriend’s side to all of this.
My girlfriend went through the same thing. Her ex committed suicide, blamed it on her and he was abusive. She cried for days over him. I was there, but how do you act? Tell me OP, how do you both support her and also make her see she was and is being manipulated, even after his death.
She would tell me stories about him for weeks and months afterwards. I figured it out by then, go talk to your therapist. Don’t emotionally dump your abusive ex’s trauma onto me and expect me to SYMPATHISE. I don’t give a fuck.
Well I did my best, but I never saw my girlfriend the same way. I love her to death, but nope. I left her after she healed. She still messages me to this day.
Sort your own shit out and stop trauma dumping.
I feel a bit better after reading this. So sorry that you lost your parents..I’m really grateful for your advice. Thank you so much for this