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What do you mean by “distract”? Its called following up, you barely provide information then get annoyed someone draw conclusions/follow up on what you said. She's not asking if you suddenly grew wing, or that you wont be driving to work because you lost your job . It's a completely normal follow-up. That's just how the human brain is wired, if you don't want those “distractions”, then don't leave room for follow up questions. Say: “I will not be taking the car to work tomorrow as the parking situation is too annoying, so I will walk or take the bus to work”, she assume because you're not communicating clearly. And then you have the audacity to be annoyed at her?
Your wife set the rules and you agreed. If you don't feel right obeying the rules with your current target then just find another partner.
But don't break the rules your wife set. Telling her you're thinking of having sex with an old family friends could really mess your wife up and ruin that relationship.
You do both. You accept that this is who and how he is and leave. You two do not sound compatible and do you really want to put your professional life at risk? Also, having to do all of the planning for outings and vacations? Sounds too much like being a mom for a grown man,
After reading your comments, it’s clear that you want to ignore the glaring red flags (the grooming, the baby trapping, the merged finances, the quick moving in, you being a bang maid). You don’t seem to want advice becsuse literally the only advice is to stay and become her nanny along with her maid, or leave. Back rubs, sex, and Brooklyn 99 are not a good reason to stay with this person. Your showing just how 19 you are by thinking you should stay in this fucked up relationship.
Look up Not Just Friends by Shirley Glass next. If she’s all in on doing what she must, read it together. It’s the book on healthy boundaries. These are the top two books in the recovery library in the sub I pointed you to.
I really hope you were meeting him at the date location tomorrow and he wasn't picking you up from your house. If you were going to meet him there, I would tell him that you don't use read receipts and have changed your mind about the date. If he was going to pick you up, I would say the same, but also not be home and respond with “oh I didn't give you my real address, that wouldn't be safe – take care.”
The same stood out to me. Ten texts is unreasonable, controlling and intrusive. I'm speaking as someone with a deep fear of abandonment due to parental abuse. You are in unhealthy territory my friend and being a toxic partner. You can change with help from someone with trauma experience to help you learn more productive and healthier coping mechanisms. I see your pain. It hurts. There is help. Your current behaviour isn't the solution and isn't okay.
If he can’t accept you getting a single piecing imagine how he would be with other life decisions… dump this loser and find someone who is a real partner and accepts that you are your own person.
Talk with a family lawyer. Find out the specific that will help your case. Start a log of what happened, when the bio-mother left, when she has attempted contact, etc. Only have communication with her through written sources, e.g., email, text, and save those for evidence. Keep any voicemails also.
If your child is in school/daycare, ensure they are aware that the bio-mother is not allowed to pick-up your child. Ensure you list the people that are allowed, to prevent her from attempting to send someone else and saying they are picking her up for “her mother”.
Would you give a second chance to a person who betrayed your trust?
No.
Have you ever done it?
No.
Should it be done under a certain circumstance? Even if this person shows remorse?
Well you definitely shouldn't do it if they don't show remorse. But if they do it's up to you to decide whether or not to give them a second chance. There's no objectively correct answer.
Personally, in your situation I would not advise you to do so. Take it from someone more than twice your age, you're still very young, not even a fully-legal adult yet, and you just met her a month ago (I know it feels like “a lot”, but that's due to your youth and comparative inexperience). You don't need this. Be glad you saw her true side this early, and cut your losses and move on with your life.
She's a big girl, she can handle her own life. Whether or not you cut her off is up to you, but I certainly wouldn't want to be around people like that.
Take your time to absorb this. You’re in shock and need to process what you learned. You know you cannot stay with this man. He put your health in jeopardy and that is unforgivable.
Thank you for your input, I feel like sometimes people need someone to honestly answer their “Am I overreacting?” question so they can calm down. Cause I do agree that this was something small and insignificant in the grand scheme of things, but like the human I am, I chose to blow up about it because it was something important to me. I’ll take this into consideration when I talk to him.
What do you mean by “distract”? Its called following up, you barely provide information then get annoyed someone draw conclusions/follow up on what you said. She's not asking if you suddenly grew wing, or that you wont be driving to work because you lost your job . It's a completely normal follow-up. That's just how the human brain is wired, if you don't want those “distractions”, then don't leave room for follow up questions. Say: “I will not be taking the car to work tomorrow as the parking situation is too annoying, so I will walk or take the bus to work”, she assume because you're not communicating clearly. And then you have the audacity to be annoyed at her?
Your wife set the rules and you agreed. If you don't feel right obeying the rules with your current target then just find another partner.
But don't break the rules your wife set. Telling her you're thinking of having sex with an old family friends could really mess your wife up and ruin that relationship.
You do both. You accept that this is who and how he is and leave. You two do not sound compatible and do you really want to put your professional life at risk? Also, having to do all of the planning for outings and vacations? Sounds too much like being a mom for a grown man,
After reading your comments, it’s clear that you want to ignore the glaring red flags (the grooming, the baby trapping, the merged finances, the quick moving in, you being a bang maid). You don’t seem to want advice becsuse literally the only advice is to stay and become her nanny along with her maid, or leave. Back rubs, sex, and Brooklyn 99 are not a good reason to stay with this person. Your showing just how 19 you are by thinking you should stay in this fucked up relationship.
Please don't ignore your mental health, go to your doctor and seek a diagnosis.
He’s not 19…he’s 25
Look up Not Just Friends by Shirley Glass next. If she’s all in on doing what she must, read it together. It’s the book on healthy boundaries. These are the top two books in the recovery library in the sub I pointed you to.
Damn!
Did your husband know it was his nephew the whole time? Or this is new info to him too?
I really hope you were meeting him at the date location tomorrow and he wasn't picking you up from your house. If you were going to meet him there, I would tell him that you don't use read receipts and have changed your mind about the date. If he was going to pick you up, I would say the same, but also not be home and respond with “oh I didn't give you my real address, that wouldn't be safe – take care.”
The same stood out to me. Ten texts is unreasonable, controlling and intrusive. I'm speaking as someone with a deep fear of abandonment due to parental abuse. You are in unhealthy territory my friend and being a toxic partner. You can change with help from someone with trauma experience to help you learn more productive and healthier coping mechanisms. I see your pain. It hurts. There is help. Your current behaviour isn't the solution and isn't okay.
If he can’t accept you getting a single piecing imagine how he would be with other life decisions… dump this loser and find someone who is a real partner and accepts that you are your own person.
Hmm
if he’s telling the truth, what’s the issue? It is a real possibility .
Gaslighting 101 lol.
Man, I just read a post earlier about how older people are more mature so age gaps matter yet here's one acting like a chikd.
why do you need to be in person to tell her?
Age gap we meet again.
Plus sometimes cats are just assholes. We got ours as a kitten when my dog was like 8 and she still messes with her ??♀️
Yeah I think everything is fake but this one doesn’t seem that unlikely.
masturbating everyday? uh…
Talk with a family lawyer. Find out the specific that will help your case. Start a log of what happened, when the bio-mother left, when she has attempted contact, etc. Only have communication with her through written sources, e.g., email, text, and save those for evidence. Keep any voicemails also.
If your child is in school/daycare, ensure they are aware that the bio-mother is not allowed to pick-up your child. Ensure you list the people that are allowed, to prevent her from attempting to send someone else and saying they are picking her up for “her mother”.
You will if you ever date someone who has this particular problem it's very common and yes it is largely based on insecurity.
This is such a disordered way of thinking. Because two weeks four weeks red fish blue fish—none of that matters.
ZERO is the number you deserve.
I highly suggest you guys look up the bearded dietitian on Facebook and YouTube he is super great and the food is very affordable and good as well
Would you give a second chance to a person who betrayed your trust?
No.
Have you ever done it?
No.
Should it be done under a certain circumstance? Even if this person shows remorse?
Well you definitely shouldn't do it if they don't show remorse. But if they do it's up to you to decide whether or not to give them a second chance. There's no objectively correct answer.
Personally, in your situation I would not advise you to do so. Take it from someone more than twice your age, you're still very young, not even a fully-legal adult yet, and you just met her a month ago (I know it feels like “a lot”, but that's due to your youth and comparative inexperience). You don't need this. Be glad you saw her true side this early, and cut your losses and move on with your life.
Wear a Brown Shirt to the wedding.
She's a big girl, she can handle her own life. Whether or not you cut her off is up to you, but I certainly wouldn't want to be around people like that.
You can take your number with you. I did it from my old family plan to my wife and I's plan.
Fuck that noise. There is a code.
Take your time to absorb this. You’re in shock and need to process what you learned. You know you cannot stay with this man. He put your health in jeopardy and that is unforgivable.
Thank you for your input, I feel like sometimes people need someone to honestly answer their “Am I overreacting?” question so they can calm down. Cause I do agree that this was something small and insignificant in the grand scheme of things, but like the human I am, I chose to blow up about it because it was something important to me. I’ll take this into consideration when I talk to him.