What happens when someone communicates interest in you is you turn them down and you don’t want consider the friendship with them. Out of respect for your partner. It seems you continue to build some sort of friendship with this person. It could probably be confusing and some mixed messages. If someone was to slide and message me telling you they like me I will tell them no thank you I have a girlfriend, and if they didn’t respect it, I remove them from my life without being told.
I am also a very touchy person. Touch is my language. However, you sound like me when I was 19. Touch is also a means of justification to open doors and give comfort. Touch without boundaries is dangerous and unacceptable in a relationship. You need to set boundaries of touch of is it is not acceptable and what is OK. I don’t walk in and give my coworkers hugs. In a professional setting, I might shake your hand. I have very few female friends that I would give a hug to. The ones that I would, have been strictly friends since childhood. Any partner I have ever had has known this.
Right now you were learning what commitment actually means. Today we online in a world when we can just talk to anybody at any time. Anybody can reach out to us and we can look for comfort anywhere we see fit. Unfortunately, that is the opposite of commitment. if you truly are committed to a relationship, you don’t enjoy those conversations with other people who are interested in you. You don’t begin to crave things from other people. When you are committed you establish boundaries and you hold firm to them and you see a relationship to the end, knowing that you and her did not work out because you and her we’re not compatible. This does not happen anymore. As soon as someone feels there unhappy they just MoveOn. It’s everyone’s right to do that but it’s also destroying the world. We live! in as far as relationships.
If you’re committed to your girlfriend, stop your crap. If you’re not committed to her, let her find somebody who will be committed to her. You are having micro affairs with this person.
This is a man who doesn't see women as people. He sees them as a way to fulfill his desires and fantasies.
For him, since you wouldn't fulfill his desire to have public sex, you are essentially a broken product. He's treating you like a car he bought that isn't starting or something. He's thinking “I got this girlfriend, and also spent money on her, WTF is going on, she's supposed to now do whatever I want sexually at any time!!!” Also he clearly doesn't understand women, as while I can't be sure, I am pretty sure not many are intentionally going on vacation with one guy just to ignore him so they can I guess get off on being looked at by other guys? That's just dumb, and another example of how he sees women only as sex objects, as every action you take MUST be somehow sex related.
He doesn't see you as a person, or someone that has independent thoughts, feelings, needs. You're just a product that should give him the output he needs with the right input.
What's crazy is how over the top it is too. It's not even like he was hoping for sex and didn't get it. You two were having sex!
I don't think this omission will result in issues when brought to light. He might feel ways about it, but he loves you and has supported you through all this: I'd wager they do the same in this situation as well.
If you're marrying someone, you should be able to tell them anything. Try to do it in the spirit of sharing: not in getting it off your chest.
You don't owe them this knowledge, but it is an opportunity for them to know you better. Try to focus on that when you tell them.
Feelings are valid, and breaks are breaks. Both can be true at the same time.
I hate to say this, you have boundary issues.
What happens when someone communicates interest in you is you turn them down and you don’t want consider the friendship with them. Out of respect for your partner. It seems you continue to build some sort of friendship with this person. It could probably be confusing and some mixed messages. If someone was to slide and message me telling you they like me I will tell them no thank you I have a girlfriend, and if they didn’t respect it, I remove them from my life without being told.
I am also a very touchy person. Touch is my language. However, you sound like me when I was 19. Touch is also a means of justification to open doors and give comfort. Touch without boundaries is dangerous and unacceptable in a relationship. You need to set boundaries of touch of is it is not acceptable and what is OK. I don’t walk in and give my coworkers hugs. In a professional setting, I might shake your hand. I have very few female friends that I would give a hug to. The ones that I would, have been strictly friends since childhood. Any partner I have ever had has known this.
Right now you were learning what commitment actually means. Today we online in a world when we can just talk to anybody at any time. Anybody can reach out to us and we can look for comfort anywhere we see fit. Unfortunately, that is the opposite of commitment. if you truly are committed to a relationship, you don’t enjoy those conversations with other people who are interested in you. You don’t begin to crave things from other people. When you are committed you establish boundaries and you hold firm to them and you see a relationship to the end, knowing that you and her did not work out because you and her we’re not compatible. This does not happen anymore. As soon as someone feels there unhappy they just MoveOn. It’s everyone’s right to do that but it’s also destroying the world. We live! in as far as relationships.
If you’re committed to your girlfriend, stop your crap. If you’re not committed to her, let her find somebody who will be committed to her. You are having micro affairs with this person.
This is a man who doesn't see women as people. He sees them as a way to fulfill his desires and fantasies.
For him, since you wouldn't fulfill his desire to have public sex, you are essentially a broken product. He's treating you like a car he bought that isn't starting or something. He's thinking “I got this girlfriend, and also spent money on her, WTF is going on, she's supposed to now do whatever I want sexually at any time!!!” Also he clearly doesn't understand women, as while I can't be sure, I am pretty sure not many are intentionally going on vacation with one guy just to ignore him so they can I guess get off on being looked at by other guys? That's just dumb, and another example of how he sees women only as sex objects, as every action you take MUST be somehow sex related.
He doesn't see you as a person, or someone that has independent thoughts, feelings, needs. You're just a product that should give him the output he needs with the right input.
What's crazy is how over the top it is too. It's not even like he was hoping for sex and didn't get it. You two were having sex!
Sex is not a fucking gift or nice gesture.
I don't think this omission will result in issues when brought to light. He might feel ways about it, but he loves you and has supported you through all this: I'd wager they do the same in this situation as well.
If you're marrying someone, you should be able to tell them anything. Try to do it in the spirit of sharing: not in getting it off your chest.
You don't owe them this knowledge, but it is an opportunity for them to know you better. Try to focus on that when you tell them.