Gotcha. I mean, I think my girlfriend comes before most people but context matters. If I've been spending a week with her and I want some alone time, or my cousin has hurt themselves and needs me to help them, or a friend wants to hang out at a cafe for lunch etc etc, then… I can allocate my pretense and time among multiple people without it being a contest.
Tbh I think the concept of me not being ready for a relationship is strange, because I am comfortable going away somewhere without my girlfriend, and I am comfortable with her doing the same. None the less, I appreciate your feedback.
I did just have a long talk with him and he reassured me about a lot of things, I'm still completely not over it but I'll try my best because ik it's childish but he does understand me thankfully
If it’s hit a point of resentment, it may be too late. Respect her wishes if that’s the case.
If it hasn’t hit a point of resentment, see what you can learn and put into practice.
But above it all, be willing to give her some space after making it clear you regret the disconnect and what you’ve done to cause it, then give her space if she has asked for it. When she does come back, listen to what she says. Don’t defend yourself, or try and explain, just listen and take it in. If she comes back, this is your opportunity to try and understand and try and connect. Good luck, here or in the future
Hey. I did exactly this. I was very straightforward. Once he picked the phone up off the floor, it was an enthusiastic yes. It worked great until he caught feelings. But. It’s 15 years later and we are still friends. Go for it.
It's a bad financial decision buying a house without being married… In case you break up it becomes a nightmare selling it. If he or you passes away half the ownership changes to his or your family.. which becomes another Nightmare. If he wants to buy it alone before getting married, is his only…
Thinking about her faking it with me is what hurts and bothers me. Were almost on level about seeing the situation similarly. What would you have done in this situation? Would you have trusted her and went on with the relationship. Should I trust her? Would I be wrong in doing so?
Why don’t you video chat?
I'm 36 and I go biking with a 15 year old and a 51 year old. The 15 year olds mum drives us up the mountain and we bike down.
Nothing wrong with platonic friendships of any age.
If it's not platonic however it is beyond F'd up
Im sorry for this abuse.
Consider therapy!
Fully list the details of an extremely traumatic event and ATTACK a dude with a gun???? What?????
Pretty naked to know what to say without any ages
FK PROSTITES AND FK NO FAP! MY LIFE IS RUINED BECAUSE OF THOSE 2!
Ok, I agree with that
Gotcha. I mean, I think my girlfriend comes before most people but context matters. If I've been spending a week with her and I want some alone time, or my cousin has hurt themselves and needs me to help them, or a friend wants to hang out at a cafe for lunch etc etc, then… I can allocate my pretense and time among multiple people without it being a contest.
Tbh I think the concept of me not being ready for a relationship is strange, because I am comfortable going away somewhere without my girlfriend, and I am comfortable with her doing the same. None the less, I appreciate your feedback.
I did just have a long talk with him and he reassured me about a lot of things, I'm still completely not over it but I'll try my best because ik it's childish but he does understand me thankfully
If it’s hit a point of resentment, it may be too late. Respect her wishes if that’s the case.
If it hasn’t hit a point of resentment, see what you can learn and put into practice.
But above it all, be willing to give her some space after making it clear you regret the disconnect and what you’ve done to cause it, then give her space if she has asked for it. When she does come back, listen to what she says. Don’t defend yourself, or try and explain, just listen and take it in. If she comes back, this is your opportunity to try and understand and try and connect. Good luck, here or in the future
I think OP should verify it at least, in case the father is just SAYING that she knows
Hey. I did exactly this. I was very straightforward. Once he picked the phone up off the floor, it was an enthusiastic yes. It worked great until he caught feelings. But. It’s 15 years later and we are still friends. Go for it.
“Jokes” hurt. He is a very insecure man. Tell him his jokes are a direct insult to you, assuming you were unfaithful.
I have 6 brothers. They're not discreet.
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I'd be curious to know what places these are as for most places without a formal adoption a step parent has no obligation to former stepkids.
Spousal support would be likely in the places that have it.
It's a bad financial decision buying a house without being married… In case you break up it becomes a nightmare selling it. If he or you passes away half the ownership changes to his or your family.. which becomes another Nightmare. If he wants to buy it alone before getting married, is his only…
So better don't.
Good luck
Yes. You have to have safe signals!!
What you should say is that you're done with the relationship
Only 3? You did well…
Threatening to break up in order to get him to listen is straight up manipulative.
Breaks trust over and over means he really is not into you. You are being played bad, OP
Thinking about her faking it with me is what hurts and bothers me. Were almost on level about seeing the situation similarly. What would you have done in this situation? Would you have trusted her and went on with the relationship. Should I trust her? Would I be wrong in doing so?