It sucks that she used you for sex but what were you expecting? Who randomly fucks someone while drunk without any build up and expects it’s going to go somewhere? If you are being honest with yourself, and actually want nothing but a relationship, then you have a lot to learn about how to start one. This was not the way and I think you know that. As for her, the friendship is over. I wouldn’t go telling everyone unless they asked but I’d surly tell the guy she is seeing as he deserves to know what kind of person he is dating. She’s a terrible person.
It sucks that she used you for sex but what were you expecting? Who randomly fucks someone while drunk without any build up and expects it’s going to go somewhere? If you are being honest with yourself, and actually want nothing but a relationship, then you have a lot to learn about how to start one. This was not the way and I think you know that. As for her, the friendship is over. I wouldn’t go telling everyone unless they asked but I’d surly tell the guy she is seeing as he deserves to know what kind of person he is dating. She’s a terrible person.
Then consult a lawyer for your best inmediate options. Take action about it asap.
You said she's not on the lease, I dont see a problem there but of course im not savvy into American laws.
Since you are both retired can you on-line half the year in one place and the other half in the town you online in now?
Everything chaos over one damn ring?
As gay guy, let her nc. She had zero reason why she wanted a ring before her transition.
What got her interested in your grandma’s ring? Just tradition?